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Laughing all the way
Westenhoefer on her divorce, Birchmere return and Jodie Foster
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For one of her first shows this year, comedian Suzanne Westenhoefer cannot assure her audience she will stick to a certain theme or what kind of jokes she will make. She doesnāt even have a name for her current tour.
However, she does promise that straight or gay, boy or girl, attendees will laugh.
Westenhoefer comes to the Birchmere (3701 Mount Vernon Ave., Alexandria) Friday night, bringing with her personal stories that audiences can relate to and laugh about.
āBecause the act I do is very truthful, very personal, my show is changing hourly,ā she says. āIf something changes in my life that makes the story not true, the show changes. Itās not like a written script.ā
The blend of honesty and often self-deprecating humor is what brings audiences back year after year, says Michael Jaworek, Birchmere promoter, who has been booking Westenhoefer for more than 15 years.
āHer audience is very devoted and follows her,ā he says. āShe is funny. Her humor is insightful. A lot of her material deals with gay life, or rather lesbian life. She speaks to and for the majority of her audience.ā
Suzanne Westenhoefer
February 1
The Birchmere
3701 Mount Vernon Ave.
Alexandria, Va
Tickets are $54.50
Westenhoefer does know that a bulk of her show will deal with recovering from divorce and entering the dating world for the first time in years. Through this process, sheās learned a few new things about herself.
āI suck at dating,ā she says. āI donāt date, I donāt know how.ā
A little less than a year ago, Westenhoefer divorced long-term partner Jennifer Houston, whom she married in 2008 before Proposition 8 was voted on in California. Through the transition, sheās learned a lot of new things about herself.
āI thought I would be fine, apparently not,ā she says. āI didnāt know how to feed myself. I hadnāt cooked for myself since I moved in with my first partner when I was 21.ā
But she says despite the bumps and challenges in her new life, there are so many great and new people to meet and that everyone should āgo out, be nice, buy someone a cocktail and meet somebody.ā Sheās currently exclusively seeing a woman whom she calls ātall girlā in order to respect her privacy.
The stage to Westenhoefer is an open diary, and even when the story is tragic in nature, she always tries to make it comedic.
āI see what everybody is thinking, what needs to be said,ā she says. āIām getting everybody off the hook by saying it. Iām giving them a chance to laugh at tragedy that befalls them all.ā
Growing up in the heart of Amish country in Pennsylvania, and coming out right when the AIDS crisis was starting in 1981, Westenhoefer has had plenty of stories to tell. But the act of sharing her personal narrative has its roots in something deeper and older.
āMy grandfather was the same way,ā she says. āHe was that kind of person who goes to the store to get milk and bread, come back and have a fantastic funny story about it.ā
On stage, Westenhoefer is not afraid to say whatever is on her mind.
āOnce my sister told me she thinks she might be gay, but asked me not to tell anybody,ā she says. āWhat did I do? I went right on stage and said āSo, my sister thinks sheās gay.āā
This has not gotten her in trouble with her family so far, she claims, because they know it is āout of love.ā
Westenhoefer began her stand-up career at the end of 1990, when a friend dared her to go on stage while she was working as a New York bartender. However, she did not need anyone to dare her to be honest and talk about gay life.
āMy opening line was I am the only gay comedian youāre going to see tonight,ā she says.
Though her first time on stage didnāt go well (by her own admission), her career took off through the ā90s. In 1991, she became the first lesbian comic to appear on television, when she was on an episode of āSally Jessy Raphaelā called āBreaking the Lesbian Stereotype: Lesbians Who Donāt Look Like Lesbians,ā and then went on to be the first openly gay comic to host an HBO Comedy Special in 1994.
Being on television created an opportunity to start a conversation, she says.
āIt was a way to tell people not to panic, we arenāt killing babies,ā Westenhoefer says. āThis has always been and always will be.ā
This is not the first time Westenhoefer has been a force for change. She says in high school she formed a group to ban dodge ball. She says activism is in her blood and that she and her family always were political
While still blunt and honest with her audience, Westenhoefer says things have certainly changed since she began. Westenhoefer no longer uses her original opening line.
āI used to do shows in straight clubs and I literally would say I was lesbian in the beginning of every show,ā she says. āItās definitely gotten to be a different show. It doesnāt have to be gay gay gay gay.ā
Recent events, such as Jodie Fosterās speech at the Golden Globes and Barack Obamaās speech at his second inauguration, she says mark the change in attitudes toward the LGBT community.
When she came out at 19, Westenhoefer says it was a scarier time period. There was more violence against the community. However, most of her friends and family were supportive.
Now she finds it amazing that people like Foster can go on international television and discuss their sexuality with the world.
āI am very excited for her,ā Westenhoefer, whoās met Foster three times, says. āShe is a very shy, very private woman. I am very proud of her. To get up in front of an international audience and tell this, itās amazing.ā
Despite leaving the much warmer West Coast to do so, Westenhoefer says sheās always glad to return to the D.C. area.
āI love D.C. for several reasons,ā she says. āFirst of all people will come out for a show even if there is an ice storm. They have southern hospitality, they are political and they want to be entertained. It is the perfect storm for comedy.ā
Jaworek is happy to have her back because, āSuzanne is a very funny woman period.ā
Even though she shares the experiences of a lesbian, Westenhoefer insists that, āthe boys are welcome. It is not just for girls. Itās a show for straights, for gays, and if they wanna come, I promise theyāll laugh.ā
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The 2024 New York City Pride Parade wound through the streets of Manhattan and past the historic Stonewall Inn on Sunday, June 30.
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The fourth annual Fredericksburg Pride march and festival was held at Riverfront Park in Fredericksburg, Va. on Saturday, June 29. The event began with a march around downtown Fredericksburg beginning and ending in the park.
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Covering Fredericksburg Pride for @WashBlade . City Council member @WillMackintosh speaking: pic.twitter.com/tDdVD2IVsM
— Michael Patrick Key (@MichaelKeyWB) June 29, 2024
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PHOTOS: Goodwin Living Pride
Senior living and healthcare organization holds fourth annual march at Falls Church campus
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The senior living and healthcare organization Goodwin Living held its fourth annual community Pride march around its Bailey’s Crossroads campus in Falls Church, Va. with residents, friends and supporters on Tuesday, June 25. Following the march, a drag brunch was held with performances by drag artists of SADBrunch: Crimsyn, Sapphire Dupree and Evon Dior Michelle.
(Photos courtesy of Goodwin Living)
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