Living
Queery: Richard Legg
20 questions for the Destiny B. Childs performer


Richard Legg (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Capital Pride this year was a double whammy for Richard Legg, who performs as Destiny B. Childs. He was named a Capital Pride hero ā an honor given to only a handful of community leaders each year ā and also won the Miss Capital Pride title in his first year competing in the event.
“It was an honor above anything else,” the 32-year-old Pensacola, Fla., native says. “Especially the hero. It wasn’t something I ever tried to get. I just did what I did and was who I am and by doing that, the Capital Pride Alliance honored me. When I got the e-mail, I cried.”
Legg joined the Army just before he finished high school as a jab at his father, with whom he was angry after a nasty divorce with his mom. It had the opposite effect and Legg spent eight years working mostly as a medical supply specialist at Walter Reed. He soon met another gay soldier who introduced him to Dupont Circle, Remington’s and more and soon he was at Tracks every Saturday night. Were there many gays in the Army?
“Surprisingly yes,” Legg says. “As soon as I didn’t keep quiet anymore, they started coming out of the woodwork. I didn’t really make a big announcement, but I just said, ‘These are the clubs where I go. They’re really fun. You should come.'”
Legg’s had a full-time government job since 2004, just a year after he first did drag. He’d been Mr. Remington’s that year but there was a “turnabout” night and the guy performers and the drag queens flip-flopped. He was so convincing in drag and enjoyed it, that his drag mother, Ophelia Bottoms (Charles McWilliams), encouraged him to stick with it. He did and now performs every Sunday night at Freddie’s and most weekends at Ziegfeld’s and at the Academy. Legg guesses he has about 300 dresses and 50 wigs. “It’s one thing if you just want to do a number every once in awhile, but if you really want to perform regularly and compete for titles, you have to put money into it.”

Destiny B. Childs (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
He met his husband, Rudy Benavides, 10 years ago at Dave and Buster’s. They had a commitment ceremony in 2003 but are getting legally married this year. They live together on North Capitol Street and enjoy the local gay leather community and hanging out with their drag pals when they have down time.
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have been out since I was 20 and my mother was the hardest person to tell. She did not take it well and we did not talk for two years. But she has accepted me and my life and we are very close again.
Who’s your gay hero?
Carl Rizzi (Mame Dennis). Carl has been through a lot in his lifetime and he always fought for what he believes in and it shows. He’s successfully run the Academy for more than 45 years!
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?
Freddies Beach Bar, Ziegfeldās, Motley Bar
What’s your dream gay wedding?
To marry the love of my life!
What non-gay issue are you most passionate about?
Education! I feel that everyone should be given an opportunity to be able to continue his or her education beyond high school. There are tons of people out there who really cannot afford college but want to go. I wish there was an easy way to allow them to go.
What historical outcome would you change?
Honestly, nothing. Everything that has happened in the past is what has gotten us to where we are today and made us who we are today as a nation. Changing anything could alter society in a way we might not be happy with.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Cherās final 10 tours.
On what do you insist?
I insist on everybody following their dreams and believing in themselves.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
LOL ⦠I am at work and exhausted!!!
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
“Lipstick and Paint, Makes a Man What He Aināt: The life of a Drag Queen”
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
Nothing really, except be happy for those could take advantage of this discovery and be able to live their life the way they feel.
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?
Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. In him all things are possible. He watches over us everyday, although he tests us from time to time. He loves us all equally.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Donāt stop fighting! We will always stand behind you!
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My family. Both blood family and drag/gay family.
What gay stereotype annoys you most?
Simply the fact that gay people are different and wrong. We are the same as anyone else and we love and hurt like everyone else.
What’s your favorite gay movie?
“Beautiful Thing”
What’s the most overrated social custom?
Phone calls. People are very busy and I get so annoyed when you run into someone you haven’t talked to in a long time and they say, āYou never call!ā Well first of all, the phone works both ways. Secondly, people are busy and sometimes donāt think about a call or even have the time to have a conversation! E-mail and text messages work wonders!
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
My husband and kids, both my stepdaughter and my drag kids! Without them I would be lost. I love and cherish all my kids and thank God everyday for them in my lives. If I had to choose one award or title, it would be āMother of the Year.ā
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
Everything I know now!
Why Washington?
