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Best of Gay D.C. XIV
Blade readers choose the best in nightlife, people, dining and community

ON THE COVER: Destiny B. Childs (Best Drag Queen) gets her makeup attended to by Wendy Rieger (Best TV personality) as Drew Fisher and Tim Baird, bartenders at Number Nine (Hottest Bar Staff) keep them fortified with the Lemon Squeeze (Best Cocktail from Duplex Diner), beer from D.C. Brau (Best Brewery), Krispy Kreme donuts (Best Donuts), pizza from &Pizza (Best Pizza) and more at the Town Patio (Best Outdoor Drinking). Decor courtesy Miss Pixie’s (Best Second Hand Stuff). (Concept and Washington Blade photo by James Neal)
The High Heel Race, the Walk to End HIV, the Town Halloween costume contest, the HRC National Dinner and yes, the Washington Blade’s Best of Gay D.C. readers’ poll edition, local gay October traditions all.
For our 14th installment, we decided to cast the net wide — you voted in 97 categories (up from 73 last year) with about 5,000 nominations and 20,000 votes.
From bars, venues and restaurants we’ve enjoyed for years to places we’d never even heard of but can’t wait to try, the fun of this issue is the memories it inspires — like that table you bought at Miss Pixie’s and can’t imagine life without — to starting a list of places to track down like the Red Hook Lobster Truck.
The profiles were written by Patrick Folliard, Mariah Cooper, Brian T. Carney and Kristen Hartke.
The entire Washington Blade staff congratulates each of this year’s winners and finalists.
PEOPLE
Lifetime Achievement
Vice President Joseph Biden

U.S. Vice President Joe Biden (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
Vice President Joseph Biden, delivering the keynote address at the Human Rights Campaign’s national dinner earlier this month, touted the significance of the court ruling on marriage, but also turned toward other issues relevant to the LGBT community.
“The great arc of justice is the journey of this nation, and it continues to move in the right direction,” Biden said. “We’re moving closer and closer to the animating spirit of America because of all of you, not me, because of all of you.”
Although he’s previously articulated support for comprehensive legislation prohibiting anti-LGBT discrimination, Biden took the opportunity of his speech to explicitly endorse the Equality Act, which would amend the Civil Rights Act and the Fair Housing Act to include sexual orientation and gender identity.
“I strongly support the Equality Act, and it will pass, it will pass,” Biden said. “It may not pass this Congress. It will pass because it’s simple and it’s straightforward.” Biden’s support for the Equality Act makes him the first official in the Obama administration to explicitly endorse the bill.
Biden in 2012 dubbed transgender rights the “civil rights issue of our time,” an assertion he repeated this month as he commended Defense Secretary Ashton Carter for starting a review expected to lead in May to an end of the ban on openly transgender service.
“It took the secretary of defense about 10 minutes,” Biden said. “In July 2015 no longer is there any question, transgender people are able to serve in the United States military.” “All Americans who are able to serve physically should be able to serve,” Biden added.
Although Biden voted for the Defense of Marriage Act in 1996 as a senator from Delaware, he later changed his position and opposed it. He opposed efforts to amend the U.S. Constitution to ban same-sex marriage that began in 2002 and voted against the Federal Marriage Amendment in 2006.
Most Committed Activist
Ruby Corado

Ruby Corado (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Casa Ruby
2822 Georgia Ave., N.W.
casaruby.org
Runner-up: Rayceen Pendarvis
Best Council Member
Jack Evans (Ward 2)

Jack Evans (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: David Grosso
Hottest Local Pro Athlete
Bryce Harper

Bryce Harper (Photo courtesy of the Washington Nationals
Washington Nationals
Runner-up: Ali Krieger
Best Massage
Eddie Weingart

Eddie Weingart (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Che Young
Best Personal Trainer
Gerard Burley

Gerard Burley (Photo by Scott Henrichsen)
“Coach G”
Runner-up: Anya Maleknasri
Best Doctor
Dr. Raymond Martins

Dr. Raymond Martins (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Whitman-Walker Health
1701 14th St., N.W.
1525 14th St., N.W.
2301 Martin Luther King Jr. Ave., S.E.
Runner-up: One Medical
Best Real Estate Agent
Valerie Blake

Valerie Blake (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Stacey Williams-Zeiger
Best Rehoboth Real Estate Agent
Chris Beagle

