Living
Romantic Valentine’s gifts
Underwear, wine, chocolates and more to reward your mate

By MIKEY ROX
To help you pick the perfect gift for your sweetie this Valentine’s Day, here’s our list of wallet-friendly — and sometimes frisky ideas — that he or she will love to unwrap.
Kyle Underwear
There’s a bounty of underwear companies vying to cover your booty, but this year we’ve chosen one that’s reaching for the stars. Kyle’s recently released Sky collection features three-color combinations, all with blue hues. Made with a cotton and elastane blend, the briefs, boxer briefs, and jocks provide plenty of room upfront and full back coverage, making them easy to slip into and even easier to take off. ($18-$22; skiviez.com)
‘eCupid’ the Movie
From writer-director-producer JC Calciano (“Is It Just Me?”) comes this fluffy love story about bored-with-his-life Marshall who ends his relationship with his boyfriend of seven years and goes looking for love online. Entering a world he’s been unfamiliar with for so long, Marshall gets more than he bargained for until a mysterious waitress played by Morgan Fairchild shows up to set him straight. Not literally, of course. ($24.99; ecupidthemovie.com)
The Chocolate Cellar Wine
Before you pop in your newly purchased copy of “eCupid,” uncork a bottle of The Chocolate Cellar, a delicately balanced wine that features the aromas and flavors of candied cherry and decadent dark chocolate that unfold in layers across the palate, giving way to a long and lingering finish. Red wine lovers will enjoy this pleasing vino made from the finest vinifera grapes tinged with the taste of cocoa. ($12-$15; preceptwinebrands.com)
Royal Mink Heated Blanket
If you’re starting to notice a trend here – new undies, a festive film, a bottle of chocolate-laced wine – you’re right. Date night all snuggly and warm on the couch is almost complete with the Therapedic Deluxe Royal Mink Heated Blanket, an ultra-soft, 10-heat setting, oversized warming system of pure bliss. The blankets, available in three neutral colors – white, honey and chocolate – come with a five-year limited warranty, an innovative ComfortSet auto-off digital control, and an unofficial guarantee that something naughty will happen underneath. ($99-$129; bedbathandbeyond.com)
‘What I Love About You’
Many gifts come and go, but this guided journal where one partner is prompted by questions and fill-in-the-blanks about the other is a memory that will last a lifetime. Best-selling authors Kate and David Marshall created “What I Love About You” to celebrate love and offer a fresh way for couples to say those three special words to one another. Playful and tender, this is the ideal gift for the person in your life who makes your pulse race. It’s also super gay-friendly, too. A lesbian gender studies professor in Missouri approved of it enough to buy it and fill it out as a gift for her partner. ($11.19; amazon.com)
Bear Hugs & Kisses Chocolate Gift Box
Show your bear how much he means with this grizzly gift set that includes six individually wrapped milk, white and multicolor chocolate pops, delivered in an elegant gift box with an ivory embossed gift card. Each pop is handmade, and two are customizable with the message of your choice. Just keep it short and sweet; no need to make the chocolatiers blush. ($30.99; simplysweetarrangements.com)
‘I Love You’ Street Art
For the art lover in your life, iPhone photography pioneer Greg Schmigel is offering a limited-edition 16-by-20 print of genuine street art emblazoned with the words “I Love You” in cursive black paint on a bright-red brick wall, captured on New York City’s Lower East Side. Each print (there are only 50 available) will be signed and hand numbered by the artist himself. Schmigel, whose work includes a bevy of other thought-provoking pieces, has led the movement in iPhone photography (it’s almost unbelievable how photos taken on a tiny phone can be so brilliant) and has had his work adorn the walls of galleries in the United States, Spain, Italy, and Germany. ($150; jwisblog.tumblr.com)
KeepCup
If your cutie is a coffee lover, consider the KeepCup, an eco-conscious alternative to the disposable ones he or she tosses in the trash on a daily basis. It’s the world’s first barista-standard reusable coffee (or tea or hot chocolate) cup that’s available in four sizes – extra small (4 oz.), small (8 oz.), medium (12 oz.), and large (16 oz.) – and, get this, 25,000 color combinations. Portable and unbreakable, KeepCups are made of four interlocking components: the cup, the lid, the plug, and an insulating band where customers can etch their personal preferences for baristas so they know exactly what you want when you want it. ($8.50-$14.20; keepcup.com)
Gift-a-Nator.com
No matter how well you know your honey, they can still be hard to buy for. Let Gift-a-Nator.com take out the guesswork with its wide selection of premade baskets that contain something for everyone. From a “Movie Night” basket filled with candy, a DVD, and the essentials to make homemade popcorn, to the “Classic Male,” brimming with shaving necessities like a new razor set, shaving cream, after-shave smoother, and pre-shave oil, the list of available and personalized baskets goes on and on. ($50-$450; gift-a-nator.com)
