Living
Queery: Matt Lewis
The Team D.C. board member answers 20 gay questions


Matt Lewis (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Matt Lewis is a big sports fan. Heās rooting for the Ravens for the Super Bowl both for the local connection and for āBrendonās [Ayanbadejo] strong advocacy.ā
And he just got elected to start a second term on the board of Team D.C. where he oversees the organizationās ever-flourishing āNight Outā series. The next installment ā āNight Out at the Wizardsā is Feb. 8 at the Verizon Center (tickets are $20; details at teamdcsports.com). Although other cities such as San Francisco and New York have isolated āgay nightsā with their various sports teams, Lewis says none are as large or cross-branded as Team D.C.ās series.
āI think it says a lot about how society is viewing us as a community,ā Lewis, a 43-year-old federal civil rights attorney with the U.S. Patent and Trademark Office in Alexandria, says. āIt really shows that weāre everywhere ā in the NFL, on Broadway, in Main Street America.ā
Lewis, originally from Wilmington, N.C., came to Washington eight years ago after a 10-year relationship ended āon amicable terms.ā His family had moved here (his mother and sister are attorneys and live in Capitol Hill), so he joined them. Heās been in his current job only since June after almost six years with another federal agency. He lives with his partner of six months in Arlington, whom he declines to name, and says they ājust recently became engaged.ā
Lewis enjoys watching college and pro basketball, football and baseball in his free time in addition to politics and volunteering. He accepted his current job with a mind toward achieving a better āwork/life balance.ā He enjoys relaxing with āa nice glass of wine on the couch after hitting the gym.ā
How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell?
I have been out for over 20 years. The hardest person to tell was my mother but only for about three seconds. I knew how she would react but there is that brief period of uncertainty when you finally say the words. Everybody goes through that three-to-five second period in their own way in which they use the actual word āgay.ā I was fortunate to have a family that loves me overall for who I am as a person.
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Who’s your LGBT hero?
I actually donāt have a particular person but rather the millions of Americans and people around the world, who get up every day and fight for equality, justice, inclusion and the basic civil rights that all people deserve, gay, straight or otherwise.
What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present?Ā
The best nightspot currently I think is Nellieās. Doug and his crew do a great job to make everyone feel at home and have a good time.
Describe your dream wedding.
Something that is simple, small, intimate and memorable.
What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about?
I am not sure that there are any actual non-LGBT issues in the world today, as we face every issue that all people, this nation and the world face. We all face health care, civil and human rights, tax, economic and environmental issues just to name a few.
What historical outcome would you change?
Thatās a tough one. I think that I would change the assassinations of Martin Luther King, Jr. or President John F. Kennedy. Both men had so much potential to do so much good beyond what they had already done in their short lives.
What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime?
Itās a tie I think. Seeing U2 and Elton John in concert. They both put on a great show.
On what do you insist?
Honesty, sincerity and communication.
What was your last Facebook post or Tweet?
āLetās Go Caps!ā
If your life were a book, what would the title be?
āLessons that I have learned along the path ā¦ā
If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do?
I would not change anything. I am the way God made me and I am blessed to be healthy and alive. He doesnāt make mistakes you know?
What do you believe in beyond the physical world?Ā
As a Christian and Episcopalian, I believe in a heaven surrounded by all those who have gone before me.
What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders?
Keep up the good fight knowing that Rome was not built in a day and that despite the hardships and setbacks, our day will come. We will obtain full equality in this country and elsewhere. Itās only a matter of time!
What would you walk across hot coals for?
My partner and my family, plain and simple.
What LGBT stereotype annoys you most?
That gay men are weak, not masculine, and canāt play or like sports. That lesbians are all ābutchā and cannot be feminine. So untrue on both accounts.
What’s your favorite LGBT movie?
āPhiladelphia.ā Itās the movie I saw the night that I came out to my mother and sister.
What’s the most overrated social custom?
I would have to say Rehoboth Beach. Being from Coastal North Carolina, I know Rehoboth is way overpriced.
What trophy or prize do you most covet?
Probably my law license. A lot of blood, sweat and tears went into getting that piece of paper.
What do you wish you’d known at 18?
To look at the bigger picture. Donāt lose the forest for the trees.
Why Washington?
Why not? Family, friends, great political, social, sports and cultural activities not to mention the great restaurants. Where else can you witness Newt Gingrich and his wife hotly contesting which pair or New Balance shoes she should purchase?
