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Stand up with Scouts for Equality

D.C. fundraiser to benefit group’s important work

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Zach Wahls, gay news, Washington Blade
Zach Wahls, gay news, Washington Blade

Executive Director of Scouts for Equality Zach Wahls (Photo courtesy of Change.org)

As a boy growing up in New York City, Scouting was important to me. My parents started me in Scouting as a Cub Scout and I went through the ranks as a Boy Scout, Explorer, and Explorer Advisor. I became involved with Scouting’s National Committee on Scouting for the Handicapped when I moved to D.C. to direct the follow-up to the White House Conference on Handicapped Individuals/Implementation Unit for the Carter administration.  I was never “out” during those years of my involvement with the Scouts. That was in a time when it was much harder to come out as gay or lesbian.

I went to summer camp at Ten Mile River, a Scouting camp originally endowed to the Boy Scouts by then-Gov. Franklin Roosevelt, and my first major trip out of New York was a bus ride across country to attend the 25th Boy Scout Jamboree in Colorado Springs. On the way we stopped at Philmont Scout Ranch in New Mexico. It was an amazing experience for a 13-year- old growing up on the streets of Manhattan. Those were experiences you could only get as a Scout.

Today much has changed and adults and even boys and girls are much more comfortable being out about who they are. For the Girl Scouts it has never been a big issue, but until Jan. 1, 2014 you couldn’t become a Boy Scout if you were gay. Now we all know during those years of prohibiting membership in the Scouts to gay boys and men, thousands of Scouts and their leaders were gay. But until 2014 young men had to hide that fact and the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) chose to keep their heads buried in the sand and pretend these Scouts didn’t exist.

Then along came a group called Scouts for Equality. They are a 501(c) (3) organization founded in 2012 composed largely of Boy Scouts of America alumni dedicated to ending the BSA’s ban on gay members and leaders. They believe since Scouting provides youth with an opportunity to try new things, provide service to others, build self-confidence, and reinforce ethical standards it should be open to all young men. Scouts for Equality believes these opportunities reward Scouts throughout their lives by improving their relationships, their work lives, their family lives, and the values by which they live. The core leadership of Scouts for Equality all earned Scouting’s highest award — Eagle Scout.

The first goal of Scouts for Equality was met when in May of 2013 it won a vote that changed the policy and admitted gay Scouts. But that vote only went half-way and there is still blatant discrimination by the Boy Scouts, which will kick out a gay Scout at age 18 and not allow them to become a leader in the organization. Changing this incoherent policy is now the mission of Scouts for Equality and everyone who believes in fairness and equality should support them in this mission.

I had the good fortune to sit down and talk with Zach Wahls, executive director of Scouts for Equality. He has moved its offices to D.C. Many know Zach from his incredible speech as a 19-year-old University of Iowa student when he spoke about the strength of his family during a public forum on House Joint Resolution 6 in the Iowa House of Representatives. Wahls, who has two moms, spoke out to oppose House Joint Resolution 6, which would have ended marriage equality in Iowa.

Zach shared the work he is now doing with Scouts for Equality and the need the organization has to raise money to continue their efforts. Like all small non-profits getting the message out is a huge step toward success and that costs money. There is no question about the commitment and value of the organization. What Zach explained to me, and I admit surprised me, is the relationship between the Mormon Church and Scouting. Fully 38,000 Scout units in the United States are sponsored (or ‘chartered’ in BSA parlance) by the Mormon Church. While Equality Utah negotiated with the legislature in Utah to move forward on legislation to ban discrimination against the LGBT community one of the biggest exemptions in the bill is that it doesn’t apply to the BSA. The larger LGBT community and our allies can’t accept the ban on gay leaders in the Boy Scouts and we have to aggressively speak out on this and fight it.

One way we can help is to join Zach and Scouts for Equality at their fundraiser on Tuesday, April 14 at the Longview Gallery, 1234 9th St., N.W., from 6–8 p.m. Tickets are available starting from $50 at the door or online at scoutsforequality.org/events. I hope you will join me and others that evening as we stand up for full civil and human rights for the LGBT community.

 

Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBT rights and Democratic Party activist. He writes regularly for the Blade.

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Thank you, Mayor Bowser

An impressive record of accomplishment for D.C.

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D.C. Mayor Muriel Bowser (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

Thank you, Mayor Muriel Bowser, for all you have done for our beautiful city. I am proud to say I have been a supporter of yours since you first announced your run for City Council in Ward 4, when you took some of my suggestions for your first speech. I have known since then what an amazing woman, politician, leader, and now mother, you are. You have moved our city forward in so many ways no one could have anticipated when you were first elected.