Trojan Intimate Indulgences
A nice-but-naughty gift for both male and female couples, the Trojan Intimate Indulgence gift set will facilitate hours of ecstasy in and out of the bedroom. The package includes one Tri-Phoria Intimate Massager with three interchangeable tips, a Vibrating Mini, two vibrating rings, a lavender soy candle, green tea massage lotion, lavender-scented bath salts, and an elegant satin bag for discreet storage. Because you just know your momma’s gonna snoop around your room when you leave her unattended during that unexpected visit. ($84.99; trojanvibrations.com)
U-Star Erotic Novels
Ever fantasized about your partner in unpredictable predicaments? U Star Novels makes it possible with its line of fun, personalized romantic and erotic same-sex novels. Customers can provide up to 30 different features and traits about themselves and their partner, including names, where they live, where they work, eye color, hair color, favorite scents and many more characteristics that are weaved throughout a 160-180 page paperback novel that details all those dirty little thoughts that have been running through your mind. ($35.95-$39.95; www.ustarnovels.com)
Autos
Sporty sedans: BMW 530i xDrive, Mercedes AMG CLA 3
Tariffs are here and the result is financial chaos

It’s official: Tariffs are here, and the result is financial chaos.
So, what to do when purchasing a new vehicle? If you need one in the not-so-distant future, buy sooner (like yesterday) rather than later. Expect prices to rise quickly, as inventory dwindles, demand soars, and automaker incentives evaporate. Of course, if a new ride isn’t a priority for at least a year or three, then hold off until the dust settles.
But for those of you looking for new wheels now, I recently drove two sport sedans that were a pleasant reprieve from the usual plethora of pickups, minivans, and SUVs.
BMW 530i xDRIVE
$63,000
MPG: 28 city/35 highway
0 to 60 mph: 5.5 seconds
Cargo space: 18.4 cu. ft.
PROS: Rakish looks. Race-car vibe. Rock-star amenities.
CONS: Rad-but-quirky infotainment system. Rich price.
IN A NUTSHELL: Classic good looks, from the iconic grille and swept-back headlights to chiseled side panels and a tasteful tush. For a gearhead like me, the BMW 530i xDrive — completely redesigned last year — is as rapturous as Michelangelo’s David. Everything here is in proportion, from the design to the drivetrain, which — along with a gutsy 255-hp turbo and all-wheel drive — helps deliver a divine experience behind the wheel. Even better, my test car came equipped with the heavenly M-Sport Package: 21-inch wheels, athletic suspension, and assorted styling upgrades.
A tech-laden cabin is outfitted with a sparkly 12.3-inch digital instrument cluster and 14.9-inch touchscreen infotainment system. With the windshield head-up display and a slew of knobs and toggle switches in the center console and on the steering wheel, I wondered if this is how it feels to pilot the Space Shuttle. There is even a back-lit interaction bar with touch-sensitive controls to adjust vent direction and other climate control settings.
All this gadgetry takes some getting used to, but the overall effect is dazzling. While a 12-speaker Harman Kardon stereo comes standard, I was jammin’ to the 16-speaker Bowers & Wilkins premium audio. Of course, such options add up quickly (on my test car, the extras totaled $13,000).
Just how fun is this car? In my favorite episode of “Hacks,” sassy Jean Smart drives a rockin’ Rolls Royce Wraith. Trust me, this four-door BMW is every bit the badass as that $300,000 super coupe.
MERCEDES AMG CLA 35

$58,000
MPG: 22 city/29 highway
0 to 60 mph: 4.8 seconds
Cargo space: 11.6 cu. ft.
PROS: Slick styling. Spiffy cabin. Sublime seats.
CONS: Smallish trunk. So-so rear headroom and legroom.
IN A NUTSHELL: Need a smaller sedan that’s just as marvy as the midsize BMW i530? Look no further than the compact Mercedes CLA-Class, which is 14 inches shorter. That’s a benefit when jockeying for parking or navigating rush hour.
Another plus: This is Mercedes’s least expensive sedan, available in three trim levels. All come with the same potent turbo but in varying power levels. The base model starts at $46,000, but I tested the first of two high-performance versions: the AMG CLA 35, which costs $12,000 more. You can open your wallet even further to snag the $67,000 AMG CLA 45.
But why bother? The AMG CLA 35 is plenty quick — faster than the BMW i530 — and boasts sport-tuned brakes, deft handling and a gritty-sounding exhaust system. The laundry list of standard features includes all-wheel drive, automated parking, gobs of the latest safety gizmos and even something called “safe-exit assist,” which prevents passengers from opening a door into traffic or speeding cyclists.