Autos
Sporty sedans: BMW 530i xDrive, Mercedes AMG CLA 3
Tariffs are here and the result is financial chaos

Itās official: Tariffs are here, and the result is financial chaos.
So, what to do when purchasing a new vehicle? If you need one in the not-so-distant future, buy sooner (like yesterday) rather than later. Expect prices to rise quickly, as inventory dwindles, demand soars, and automaker incentives evaporate. Of course, if a new ride isnāt a priority for at least a year or three, then hold off until the dust settles.
But for those of you looking for new wheels now, I recently drove two sport sedans that were a pleasant reprieve from the usual plethora of pickups, minivans, and SUVs.
BMW 530i xDRIVE
$63,000
MPG: 28 city/35 highway
0 to 60 mph: 5.5 seconds
Cargo space: 18.4 cu. ft.
PROS: Rakish looks. Race-car vibe. Rock-star amenities.
CONS: Rad-but-quirky infotainment system. Rich price.
IN A NUTSHELL: Classic good looks, from the iconic grille and swept-back headlights to chiseled side panels and a tasteful tush. For a gearhead like me, the BMW 530i xDrive ā completely redesigned last year ā is as rapturous as Michelangeloās David. Everything here is in proportion, from the design to the drivetrain, which ā along with a gutsy 255-hp turbo and all-wheel drive ā helps deliver a divine experience behind the wheel. Even better, my test car came equipped with the heavenly M-Sport Package: 21-inch wheels, athletic suspension, and assorted styling upgrades.
A tech-laden cabin is outfitted with a sparkly 12.3-inch digital instrument cluster and 14.9-inch touchscreen infotainment system. With the windshield head-up display and a slew of knobs and toggle switches in the center console and on the steering wheel, I wondered if this is how it feels to pilot the Space Shuttle. There is even a back-lit interaction bar with touch-sensitive controls to adjust vent direction and other climate control settings.
All this gadgetry takes some getting used to, but the overall effect is dazzling. While a 12-speaker Harman Kardon stereo comes standard, I was jamminā to the 16-speaker Bowers & Wilkins premium audio. Of course, such options add up quickly (on my test car, the extras totaled $13,000).
Just how fun is this car? In my favorite episode of āHacks,ā sassy Jean Smart drives a rockinā Rolls Royce Wraith. Trust me, this four-door BMW is every bit the badass as that $300,000 super coupe.
MERCEDES AMG CLA 35

$58,000
MPG: 22 city/29 highway
0 to 60 mph: 4.8 seconds
Cargo space: 11.6 cu. ft.
PROS: Slick styling. Spiffy cabin. Sublime seats.
CONS: Smallish trunk. So-so rear headroom and legroom.
IN A NUTSHELL: Need a smaller sedan thatās just as marvy as the midsize BMW i530? Look no further than the compact Mercedes CLA-Class, which is 14 inches shorter. Thatās a benefit when jockeying for parking or navigating rush hour.
Another plus: This is Mercedesās least expensive sedan, available in three trim levels. All come with the same potent turbo but in varying power levels. The base model starts at $46,000, but I tested the first of two high-performance versions: the AMG CLA 35, which costs $12,000 more. You can open your wallet even further to snag the $67,000 AMG CLA 45.
But why bother? The AMG CLA 35 is plenty quick ā faster than the BMW i530 ā and boasts sport-tuned brakes, deft handling and a gritty-sounding exhaust system. The laundry list of standard features includes all-wheel drive, automated parking, gobs of the latest safety gizmos and even something called āsafe-exit assist,ā which prevents passengers from opening a door into traffic or speeding cyclists.
The interior is pure Mercedes, with top-notch materials, customizable ambient lighting and Burmester surround-sound audio. The overall layoutāsleek and modern, but with elegant stitching in the seats and on the door panels and dashboardāis comfortable and user-friendly. Digital displays and touchscreens are similar to whatās in the BMW i530, just smaller.
Size matters, of course, which is why this vehicleās shorter length can be a blessing but also a curse, especially when trying to squeeze passengers with longer legs into the backseats. And the dramatically sloped roofline, attractive from the outside, limits the amount of rear headroom and cargo space. Thank the automotive gods for panoramic sunroofs, whichāat least for anyone in the front seatsāmakes this cabin feel surprisingly spacious.
