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Gay Mormons relish the opportunity to marry in Utah

Same-sex couples marry in state following court decision

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Gay Mormons relish the opportunity to marry following the Utah court ruling (photo from wikimedia by Joe Ravi).

Gay Mormons relish the opportunity to marry following the Utah court ruling. (photo from wikimedia by Joe Ravi)

For lesbian couple Terri Henry and Perry Kirby, the court ruling instituting marriage equality in Utah and granting them the ability to wed allowed them to affirm the Mormon values with which they were raised.

Although Henry, 51, and Kirby, 47, no longer identify as members of the Church of Latter-day Saints, they say their upbringing compelled them to marry at Salt Lake County on Monday.

Henry, who left the church after it filed a friend-of-the-court brief before the Supreme Court in favor of Proposition 8, said LDS teaching showed her the importance of marriage ā€” even if it’s to someone of the same gender.

“Being raised in a very strong community that values family, that values commitment and sacrifice to one another, that was something I wanted to continue with my life,” Henry said.

For Kirby, who went on a mission for the church to the Netherlands in the mid-1980s, she wanted to marry her partner of four years because she came to learn through the Mormon Church that “family is so important.”

“I was ingrained with family being one of the most important things in life,” Kirby said. “The ability to serve another, and to sacrifice for each other is important, and having that connection makes that expectation more cemented.”

The couple initially tried to obtain a marriage license in Utah County on Friday, but they were turned away. According to media reports, that county was still denying marriage licenses as of Monday.

Although the Mormon Church is known for being a stalwart advocate for family and marriage, that ideology isn’t supposed to apply to same-sex couples. The church has been a leading opponent of same-sex marriage, donating millions to oppose its legalization.

Upon the news last week that U.S. District Judge Robert Shelby had issued a decision instituting marriage equality throughout the state, the Church of Latter-day Saints reaffirmed its position against same-sex marriage.

“The Church has been consistent in its support of traditional marriage while teaching that all people should be treated with respect,” the statement says. “This ruling by a district court will work its way through the judicial process. We continue to believe that voters in Utah did the right thing by providing clear direction in the state constitution that marriage should be between a man and a woman and we are hopeful that this view will be validated by a higher court.”

In 2008, during the battle over California’s Proposition 8, the Mormon Church took a lead role in organizing support for an amendment that stripped marriage rights for gay couples. Although the church largely sat on the sidelines over the 2012 ballot initiatives on marriage, Mormons leaders took an active role in attempting to stop the legalization of same-sex marriage in Hawaii.

Kirby said she’s sad for the church because it doesn’t extend its support of strong families to gay and lesbian couples seeking to wed.

“There’s is a church that was founded coming out of oppression and they have now turned into the bullies themselves,” Kirby said. “They, of all people, should be supportive and understanding and be able to step away from their dogma.”

That’s the same sentiment that Perry expressed with regard to the Mormon Church’s opposition to gay nuptials.

“I feel like everything that the Mormon Church has gone through, from their early ages of persecution, now I think because of the fear that they have, they really, really don’t know how to handle gay couples,” Perry said.

As Kirby noted, the decision brings the issue to the doorstep of the church headquarters in Salt Lake City.

“This shift that has happened on their home turf hopefully will speak to them that this is miraculous in a good, positive way and that we can all be OK, we can all be fine, no one’s threatened,” Kirby said. “All families have space to be together.”

Spencer Clark, executive director of Mormons for Equality, affirmed that the ruling from the district enabled gay Mormons to gain access to the institution they hold dear as part of their values.

ā€œWhile Mormons have organized to advocate for the equal treatment of families across the country, it is particularly sweet to have this decision come down in the heartland of our faith,ā€ Clark said. ā€œWe pray with confidence that it will be upheld as the inevitable appeals ensue, but take this time to express gratitude for the progress that this ruling represents ā€“ particularly for the many families who will ultimately be stronger and more secure as a result.ā€

What is the couple’s next plan? Kirby said it’s simple, “We’re going to take a nap.” The couple had camped out Ā before the clerk’s office in Salt Lake City early in the morning to ensure they’d be able to receive a license Monday morning. There will be time to celebrate at a candlelight vigil later in the evening and during Christmas at home.

“We have a really great new ornament that says, ‘Our first Christmas together in 2013,” Kirby said. “While we’ve shared Christmas together, this is our first married Christmas, and that is an amazing thing.”