I was stationed here at Walter Reed back in 1996 while I was in the U.S. Army and I fell in love with the city. I vowed I would never leave and I am not going anywhere.
Autos
Sporty sedans: BMW 530i xDrive, Mercedes AMG CLA 3
Tariffs are here and the result is financial chaos

Itās official: Tariffs are here, and the result is financial chaos.
So, what to do when purchasing a new vehicle? If you need one in the not-so-distant future, buy sooner (like yesterday) rather than later. Expect prices to rise quickly, as inventory dwindles, demand soars, and automaker incentives evaporate. Of course, if a new ride isnāt a priority for at least a year or three, then hold off until the dust settles.
But for those of you looking for new wheels now, I recently drove two sport sedans that were a pleasant reprieve from the usual plethora of pickups, minivans, and SUVs.
BMW 530i xDRIVE
$63,000
MPG: 28 city/35 highway
0 to 60 mph: 5.5 seconds
Cargo space: 18.4 cu. ft.
PROS: Rakish looks. Race-car vibe. Rock-star amenities.
CONS: Rad-but-quirky infotainment system. Rich price.
IN A NUTSHELL: Classic good looks, from the iconic grille and swept-back headlights to chiseled side panels and a tasteful tush. For a gearhead like me, the BMW 530i xDrive ā completely redesigned last year ā is as rapturous as Michelangeloās David. Everything here is in proportion, from the design to the drivetrain, which ā along with a gutsy 255-hp turbo and all-wheel drive ā helps deliver a divine experience behind the wheel. Even better, my test car came equipped with the heavenly M-Sport Package: 21-inch wheels, athletic suspension, and assorted styling upgrades.
A tech-laden cabin is outfitted with a sparkly 12.3-inch digital instrument cluster and 14.9-inch touchscreen infotainment system. With the windshield head-up display and a slew of knobs and toggle switches in the center console and on the steering wheel, I wondered if this is how it feels to pilot the Space Shuttle. There is even a back-lit interaction bar with touch-sensitive controls to adjust vent direction and other climate control settings.
All this gadgetry takes some getting used to, but the overall effect is dazzling. While a 12-speaker Harman Kardon stereo comes standard, I was jamminā to the 16-speaker Bowers & Wilkins premium audio. Of course, such options add up quickly (on my test car, the extras totaled $13,000).
Just how fun is this car? In my favorite episode of āHacks,ā sassy Jean Smart drives a rockinā Rolls Royce Wraith. Trust me, this four-door BMW is every bit the badass as that $300,000 super coupe.
MERCEDES AMG CLA 35

$58,000
MPG: 22 city/29 highway
0 to 60 mph: 4.8 seconds
Cargo space: 11.6 cu. ft.
PROS: Slick styling. Spiffy cabin. Sublime seats.
CONS: Smallish trunk. So-so rear headroom and legroom.
IN A NUTSHELL: Need a smaller sedan thatās just as marvy as the midsize BMW i530? Look no further than the compact Mercedes CLA-Class, which is 14 inches shorter. Thatās a benefit when jockeying for parking or navigating rush hour.
Another plus: This is Mercedesās least expensive sedan, available in three trim levels. All come with the same potent turbo but in varying power levels. The base model starts at $46,000, but I tested the first of two high-performance versions: the AMG CLA 35, which costs $12,000 more. You can open your wallet even further to snag the $67,000 AMG CLA 45.
But why bother? The AMG CLA 35 is plenty quick ā faster than the BMW i530 ā and boasts sport-tuned brakes, deft handling and a gritty-sounding exhaust system. The laundry list of standard features includes all-wheel drive, automated parking, gobs of the latest safety gizmos and even something called āsafe-exit assist,ā which prevents passengers from opening a door into traffic or speeding cyclists.
The interior is pure Mercedes, with top-notch materials, customizable ambient lighting and Burmester surround-sound audio. The overall layoutāsleek and modern, but with elegant stitching in the seats and on the door panels and dashboardāis comfortable and user-friendly. Digital displays and touchscreens are similar to whatās in the BMW i530, just smaller.
Size matters, of course, which is why this vehicleās shorter length can be a blessing but also a curse, especially when trying to squeeze passengers with longer legs into the backseats. And the dramatically sloped roofline, attractive from the outside, limits the amount of rear headroom and cargo space. Thank the automotive gods for panoramic sunroofs, whichāat least for anyone in the front seatsāmakes this cabin feel surprisingly spacious.