Real Estate
Spring updates to sell your home for pride and profit
Consider new landscaping, power washing, creative staging

Selling a home is a big deal for anyone, but for members of the LGBTQ+ community, it comes with unique considerationsāfrom finding affirming professionals to ensuring your home is represented in a way that reflects your values. Whether youāre a first-time gay home seller or a seasoned LGBTQ+ homeowner looking to move up, maximizing your homeās value is key to a successful and empowering sale.
Hereās how to prepare your home, your mindset, and your real estate strategy to get the most valueāfinancially and emotionallyāfrom your home sale.
1. Start with an LGBTQ+-Friendly Real Estate Agent
Before diving into renovations or staging, make sure your agent truly understands your needs. A gay-friendly or LGBTQ+-affirming real estate agent brings more than just market expertiseāthey bring cultural competence, safety awareness, and a network that supports you throughout the selling process.
At GayRealEstate.com, you can find experienced, vetted LGBTQ+ real estate agents who have been proudly serving the community for over 30 years. Working with someone who shares or supports your identity ensures your selling journey is respectful, inclusive, and effective.
2. Enhance Curb AppealāWith a Welcoming Vibe
The outside of your home is the first impression a potential buyer gets. Make it countāespecially for LGBTQ+ buyers looking for a home that feels safe and welcoming.
- Fresh landscaping: Add colorful flowers, neatly trimmed shrubs, or low-maintenance greenery to appeal to eco-conscious buyers.
- Update the entrance: A new front door, stylish lighting, or even a rainbow doormat can make your home feel like a safe space from the start.
- Clean and repair: Power wash the exterior, touch up paint, and make any necessary repairs to gutters, windows, or siding.
3. Stage with Intention and Inclusivity
Home staging can add thousands to your sale price. But beyond the usual decluttering and neutral palettes, think about how your space tells a storyāand who itās telling it to.
- Create a warm, inclusive feel: Subtle touches like LGBTQ+ art, books, or even coffee table magazines can show off your personality and affirm the space for queer buyers.
- Depersonalizeābut donāt erase: You donāt need to hide your identity to appeal to buyers. Let your home feel lived in and lovedāwhile still being a blank canvas others can imagine themselves in.
- Highlight multi-use areas: Home offices, gender-neutral nurseries, or flex spaces resonate with LGBTQ+ families and professionals.
4. Update Kitchens and Bathrooms Strategically
These rooms matter most to buyersāand even small updates can yield big returns.
- Kitchen: New cabinet hardware, a fresh backsplash, and modern lighting can elevate the entire room without a full remodel.
- Bathroom: Replace old fixtures, re-caulk tubs and sinks, and add plush towels and inclusive dƩcor.
- Energy-efficient upgrades: Touchless faucets, smart appliances, or low-flow toilets are not only trendyāthey signal sustainability, which matters to LGBTQ+ buyers.
5. Make Your Home More Energy Efficient
LGBTQ+ homebuyers often prioritize sustainability. These updates not only reduce energy bills but make your home more marketable.
- Install a smart thermostat (like Nest or Ecobee)
- Upgrade insulation or windows
- Consider solar panels (especially in sun-drenched regions like California or Florida)
Bonus: You may qualify for state or federal tax credits, which can be a great selling point.
6. Know and Advocate for LGBTQ+ Housing Rights
Although housing discrimination is illegal under the Fair Housing Act, it still happens. As an LGBTQ+ seller, be aware of your rightsāand those of potential buyers.
- Avoid steering or bias: Even with good intentions, make sure youāre not inadvertently influencing who views or buys your home based on identity.
- Work with affirming professionals: From inspectors to lenders, choose partners who support inclusive practices.
- Report discrimination: If you or a buyer encounters bias, report it to HUD or your local housing authority.
7. Price Your Home Rightāand Market It Smartly
Setting the right price is essential to maximizing value. Your LGBTQ+-friendly agent can run a comparative market analysis, considering current trends and buyer demographics.
- Leverage LGBTQ+ real estate networks: Promote your home through platforms like GayRealEstate.com to reach an audience that understands and values your space.
- Use inclusive language in listings: Avoid gendered terms or heteronormative assumptions. Instead of “his and hers closets,” use “dual walk-ins” or “double closets.”