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TransTech Social removing barriers to trans success

ā€˜Technology was the key to my freedomā€™

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From left, TransTech members B Hawk Snipes, E.C. Pizarro III, Ang R Bennett, and Adrian Elim. (Photo by Lexi Webster Photography)

It is common knowledge that women earn 84% of the average worker. Less common knowledge? Trans women earn 60% of the average worker. Trans men and non-binary people come in at around 70%, while 16% of all trans people make less than $10,000 annually.Ā 

E.C. Pizarro was lucky, and he knew it. He had a BFA in graphic design and had taught himself how to code. As a stealth trans man in a corporate job, he had access to a stable wage and good benefits. ā€œPeople that do not have experiences in corporate America or with equitable employment don’t realize [these things] are privileges that a lot of people don’t have access to.ā€ 

He wanted to give back and was gearing up to bring more volunteer work into his life by participating in a fraternity for trans men. When he went to a TransTech event and learned about the educational and career resources for trans people who face barriers to entering the workforce, he knew he had found his place. 

At the event he met, Angelica Ross. Yes, that Angelica Ross, of ā€œPoseā€ and ā€œAmerican Horror Story.ā€

Before she was Candy, Ross was a self-taught coder. She went from posing for an adult website to doing its back-end coding to teaching her trans siblings how to succeed in tech.Ā 

ā€œTechnology was the key to my freedom,ā€ Ross said in an interview with The Plug. ā€œTechnology took me from being exploited on someoneā€™s website to building my own websites and to building websites for other people and getting paid to do so.ā€

Pizarro was impressed and wanted to help. ā€œI went up to Angelica and I was like ā€˜Hey, I’m a trans man. These are my skills. I’m down to volunteer and do any type of workā€”the one caveat is that I’m stealth. You can’t tell anybody that I’m trans.ā€™ā€

For four years, Pizarro helped from mostly behind the scenes, sometimes getting side-eyed since people thought he was a cis man in trans spaces. ā€œI was still stealth as the Director of Social Media and Communications for the National Trans Visibility March in 2019,ā€ Pizarro says, chuckling a little.

But by that point, Ross ā€” who headlined the 2019 march ā€” was overextended trying to balance being a world-famous actress, advocate, and businesswoman. 

She needed someone to step in as executive director of TransTech and looked to the group of dedicated volunteers. Pizarro was elected by his peers to take the reins of the organization. 

This was a turning point for Pizarro. ā€œI’m very passionate about tech and for me a small sacrifice of being open with my trans experience to liberate other trans people,ā€ he said. ā€œI felt like if that’s something I got to do, then I’m gonna do it.ā€

And he did it. The infrastructure Ross put together worked: with mentorship, education, community, and networking with trans-accepting employers, trans people were gaining financial security and independence. 

So, Pizarro focused on expanding TransTech as widely as possible. ā€œWe have grown exponentially over the last three years,ā€ he says. ā€œWhen I took over in 2021, we had about 800 members based in the United States. Now we support over 6,700 members across 50 countries.ā€

TransTech is filling a demonstrated need within specifically the trans community. New research from LGBT Tech found that 68% of transgender adults use the internet to find LGBTQ-friendly employment (compared to 38% of cisgender LGBTQ+ adults). More than 70% of all LGBTQ adults use the Internet to access educational content.

Accessibility is central to the TransTech programming. Despite the growth, everything remains free. ā€œThereā€™s no membership fee. All of our programming is free. All of the certifications and educational resources are free,ā€ Pizarro says. 

They know the financial burden the trans community faces ā€” 29% of trans adults live in poverty. ā€œIf weā€™re asking anyone to up-skill [for a cost] and these are the things they are going through, we are asking them to invest in their future versus their meal today.ā€Ā 

Pizarro believes that accessibility is more than just making the training free. He wants the community to understand that tech work is something they are innately capable of doing. 

ā€œTransTech was built on the foundation of nontraditional tech. It’s not always coding. It’s graphic design. It’s social media. It’s video editing. It’s anything that uses a piece of technology and nowadays almost everything uses a piece of technology,ā€ says Pizarro.

He emphasizes to participants: ā€œYou’re in tech and you don’t even know it,ā€ pointing out how many already utilize tech skills like marketing and monetization with their social media accounts.

Some people involved in the programming are nervous about entering the ā€œtech worldā€ because of headlines about tech layoffs. He makes sure to emphasize that unlike in some other jobs, tech companies often pay generous severance packages, which gives employees ā€œbreathing room.ā€ Pizzaro explains that ā€œonce you have experience with one tech company, you can go someplace else and make a substantial amount of money as well.ā€ 

While TransTech is designed for the gender-diverse community, the programming is open to everyone Pizarro explains. ā€œWe just ask that you don’t be transphobic.ā€ (Or any of the other -phobics too, he says, listing them off.) He also emphasizes that this allows trans members who are not out to comfortably participate. 