Real Estate
Spring updates to sell your home for pride and profit
Consider new landscaping, power washing, creative staging

Selling a home is a big deal for anyone, but for members of the LGBTQ+ community, it comes with unique considerationsāfrom finding affirming professionals to ensuring your home is represented in a way that reflects your values. Whether youāre a first-time gay home seller or a seasoned LGBTQ+ homeowner looking to move up, maximizing your homeās value is key to a successful and empowering sale.
Hereās how to prepare your home, your mindset, and your real estate strategy to get the most valueāfinancially and emotionallyāfrom your home sale.
1. Start with an LGBTQ+-Friendly Real Estate Agent
Before diving into renovations or staging, make sure your agent truly understands your needs. A gay-friendly or LGBTQ+-affirming real estate agent brings more than just market expertiseāthey bring cultural competence, safety awareness, and a network that supports you throughout the selling process.
At GayRealEstate.com, you can find experienced, vetted LGBTQ+ real estate agents who have been proudly serving the community for over 30 years. Working with someone who shares or supports your identity ensures your selling journey is respectful, inclusive, and effective.
2. Enhance Curb AppealāWith a Welcoming Vibe
The outside of your home is the first impression a potential buyer gets. Make it countāespecially for LGBTQ+ buyers looking for a home that feels safe and welcoming.
- Fresh landscaping: Add colorful flowers, neatly trimmed shrubs, or low-maintenance greenery to appeal to eco-conscious buyers.
- Update the entrance: A new front door, stylish lighting, or even a rainbow doormat can make your home feel like a safe space from the start.
- Clean and repair: Power wash the exterior, touch up paint, and make any necessary repairs to gutters, windows, or siding.
3. Stage with Intention and Inclusivity
Home staging can add thousands to your sale price. But beyond the usual decluttering and neutral palettes, think about how your space tells a storyāand who itās telling it to.
- Create a warm, inclusive feel: Subtle touches like LGBTQ+ art, books, or even coffee table magazines can show off your personality and affirm the space for queer buyers.
- Depersonalizeābut donāt erase: You donāt need to hide your identity to appeal to buyers. Let your home feel lived in and lovedāwhile still being a blank canvas others can imagine themselves in.
- Highlight multi-use areas: Home offices, gender-neutral nurseries, or flex spaces resonate with LGBTQ+ families and professionals.
4. Update Kitchens and Bathrooms Strategically
These rooms matter most to buyersāand even small updates can yield big returns.
- Kitchen: New cabinet hardware, a fresh backsplash, and modern lighting can elevate the entire room without a full remodel.
- Bathroom: Replace old fixtures, re-caulk tubs and sinks, and add plush towels and inclusive dƩcor.
- Energy-efficient upgrades: Touchless faucets, smart appliances, or low-flow toilets are not only trendyāthey signal sustainability, which matters to LGBTQ+ buyers.
5. Make Your Home More Energy Efficient
LGBTQ+ homebuyers often prioritize sustainability. These updates not only reduce energy bills but make your home more marketable.
- Install a smart thermostat (like Nest or Ecobee)
- Upgrade insulation or windows
- Consider solar panels (especially in sun-drenched regions like California or Florida)
Bonus: You may qualify for state or federal tax credits, which can be a great selling point.
6. Know and Advocate for LGBTQ+ Housing Rights
Although housing discrimination is illegal under the Fair Housing Act, it still happens. As an LGBTQ+ seller, be aware of your rightsāand those of potential buyers.
- Avoid steering or bias: Even with good intentions, make sure youāre not inadvertently influencing who views or buys your home based on identity.
- Work with affirming professionals: From inspectors to lenders, choose partners who support inclusive practices.
- Report discrimination: If you or a buyer encounters bias, report it to HUD or your local housing authority.
7. Price Your Home Rightāand Market It Smartly
Setting the right price is essential to maximizing value. Your LGBTQ+-friendly agent can run a comparative market analysis, considering current trends and buyer demographics.
- Leverage LGBTQ+ real estate networks: Promote your home through platforms like GayRealEstate.com to reach an audience that understands and values your space.
- Use inclusive language in listings: Avoid gendered terms or heteronormative assumptions. Instead of “his and hers closets,” use “dual walk-ins” or “double closets.”