- High-quality photos and video tours: Showcase your home with professional, visually inclusive marketing that appeals to diverse buyers.
8. Consider Timing and Local LGBTQ+ Trends
Selling during WorldPride or just before local LGBTQ+ events may boost visibility. Also consider if you’re in or near an LGBTQ+ friendly city or neighborhood.
Not sure which areas are top destinations? GayRelocation.com tracks and shares the best cities for LGBTQ+ homebuyers, helping you tap into motivated buyers.
Final Thought: Sell with Confidenceāand Community
Selling your home isnāt just about getting top dollarāitās about closing a chapter with pride and integrity. When you center your values, work with LGBTQ+ affirming experts, and prepare your home with purpose, youāre not just maximizing your homeās valueāyouāre creating an empowering experience for yourself and the next owner.
Whether you’re buying, selling, or bothāGayRealEstate.com is your trusted partner in every step of your journey. With a nationwide network of gay and lesbian realtors, decades of experience, and deep community ties, we ensure your home transition is safe, smart, and full of pride.
GayRealEstate.com is the nationās leading online platform connecting LGBTQ+ home buyers and sellers with LGBTQ+ friendly real estate agents, ensuring a safe and supportive experience.
Scott Helms is president of GayRealEstate.com. To find an agent or learn more, visitĀ GayRealEstate.com, GayRelocation.com or call 1-888-420-MOVE.
Real Estate
Navigating DMV real estate market during political unrest
Reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties

The Washington, D.C.-Maryland-Virginia (DMV) region has long been recognized for its robust housing market, underpinned by the presence of the federal government and a diverse economic landscape. Recent massive reductions in federal employment have introduced uncertainties, yet the area continues to offer compelling reasons for prospective homebuyers, particularly within diverse communities.
While the federal government has traditionally been a significant employer in the DMV, the region has proactively diversified its economic base. Sectors such as technology, professional services, education, and healthcare have expanded, mitigating the impact of federal job cuts. This diversification fosters some economic resilience, which offers our area a semblance of protection against the impending unknowns that we currently face. Nothing can shield real estate entirely; however, our area tends to survive these types of changes better than other parts of the country.
Despite concerns over federal layoffs, the DMV housing market has demonstrated notable stability. Analyses indicate that the number of active listings, sold properties, and median sales prices have remained steady on a year-over-year basis. This steadiness suggests that the market is adapting to changes without significant disruption.
Furthermore, while there has been a slight increase in home listings, this trend aligns with typical seasonal variations and does not solely reflect federal employment changes. The luxury property segment, in particular, continues to thrive, indicating sustained interest and investment in the region.
The DMV region is renowned for its cultural and demographic diversity, with areas like Montgomery County, Md., being among the most ethnically diverse in the nation. This inclusivity extends to various communities, including LGBTQ individuals, fostering a welcoming environment that enhances the areaās appeal. Even though the current administration is fostering anti-diversity ideology, I remain confident that our LGBTQ community will continue to thrive even as these destructive forces work against us.
Local governments within the DMV have implemented policies aimed at promoting affordable housing and preventing displacement, particularly in the wake of economic shifts. Initiatives like the Douglass Community Land Trust in Washington, D.C., exemplify efforts to maintain housing affordability and support community stability.
Additionally, jurisdictions such as Montgomery County have longstanding Moderately Priced Dwelling Unit (MPDU) programs that require developers to include affordable housing in new residential developments. These policies contribute to socioeconomically mixed neighborhoods, benefiting diverse populations.
Despite Elon Muskās brandishing of a chainsaw to the federal workforce, our real estate market continues to thrive. The DMV region maintains its appeal. Economic diversification, market stability, commitment to diversity and inclusion, and progressive housing policies collectively contribute to an environment that supports and attracts diverse communities. Prospective homebuyers can find reassurance in the regionās resilience and ongoing efforts to foster an inclusive and vibrant community. These are only a few among the many reasons to have a positive outlook while considering real estate options in our area.
It is important to consider working with brokerages, brokers, agents, lenders and title companies who align with our community and our objectives. Not all LGBTQ agents work for brokerages that support or understand the needs of the members of our community. Do your research and find out who has donated money to what political causes. Now more than ever we must support members of our community to protect our way of life and our very existence.
Stacey Williams-Zeiger is president/principal broker of Zeiger Realty Inc. Reach her at [email protected].
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