You have always proven your mettle, and your ability to rise above the chaos, and done the right thing for all the people of the District. Whether it was during economic uncertainty created by others, the pandemic, the backlash against police after the murder of George Floyd, during the first Trump administration, or the ongoing crisis, continuing today after the felon was elected for a second time. This time, contrary to his first term, he has even more venal people around him. They are acting out their fascist beliefs, and directing him, as he threatens the very basis of home rule. You have stood your ground, and done it with grace and smarts. You managed to work through the budget crisis, and Congress’s attempt to derail all the progress you have made, by not letting us spend a billion dollars of our own money. You have been walking a tightrope, and managing to keep our city from falling into his hands.  Not everyone has understood how difficult that has been. 

Then you managed to get James Comer (R-Ken.), chair of the House Oversight Committee, to support your efforts to have 180 acres of valuable land, the RFK site, turned over to the District for redevelopment. After that, you achieved your goal of getting the Commanders to agree to move back to D.C.; in the process securing the largest private investment ever for the District, the $3.7 billion the team’s owners agreed to pay to build a new domed stadium. That being only the catalyst for an entire new community with 6,000 units of housing, including affordable housing, a supermarket, hotel, sports complex for students in D.C., parks, nature trails, and more. 

While balancing budgets and fighting crime, you have had to deal with the felon in the White House every day. Some accused you of acquiescing to the felon when what you were actually doing was saving our city from the even worse disasters he could visit upon us.

You understood to rebuild the economy Trump and the pandemic worked to destroy, you needed to look at other options. You rightly determined part of what D.C. needed to grow was a sports economy. When Monumental Sports owner Ted Leonsis was trying to move the Capitals and his business out of the District for pure greed; you worked behind the scenes and successfully kept them here. Prior to that you engineered a public/private partnership between the city, and DC United, to get Audi field built. 

Then besides sports you have worked with the private sector to begin the work of converting empty office buildings in the downtown area, into apartments, which will generate new needed taxes for the District. You oversaw the reconstruction of the Frederick Douglass Memorial Bridge, and the redevelopment of the South Capitol Street corridor. Along with all this you have overseen the rebuilding of schools, sports fields, recreation centers, and libraries across the city. In the past five years you have added nearly 10,000 affordable housing units in the District, built new shelters for the homeless, and a new hospital in Southeast D.C. 

You have fought for fairness and equality for the LGBTQ community. You didn’t just walk in our parades, but worked to make them successful. You added budget money to build a new LGBTQ community center, and money to support WorldPride, while the felon’s policies threatened it in every way.  After years of many of us trying to get the city to take responsibility, and fund, the annual High Heel Race, you were the mayor who finally agreed to do it. You have always stood proudly with the LGBTQ community that I am a part of, in large and small ways, both in public and privately. 

You now have one more year to serve as mayor, and I can’t wait to see what you will yet accomplish. It will not be an easy time, as we saw the day after you announced you would not run again. You, and we, faced the tragic shooting of the two National Guard members from West Virginia, who walked our streets at the felon’s orders. But I am confident your energy and drive, your smarts, and understanding of people, will allow you to deal with this and won’t let you stop working for us until the minute the next mayor of the District of Columbia is sworn in at noon, Jan. 1, 2027. 

It is clear to all of us, that person, he, or she, will have very large shoes to fill. Mayor Bowser, we all owe you a debt of gratitude for all you have done for D.C. I for one look forward to all you will do in the future; in whatever area you choose to work. I know your work is far from done.


Peter Rosenstein is a longtime LGBTQ rights and Democratic Party activist.

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Stand with displaced queer people living with HIV

Dec. 1 is World AIDS Day

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Today, on World AIDS Day, we honor the resilience, courage, and dignity of people living with HIV everywhere especially refugees, asylum seekers, and queer displaced communities across East Africa and the world.

For many, living with HIV is not just a health journey it is a journey of navigating stigma, borders, laws, discrimination, and survival.

Yet even in the face of displacement, uncertainty, and exclusion, queer people living with HIV continue to rise, thrive, advocate, and build community against all odds.

To every displaced person living with HIV:

• Your strength inspires us.

• Your story matters.

• You are worthy of safety, compassion, and the full right to health.

• You deserve a world where borders do not determine access to treatment, where identity does not determine dignity, and where your existence is celebrated not criminalized.