- High-quality photos and video tours: Showcase your home with professional, visually inclusive marketing that appeals to diverse buyers.
8. Consider Timing and Local LGBTQ+ Trends
Selling during WorldPride or just before local LGBTQ+ events may boost visibility. Also consider if you’re in or near an LGBTQ+ friendly city or neighborhood.
Not sure which areas are top destinations? GayRelocation.com tracks and shares the best cities for LGBTQ+ homebuyers, helping you tap into motivated buyers.
Final Thought: Sell with Confidenceāand Community
Selling your home isnāt just about getting top dollarāitās about closing a chapter with pride and integrity. When you center your values, work with LGBTQ+ affirming experts, and prepare your home with purpose, youāre not just maximizing your homeās valueāyouāre creating an empowering experience for yourself and the next owner.
Whether you’re buying, selling, or bothāGayRealEstate.com is your trusted partner in every step of your journey. With a nationwide network of gay and lesbian realtors, decades of experience, and deep community ties, we ensure your home transition is safe, smart, and full of pride.
GayRealEstate.com is the nationās leading online platform connecting LGBTQ+ home buyers and sellers with LGBTQ+ friendly real estate agents, ensuring a safe and supportive experience.
Scott Helms is president of GayRealEstate.com. To find an agent or learn more, visitĀ GayRealEstate.com, GayRelocation.com or call 1-888-420-MOVE.
Real Estate
Navigating DMV real estate market during political unrest
Reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties

The Washington, D.C.-Maryland-Virginia (DMV) region has long been recognized for its robust housing market, underpinned by the presence of the federal government and a diverse economic landscape. Recent massive reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties, yet the area continues to offer compelling reasons for prospective homebuyers, particularly within diverse communities.
While the federal government has traditionally been a significant employer in the DMV, the region has proactively diversified its economic base. Sectors such as technology, professional services, education, and healthcare have expanded, mitigating the impact of federal job cuts. This diversification fosters some economic resilience, which offers our area a semblance of protection against the impending unknowns that we currently face. Nothing can shield real estate entirely; however, our area tends to survive these types of changes better than other parts of the country.
Despite concerns over federal layoffs, the DMV housing market has demonstrated notable stability. Analyses indicate that the number of active listings, sold properties, and median sales prices have remained steady on a year-over-year basis. This steadiness suggests that the market is adapting to changes without significant disruption.
Furthermore, while there has been a slight increase in home listings, this trend aligns with typical seasonal variations and does not solely reflect federal employment changes. The luxury property segment, in particular, continues to thrive, indicating sustained interest and investment in the region.
The DMV region is renowned for its cultural and demographic diversity, with areas like Montgomery County, Md., being among the most ethnically diverse in the nation. This inclusivity extends to various communities, including LGBTQ individuals, fostering a welcoming environment that enhances the areaās appeal. Even though the current administration is fostering anti-diversity ideology, I remain confident that our LGBTQ community will continue to thrive even as these destructive forces work against us.
Local governments within the DMV have implemented policies aimed at promoting affordable housing and preventing displacement, particularly in the wake of economic shifts. Initiatives like the Douglass Community Land Trust in Washington, D.C., exemplify efforts to maintain housing affordability and support community stability.
Additionally, jurisdictions such as Montgomery County have longstanding Moderately Priced Dwelling Unit (MPDU) programs that require developers to include affordable housing in new residential developments. These policies contribute to socioeconomically mixed neighborhoods, benefiting diverse populations.
Despite Elon Muskās brandishing of a chainsaw to the federal workforce, our real estate market continues to thrive. The DMV region maintains its appeal. Economic diversification, market stability, commitment to diversity and inclusion, and progressive housing policies collectively contribute to an environment that supports and attracts diverse communities. Prospective homebuyers can find reassurance in the regionās resilience and ongoing efforts to foster an inclusive and vibrant community. These are only a few among the many reasons to have a positive outlook while considering real estate options in our area.
It is important to consider working with brokerages, brokers, agents, lenders and title companies who align with our community and our objectives. Not all LGBTQ agents work for brokerages that support or understand the needs of the members of our community. Do your research and find out who has donated money to what political causes. Now more than ever we must support members of our community to protect our way of life and our very existence.
Stacey Williams-Zeiger is president/principal broker of Zeiger Realty Inc. Reach her at [email protected].
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