The interior is pure Mercedes, with top-notch materials, customizable ambient lighting and Burmester surround-sound audio. The overall layout—sleek and modern, but with elegant stitching in the seats and on the door panels and dashboard—is comfortable and user-friendly. Digital displays and touchscreens are similar to what’s in the BMW i530, just smaller.
Size matters, of course, which is why this vehicle’s shorter length can be a blessing but also a curse, especially when trying to squeeze passengers with longer legs into the backseats. And the dramatically sloped roofline, attractive from the outside, limits the amount of rear headroom and cargo space. Thank the automotive gods for panoramic sunroofs, which—at least for anyone in the front seats—makes this cabin feel surprisingly spacious.
Real Estate
Spring updates to sell your home for pride and profit
Consider new landscaping, power washing, creative staging

Selling a home is a big deal for anyone, but for members of the LGBTQ+ community, it comes with unique considerations—from finding affirming professionals to ensuring your home is represented in a way that reflects your values. Whether you’re a first-time gay home seller or a seasoned LGBTQ+ homeowner looking to move up, maximizing your home’s value is key to a successful and empowering sale.
Here’s how to prepare your home, your mindset, and your real estate strategy to get the most value—financially and emotionally—from your home sale.
1. Start with an LGBTQ+-Friendly Real Estate Agent
Before diving into renovations or staging, make sure your agent truly understands your needs. A gay-friendly or LGBTQ+-affirming real estate agent brings more than just market expertise—they bring cultural competence, safety awareness, and a network that supports you throughout the selling process.
At GayRealEstate.com, you can find experienced, vetted LGBTQ+ real estate agents who have been proudly serving the community for over 30 years. Working with someone who shares or supports your identity ensures your selling journey is respectful, inclusive, and effective.
2. Enhance Curb Appeal—With a Welcoming Vibe
The outside of your home is the first impression a potential buyer gets. Make it count—especially for LGBTQ+ buyers looking for a home that feels safe and welcoming.
- Fresh landscaping: Add colorful flowers, neatly trimmed shrubs, or low-maintenance greenery to appeal to eco-conscious buyers.
- Update the entrance: A new front door, stylish lighting, or even a rainbow doormat can make your home feel like a safe space from the start.
- Clean and repair: Power wash the exterior, touch up paint, and make any necessary repairs to gutters, windows, or siding.
3. Stage with Intention and Inclusivity
Home staging can add thousands to your sale price. But beyond the usual decluttering and neutral palettes, think about how your space tells a story—and who it’s telling it to.
- Create a warm, inclusive feel: Subtle touches like LGBTQ+ art, books, or even coffee table magazines can show off your personality and affirm the space for queer buyers.
- Depersonalize—but don’t erase: You don’t need to hide your identity to appeal to buyers. Let your home feel lived in and loved—while still being a blank canvas others can imagine themselves in.
- Highlight multi-use areas: Home offices, gender-neutral nurseries, or flex spaces resonate with LGBTQ+ families and professionals.
4. Update Kitchens and Bathrooms Strategically
These rooms matter most to buyers—and even small updates can yield big returns.
- Kitchen: New cabinet hardware, a fresh backsplash, and modern lighting can elevate the entire room without a full remodel.
- Bathroom: Replace old fixtures, re-caulk tubs and sinks, and add plush towels and inclusive décor.
- Energy-efficient upgrades: Touchless faucets, smart appliances, or low-flow toilets are not only trendy—they signal sustainability, which matters to LGBTQ+ buyers.
5. Make Your Home More Energy Efficient
LGBTQ+ homebuyers often prioritize sustainability. These updates not only reduce energy bills but make your home more marketable.
- Install a smart thermostat (like Nest or Ecobee)
- Upgrade insulation or windows
- Consider solar panels (especially in sun-drenched regions like California or Florida)
Bonus: You may qualify for state or federal tax credits, which can be a great selling point.
6. Know and Advocate for LGBTQ+ Housing Rights
Although housing discrimination is illegal under the Fair Housing Act, it still happens. As an LGBTQ+ seller, be aware of your rights—and those of potential buyers.
- Avoid steering or bias: Even with good intentions, make sure you’re not inadvertently influencing who views or buys your home based on identity.
- Work with affirming professionals: From inspectors to lenders, choose partners who support inclusive practices.
- Report discrimination: If you or a buyer encounters bias, report it to HUD or your local housing authority.
7. Price Your Home Right—and Market It Smartly
Setting the right price is essential to maximizing value. Your LGBTQ+-friendly agent can run a comparative market analysis, considering current trends and buyer demographics.