Chris Beagle (Photo courtesy of Beagle)
Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices
Runner-up: Barbara Morales
Best Rehoboth Bartender
Chris Chandler (Purple Parrot)

Chris Chandler (Photo courtesy of Chandler)
Runner-up: Andrew Ennis (Blue Moon)
Best Amateur Athlete
Jeff Larivee (Stonewall Kickball)

Jeff Larivee (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Matt Pearce (D.C. Gay Flag Football League)
Best Local Columnist
Ezra Klein (Vox)

Ezra Klein (Photo courtesy of Klein)
Runner-up: John Kelly (Washington Post)
Best Bartender
Sarah Slocum

Sarah Slocum (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Jayson Smith (JR.’s)
Luckily for the patrons at Freddie’s Beach Bar, a perennial favorite in Crystal City (in, as they say, “YES, honey, VIRGINIA!”), bartender Sarah Slocum really enjoys her job, saying, “I love that when I arrive at work, I feel like I’m walking into a party with all my friends already there — I just happen to be the one that gets to make all the drinks!”
Whether you’re there for karaoke, bingo or a Freddie’s Follies drag show, there’s really never a dull moment at Freddie’s, although Slocum confesses to also enjoying the quieter nights when she can chat in a more leisurely way with customers. While she has a particular affinity for mixing martinis, Slocum likes presenting the Flashing Flamingo, an in-your-face concoction of watermelon and pomegranate vodkas and lip-puckering juices that arrives with a flashing ice cube floating in the depths of a fishbowl-like glass: “It definitely lends some liquid courage to help you get up and sing karaoke,” she says. (KH)
Freddie’s Beach Bar & Restaurant
555 South 23rd St., Arlington
Best Stylist
Enders Barbaran

Enders Barbaran (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Bang Salon’s Metropole location
Runner-up: Shar Raigner
After working in accounts payable for several years, Enders Barbaran was ready for a change.
“I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do, but I knew it had to be something different and I knew it had to happen fast.” So without a lot of thought, he went to work as a shampoo assistant at Bang Salon’s Metropole location where his then-roommate was working as a stylist.
“Immediately I liked it,” says Barbaran. “I instinctively like to bring out the best in my clients whatever the job. The salon is an environment where I can do that.”
After several months on the job, Barbaran figured he could do what the stylists were doing so he enrolled in cosmetology school. For the next year he attended classes by day and shampooed clients in the evening. Following graduation, he received further training at Bang and became a full-fledged stylist with his own chair in 2009.
“I thank both Bang’s owner and my manager,” says Barbaran. “They had a lot of faith in me. I wouldn’t be where I am without them.”
Barbaran grew up in Lima, Peru, surrounded by a family comprised of women. “I loved playing with my cousins’ hair,” says the stylist. “And even when I was working in accounts payable I played with my female co-worker’s hair. I’ve always liked hair. I’d just never thought to make it a profession.”
Today, Barbaran remains at Bang Salon where he cuts and colors both men and women. “My clients are like family to me and I want them to be happy. I’m humbled to have won among a field of excellent stylists. I didn’t campaign to win this. It’s truly a gift from my clients.” (PF)
Bang Salon Metropole
1519 15th St., N.W.
Best Lawyer
Michele Zavos

Michele Zavos (Photo courtesy Zavos Juncker Law Group)
Zavos Juncker Law Group
Runner-up: Patrick Menasco
Michele Zavos has been an attorney in the LGBT community for a long time. And throughout her career, she’s witnessed a lot of change.
“Most of it has come slowly, but over the last few years things have happened more quickly,” she says.
As the managing partner and founder of Zavos Juncker Law Group, Zavos has litigated and helped change policy in the District of Columbia, Maryland, and the Commonwealth of Virginia to extend legal protections to LGBT clients. She was the winning attorney in Port v. Cowan, in which the Maryland Court of Appeals held in May of 2012 that Maryland must recognize valid same-sex marriages from other jurisdictions, which predated the passage of marriage equality in Maryland.
“Fifty percent of our clients are LGBT,” says Zavos who is married to Ellen Cull, her partner of 22 years. “We’re a family law firm on the cutting edge for developing LGBT protection and representing people in difficult circumstances as a result of how family law has worked.”
In 1982, Zavos started the first “Maybe Baby” group for lesbians and gay men considering having children. “My daughter who is 30 was born with a donor dad,” says Zavos. “So this is my passion and interest and I’ve been fortunate to make it into a law practice. In family law there remains a ways to go regarding the rights of non-biological parents in same-sex relationships and marriages. For LGBT people in general there’s still a lot to do, particularly surrounding the area of trans rights and employment and discrimination, but that’s outside of my practice area.”
Looking ahead, Zavos says she is committed to further expanding the boundaries that protect LGBT families. (PF)
Zavos Junker Law Group
8455 Colesville Rd., No. 1500
Silver Spring, Md.
Best Artist
Chris Jay