Pizarro wants everyone to understand that they donā€™t just belong in tech, but they make tech better. ā€œTech is most profitable when you have diverse people building the tech and using the tech,ā€ Pizarro says. ā€œThere is an intentional funding as well as support to diversity tech because they understand how that impacts the product.ā€

He also reminds participants that they have developed transferrable skills in every part of their lives. ā€œI like to tell people if you can manage your life as a trans person in the United States or anywhere you can manage a project.ā€

Angelica Ross was a self-taught coder before she hit it big with ā€˜Pose.ā€™ (Washington Blade file photo by Linus Berggren)
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Fire by arson forced temporary shutdown of Glorious Health Club

Spa and art gallery catering to gay
men expects to reopen in August

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(Photo from Glorious Health Club's Facebook page)

In a little noticed development, D.C.ā€™s Glorious Health Club, which bills itself as a spa, art gallery, and community center catering to gay men, was forced to close on May 19 after one or more unidentified suspects ignited a fire inside the club that D.C. fire department officials have ruled an act of arson. 

Robert Siegel, the clubā€™s owner, told the Washington Blade that he and investigators with the D.C. Fire and Emergency Medical Services Department believe one or more yet unidentified suspects broke into the kitchen of the former warehouse building where the club is located at 2120 West Virginia Ave., N.E.  

According to Siegel, investigators with the fire departmentā€™s arson squad believe a flammable liquid was used to start the fire in the kitchen and in two other locations within the building.

ā€œThree separate fires were started,ā€ Siegel said. ā€œThey started one on a staircase and one on the upstairs storage area,ā€ he said in addition to the one in the kitchen. He said about 40 patrons were in the club at the time the fire started, and all were able to leave without injury. 

Siegel said the fire caused $500,000 worth of damage to his building, with some of the damage caused ā€” understandably he said ā€” by fire fighters who had to rip open doors and break through the roof to gain access to the flames that engulfed parts of the interior of the building. He said he arranged for repair work to begin after the fire was extinguished.

ā€œI expect weā€™ll be reopening in about a month from now,ā€ he said. ā€œAnd weā€™ll be a bigger and better place.ā€

Fortunately, Siegel said, most of the artwork and art exhibits located in the club were not damaged.

ā€œIt was basically the kitchen, patio, and the roof,ā€ he said, adding that much of the solar panels he had on the roof were destroyed by the fire or by firefighters seeking to gain access to the building. 

ā€œAnd the fire was so hot it did structural damage to the roof,ā€ he said. ā€œIt actually melted steel. Weā€™re talking about 50-foot steel beams that have to be replaced,ā€ he told the Blade. ā€œThatā€™s $100,000 right there.ā€Ā 

Vito Maggiolo, a spokesperson for the D.C. Fire and Emergency Medical Services Department, said the fire was ā€œruled incendiary/arsonā€ and isĀ ā€œunder active investigation.ā€Ā 

It could not immediately be determined if one or more people responsible for the fire targeted the Glorious Health Club because itā€™s a gay community establishment. 

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Chilean capital Pride parade participants, activists attacked

Men wearing hoodies disrupted June 29 event in Santiago

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A group of hooded men attacked participants in the Chilean capital's annual Pride parade on June 29, 2024. (Photo courtesy of the Movement for Homosexual Integration and Liberation)

A group of hooded men on June 29 attacked LGBTQ activists and others who participated in the Chilean capital’s annual Pride parade.

Witnesses said the men punched and kicked activists and parade participants, threatened them with a skateboard, threw stones and paint at floats and damaged parade infrastructure. The men also broke a truck’s headlight.

The Movement for Homosexual Integration and Liberation, a Chilean LGBTQ rights group known by the acronym Movilh, strongly condemned the acts of violence, calling them deliberate attempts to disrupt a peaceful and safe demonstration.

ā€œVandalism that seeks to transgress the peaceful trajectory of our demonstrations and that is only useful to the interests of the homo/transphobic sectors,” denounced Movilh.

The attack occurred when the hooded men tried to break through the security fence protecting the participants and the truck that was at the beginning of the parade.

“As we do every year, we fence the truck with our volunteers to prevent anyone from being run over or hurt by the wheels,” said Movilh. “The hooded men approached the fence to break it, hitting our volunteers and people outside of our organization with their feet and fists who, in an act of solidarity, tried to dissuade them.”

The motives behind this attack seem to be related to previous calls on social networks to boycott the event, although the organizers stressed that violent acts are alien to the parade’s inclusive and celebratory purpose.

Movilh spokesperson Javiera ZĆŗƱiga told the Washington Blade that “after the attack that we faced during the Pride March, we published in our social networks the few images that were available from that moment.” 

“What we are basically asking is that anyone who has seen something and can recognize any of the aggressors write to our email or (contact us) through our social networks so that we can file complaints and do whatever is necessary to find those responsible.”

ZĆŗƱiga stated that “not only was there aggression against people, but there was also damage to private property because they broke one of the truck’s headlights.”

“So for these two reasons we are looking for anyone who may have information to contact us,” she said.

The incident has generated widespread condemnation within the LGBTQ community and outside of it. They say it highlights the need to protect human rights and diversity and promote respect for them.

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