- Leverage LGBTQ+ real estate networks: Promote your home through platforms like GayRealEstate.com to reach an audience that understands and values your space.
- Use inclusive language in listings: Avoid gendered terms or heteronormative assumptions. Instead of “his and hers closets,” use “dual walk-ins” or “double closets.”
- High-quality photos and video tours: Showcase your home with professional, visually inclusive marketing that appeals to diverse buyers.
8. Consider Timing and Local LGBTQ+ Trends
Selling during WorldPride or just before local LGBTQ+ events may boost visibility. Also consider if you’re in or near an LGBTQ+ friendly city or neighborhood.
Not sure which areas are top destinations? GayRelocation.com tracks and shares the best cities for LGBTQ+ homebuyers, helping you tap into motivated buyers.
Final Thought: Sell with Confidence—and Community
Selling your home isn’t just about getting top dollar—it’s about closing a chapter with pride and integrity. When you center your values, work with LGBTQ+ affirming experts, and prepare your home with purpose, you’re not just maximizing your home’s value—you’re creating an empowering experience for yourself and the next owner.
Whether you’re buying, selling, or both—GayRealEstate.com is your trusted partner in every step of your journey. With a nationwide network of gay and lesbian realtors, decades of experience, and deep community ties, we ensure your home transition is safe, smart, and full of pride.
GayRealEstate.com is the nation’s leading online platform connecting LGBTQ+ home buyers and sellers with LGBTQ+ friendly real estate agents, ensuring a safe and supportive experience.
Scott Helms is president of GayRealEstate.com. To find an agent or learn more, visit GayRealEstate.com, GayRelocation.com or call 1-888-420-MOVE.
Real Estate
Navigating DMV real estate market during political unrest
Reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties

The Washington, D.C.-Maryland-Virginia (DMV) region has long been recognized for its robust housing market, underpinned by the presence of the federal government and a diverse economic landscape. Recent massive reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties, yet the area continues to offer compelling reasons for prospective homebuyers, particularly within diverse communities.
While the federal government has traditionally been a significant employer in the DMV, the region has proactively diversified its economic base. Sectors such as technology, professional services, education, and healthcare have expanded, mitigating the impact of federal job cuts. This diversification fosters some economic resilience, which offers our area a semblance of protection against the impending unknowns that we currently face. Nothing can shield real estate entirely; however, our area tends to survive these types of changes better than other parts of the country.
Despite concerns over federal layoffs, the DMV housing market has demonstrated notable stability. Analyses indicate that the number of active listings, sold properties, and median sales prices have remained steady on a year-over-year basis. This steadiness suggests that the market is adapting to changes without significant disruption.
Furthermore, while there has been a slight increase in home listings, this trend aligns with typical seasonal variations and does not solely reflect federal employment changes. The luxury property segment, in particular, continues to thrive, indicating sustained interest and investment in the region.
The DMV region is renowned for its cultural and demographic diversity, with areas like Montgomery County, Md., being among the most ethnically diverse in the nation. This inclusivity extends to various communities, including LGBTQ individuals, fostering a welcoming environment that enhances the area’s appeal. Even though the current administration is fostering anti-diversity ideology, I remain confident that our LGBTQ community will continue to thrive even as these destructive forces work against us.
Local governments within the DMV have implemented policies aimed at promoting affordable housing and preventing displacement, particularly in the wake of economic shifts. Initiatives like the Douglass Community Land Trust in Washington, D.C., exemplify efforts to maintain housing affordability and support community stability.
Additionally, jurisdictions such as Montgomery County have longstanding Moderately Priced Dwelling Unit (MPDU) programs that require developers to include affordable housing in new residential developments. These policies contribute to socioeconomically mixed neighborhoods, benefiting diverse populations.
Despite Elon Musk’s brandishing of a chainsaw to the federal workforce, our real estate market continues to thrive. The DMV region maintains its appeal. Economic diversification, market stability, commitment to diversity and inclusion, and progressive housing policies collectively contribute to an environment that supports and attracts diverse communities. Prospective homebuyers can find reassurance in the region’s resilience and ongoing efforts to foster an inclusive and vibrant community. These are only a few among the many reasons to have a positive outlook while considering real estate options in our area.
It is important to consider working with brokerages, brokers, agents, lenders and title companies who align with our community and our objectives. Not all LGBTQ agents work for brokerages that support or understand the needs of the members of our community. Do your research and find out who has donated money to what political causes. Now more than ever we must support members of our community to protect our way of life and our very existence.
Stacey Williams-Zeiger is president/principal broker of Zeiger Realty Inc. Reach her at [email protected].
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