Chris Jay (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: David Claypool
“Since I first started hanging out in D.C. three years ago, I wanted to win this,” says Chris Jay, a professional photographer in the Baltimore/Washington area. “Last year I wasn’t even nominated, and this year I turned up in three categories. It’s the result of a lot of hard work.”
Jay, who’s been taking photographs for 20 years, is currently focusing on a project titled “Kingxtaposition,” a collection of work capturing the many faces of drag kings. Her subjects to date have primarily been members of the D.C. Kings, a troupe with which she’s performed. But Jay has plans to expand.
Based in Howard County, Maryland, Jay wants to take her project on the road.
“The goal is to start traveling the country and meeting kings and photographing them. This project is big, but it’s not something I’m doing for money. I just want to tell stories from the perspective of someone who changes through the process of performing. I want to keep digging into that.”
At her business, Chris Jay Photos, Jay shoots portraits of performers, small business owners and local artists.
“I keep my prices reasonable so people can afford to promote themselves. I like to help them realize what they see in their heads.”
Her introduction to photography was at a JC Penny Portrait Studio where she worked after graduating from high school. “During the first Christmas season, I shot bazillions of family portraits and loved it. After that I worked for a company taking school portraits for seven years.”
Jay’s most personal work consists of self-portraits documenting her struggles with depression. “I like to raise awareness of what it’s like to live with a mental illness. My everyday life isn’t easy. But once I get going, it’s hard to stop me.” (PF)
Best Businessperson
Howard Brooks

Howard Brooks (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Scott Roewer, The Organizing Agency
The talented physician Howard L. Brooks, MD, has been medical director at the popular SKIN Cosmetic Dermatology Center of Georgetown since 2007. He is recognized as a leader in non-invasive body and facial rejuvenation for men and women.
Brooks says that SKIN blends the professional services of a physician’s office with the relaxing environment of a day spa, but emphasizes that patients need to play an active role in the health of their skin. SKIN offers clients a wide array of aesthetic, cosmetic and medical treatment options.
Brooks and the staff at SKIN have received overwhelmingly positive reviews. Patients appreciated their efficiency and friendliness and praised Brooks for his ability to listen and ask great questions, his skill at making quick and clear recommendations, his caring manner and honesty.
Brooks is a graduate of Howard University College of Medicine. He completed his medical internship at Franklin Square Medical Center in Baltimore; his residency at Howard University Hospital included stints at Walter Reed Army Medical Center, Children’s National Medical Center and the Armed Forces Institute of Pathology.
He often appears as an expert resource for local and national media outlets including the Washington Blade, CNN, Fox Morning News, NewsChannel 8 and WTOP. He is an attending instructor for the University Health Center at University of Maryland and is the author (or co-author) of numerous scientific and clinical articles in peer reviewed journals and texts. He is also a member of the Capital Area Physicians for Human Rights and the Gay and Lesbian Medical Association. (BTC)
Dr. Howard Brooks
SKIN Dermatology of Georgetown
2233 Wisconsin Ave. N.W., no. 230
202-298-7546
Best Clergy
Bishop Allyson Abrams