Let today be a reminder that:

• HIV is not a crime.

• Queer identity is not a crime.

• Seeking safety is not a crime.

• Stigma has no place in our communities.

• Access to treatment, care, and protection is a human right.

As we reflect, we must recommit ourselves to building systems that protect not punish displaced queer people living with HIV. We must amplify their voices, invest in inclusive healthcare, and fight the inequalities that fuel vulnerability.

Hope is stronger when we build it together.

Let’s continue to uplift, empower, and walk alongside those whose journeys are too often unheard.

Today we remember.

Today we stand together.

Today we renew hope.

Abraham Junior lives in the Gorom Refugee Settlement in South Sudan.

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Perfection is a lie and vulnerability is the new strength

Rebuilding life and business after profound struggles

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I grew up an overweight, gay Black boy in West Baltimore, so I know what it feels like not to fit into a world that was not really made for you. When I was 18, my mother passed from congestive heart failure, and fitness became a sanctuary for my mental health rather than just a place to build my body. That is the line I open most speeches with when people ask who I am and why I started SWEAT DC.

The truth is that little boy never really left me.

Even now, at 42 years old, standing 6 feet 3 inches and 225 pounds as a fitness business owner, I still carry the fears, judgments, and insecurities of that broken kid. Many of us do. We grow into new seasons of life, but the messages we absorbed when we were young linger and shape the stories we tell ourselves. My lack of confidence growing up pushed me to chase perfection as I aged. So, of course, I ended up in Washington, D.C., which I lovingly call the most perfection obsessed city in the world.

Chances are that if you are reading this, you feel some of that too.

D.C. is a place where your resume walks through the door before you do, where degrees, salaries, and the perfect body feel like unspoken expectations. In the age of social media, the pressure is even louder. We are all scrolling through each other’s highlight reels, comparing our behind the scenes to someone else’s curated moment. And I am not above it. I have posted the perfect photo with the inspirational “God did it again” caption when I am feeling great and then gone completely quiet when life feels heavy. I am guilty of loving being the strong friend while hating to admit that sometimes I am the friend who needs support.

We are all caught in a system that teaches us perfection or nothing at all. But what I know for sure now is this: Perfection is a lie and vulnerability is the new strength.

When I first stepped into leadership, trying to be the perfect CEO, I found Brené Brown’s book, “Daring Greatly” and immediately grabbed onto the idea that vulnerability is strength. I wanted to create a community at SWEAT where people felt safe enough to be real. Staff, members, partners, everyone. “Welcome Home” became our motto for a reason. Our mission is to create a world where everyone feels confident in their skin.

But in my effort to build that world for others, I forgot to build it for myself.

Since launching SWEAT as a pop up fundraiser in 2015, opening our first brick and mortar in 2017, surviving COVID, reemerging and scaling, and now preparing to open our fifth location in Shaw in February 2026, life has been full. Along the way, I went from having a tight trainer six pack to gaining nearly 50 pounds as a stressed out entrepreneur. I lost my father. I underwent hip replacement surgery. I left a relationship that looked fine on paper but was not right. I took on extra jobs to keep the business alive. I battled alcoholism. I faced depression and loneliness. There are more stories than I can fit in one piece.

But the hardest battle was the one in my head. I judged myself for not having the body I once had. I asked myself how I could lead a fitness company if I was not in perfect shape. I asked myself how I could be a gay man in this city and not look the way I used to.

Then came the healing.

A fraternity brother said to me on the phone, “G, you have to forgive yourself.” It stopped me in my tracks. I had never considered forgiving myself. I only knew how to push harder, chase more, and hide the cracks. When we hung up, I cried. That moment opened something in me. I realized I had not neglected my body. I had held my life and my business together the best way I knew how through unimaginable seasons.

I stopped shaming myself for not looking like my past. I started honoring the new ways I had proven I was strong.

So here is what I want to offer anyone who is in that dark space now. Give yourself the same grace you give everyone else. Love yourself through every phase, not just the shiny ones. Recognize growth even when growth simply means you are still here.

When I created SWEAT, I hoped to build a home where people felt worthy just as they are, mostly because I needed that home too. My mission now is to carry that message beyond our walls and into the city I love. To build a STRONGER DC.

Because strength is not perfection. Strength is learning to love an imperfect you.

With love and gratitude, Coach G.


Gerard Burley, also known as Coach G, is a D.C.-based fitness entrepreneur.

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