Bishop Allyson Abrams (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Rev. David Lett
Bishop Allyson Abrams, founder and current pastor of Empowerment Liberation Cathedral, made headlines last year when she married Bishop Diana Williams. Abrams was serving as the first female pastor at Zion Progress Baptist Church in Detroit when she married Williams, who is a bishop emeritus with Washington’s Imani Temple African-American Catholic Congregation. Rumors of their wedding quickly spread through the congregation and Abrams resigned from the church.
The couple moved to D.C. and Abrams founded her new LGBT-affirming church, which currently holds services in the sanctuary of the Church of the Ascension in Silver Spring. (Empowerment Liberation Cathedral was named Best House of Worship and is profiled separately.)
Abrams graduated from Howard University with a Bachelor of Science in Mechanical Engineering. She received her master’s of divinity and her doctorate in ministry from United Theological Seminary. She is the author of three books and two of her sermons have been published in “The African American Pulpit.” She is also recognized for her magnificent singing voice and sang with the Young Adult Fellowship Ensemble at D.C.’s Metropolitan Baptist Church. She has also taught at Ashland Theological Seminary and Wayne County Community College and served as a doctoral mentor at Ecumenical Theological Seminary.
On a lighter note, Abrams also officiated at the 2014 wedding of singer Monifah Carter and her girlfriend Terez Thorpe on the final episode of the reality TV show “R&B Divas of Atlanta.”
Known for her fiery, stirring messages and electrifying prayers, she has been asked to preach at pulpits across the country. Abrams says her passion and gift is “preaching the gospel of Jesus Christ and helping God’s people.” She looks forward to continuing her social justice work and ministry at Empowerment Liberation Cathedral. (BTC)
Bishop Allyson Abrams
Empowerment Liberation Cathedral
633 Sligo Ave., Silver Spring
240-720-7605
empowermentliberationcathedral.org
Best Hill Staffer
Yesenia Chavez

Yesenia Chavez (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Kevin Knight
Yesenia Chavez is already a voice to be reckoned with on Capitol Hill. Since arriving in Washington in August 2013, this rising star has been an out and proud spokesperson for women, people of color and the LGBT community.
She’s currently a legislative assistant for U.S. Representative Raúl M. Grijalva, a Democrat from Arizona’s Third District. Her legislative portfolio includes LGBT issues, human rights, women’s rights, small business, gun violence, veterans’ affairs and voting rights. In addition, she serves as the staff contact for the Congressional LGBT Equality Caucus and the Congressional Asian Pacific American Caucus. Chavez began working on the Hill when she was selected as one of four Victory Congressional Interns by the Gay and Lesbian Victory Institute in 2013.
Chavez is also an At-Large Director for the LGBT Congressional Staff Association, which is an official, non-partisan congressional staff organization that promotes career development opportunities for LGBT congressional staffers. Chavez’s focus is on building member outreach toward women and staffers of color and she has initiated queer people of color and women’s lunches to build community and to strengthen the group’s diversity.
In 2014, Chavez was named one of the “20 Queer People of Color You Should Know” by Houston’s Outsmart Magazine. A graduate of the University of Houston, she received the University’s Community Involvement Scholarship from the LGBT Resource Center and the Difference Maker Award from the University Commission on Women. She’s also a Hometown Mentor for the College Success Foundation. (BTC)
Yesenia Chavez
1511 Longworth House Office Building
202-225-2435
Best Trans Advocate
Thomas Coughlin

Thomas Coughlin (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Ruby Corado
This is the second year that Thomas Coughlin has been named Best Trans Advocate in the Blade’s Best of Gay D.C. Readers’ Poll Awards. He’s a staff psychotherapist and transgender health advocate at Whitman-Walker Health and is also in private practice with an office near Dupont Circle.
A long-time D.C. resident, Coughlin joined the Army in 1986 and was stationed at the Pentagon. After his service, he decided to stay in the area and earned a master’s degree in Clinical Community Counseling from Johns Hopkins University He came out as gay in 1985 and began to come out as trans in 1999. He currently lives in Silver Spring with his wife and stepchildren (and their dog Maize).
In a 2014 Queery profile in the Blade, Coughlin said his LGBT heroes were “those in the community facing harassment, discrimination and oppression every single day, but still finding the courage to live their truth. Seriously, that’s the heroic stuff.” That passion clearly underlines his approach to counseling. As he says on his website, “sometimes creating or maintaining a happy, satisfying life requires help. I support you in your journey toward your true self.”
Coughlin has also been a leader in providing transgender cultural competency training to businesses, educational institutions and private agencies that wish to learn more about transgender lives. He works with organizations to help them understand and support transgender employees and assists professionals who wish to better serve their clients in providing compassionate and competent care to members of the transgender community. (BTC)
Thomas Coughlin, LPC, NCC
1633 Q St., N.W., Suite 210
Best Chef
José Andrés

José Andrés (Photo by Blair Getz Mezibov)
Runner-up: Mike Isabella, Mike Isabella Concepts
You can’t throw a plate of tapas in D.C. without hitting a José Andrés restaurant these days, so it’s no wonder that the ebullient Spanish-born chef would get the nod in this category.
With nearly a dozen restaurants in the region, it’s easy to get your hands on Andrés’ food, whether it’s a bocata — the Spanish version of a deli sandwich — from his roving food truck Pepe, Lebanese-inspired crispy Brussels sprouts at Zaytinya, or deviled eggs spiked with jalapeño at American Eats Tavern that speak to the chef’s exploration of his adopted country’s classic dishes. Andrés’ foray into fast-casual this year with the opening of the veggie-centric Beefsteak in Foggy Bottom and Dupont Circle solidified his role as a chef who wants to connect with every single diner in this city on some level, whether through tomatoes, turkey or tequila.
Still, even while building a veritable dining empire, Andrés has also committed considerable time and resources to supporting healthy eating efforts at D.C. Central Kitchen, teaching students at George Washington University about how the food supply chain affects global security and engaging local kids in First Lady Michelle Obama’s Let’s Move! campaign to fight childhood obesity. Always accessible, José Andrés is the kind of celebrity chef who knows how to keep it real, and that keeps us at his tables. (KH)
Best Straight Ally
Meghan Davies

Meghan Davies (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Maya Rupert
Meghan Davies, Whitman-Walker Health’s chief of operations and program integration, has supported D.C.’s LGBT community through her work with Whitman-Walker.
Her job has her overseeing many aspects of Whitman-Walker Health including community health, clinical infrastructure, therapy-based services and more.
Previously, Davies was Whitman-Walker Health’s Director of Community Health. She assisted with the Breast Health Initiative, HIV counseling, Whitman-Walker’s +1 HIV Peer Support Program and PALS, a program advocating for LGBT seniors.
Her other background efforts include being an HIV prevention volunteer in the Peace Corps. She also holds a master’s degree in public health from George Washington University. (MC)
Best Local TV Personality
Wendy Rieger

Wendy Rieger (Washington Blade photo by Jonathan Ellis)
Runner-up: Chuck Bell
NBC4’s Wendy Rieger stumbled upon broadcast journalism when she was a college drop-out looking to make money as an actress. She found a job reading the news on camera in Norfolk, Va., and fell in love with the business.
The job inspired Rieger to return to school and she earned her degree in broadcast journalism from American University.
Rieger, a frequent emcee for SMYAL’s fall brunches, was struck by the injustice young LGBT people faced when she was doing a story on SMYAL and at the time was not allowed to say the location for fear of it being attacked.
“What kind of insanity is that? In a civilized country,” Rieger says. “It turns my stomach to think that people still harbor that much hatred for something that is unlike them.”
Rieger says that growing up in the South and seeing the racism African Americans faced raised her awareness about how poorly people can be treated for being different. When she moved to D.C., she had gay friends and noticed similar injustices that made her want to speak out. She hopes her public persona can help LGBT issues progress in a positive direction.
“If my name in any way takes away some of the fear or anxiety someone may feel because this is an unknown to them and I can help show them that these people are people living their lives and it’s normal, it’s going to be for the greater good in the end,” Rieger says. (MC)
Local Hero
David Franco

David Franco (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
David Franco, principal and co-founder of real estate development Level 2 Development, has a passion for housing displacement that stems from a personal place.
Franco’s family owned Jay Dee’s Children’s Apparel, a discount department store in D.C., from 1937-1983 and were forced to shut down.
Franco, who spent his childhood growing up in the store, vividly remembers how he felt.
“I remember standing there across the street the day that the wrecking ball demolished the store,” Franco says. “It was really an impactful moment, just feeling displaced, feeling like my family had been displaced.”
That moment led Franco to spearhead housing preservation efforts. In 2005, Franco joined forces with Jubilee Housing to help preserve Cresthill Apartments for the Sankoka Tenants Association, a 48-unit building. The partnership led to creating home ownership opportunities for low- to medium-income residents specifically for the 14th Street corridor.
Franco, who also owns men’s clothing store Universal Gear on 14th Street, has also served on Mayor Fenty’s D.C. Housing and Community Development’s Housing Protection Trust Fund Board. (MC)
NIGHTLIFE
Best Cocktail
Lemon Squeeze

Lemon Squeeze (Washington Blade photo by James Neal)
Duplex Diner
2004 18th St., N.W.
202-265-7828
Runner-up: Sunday Sangria (1905 Bistro & Bar)
Best Drag Show
Ladies of Town

Town Danceboutique (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Fridays and Saturdays at 10:30 p.m.
Town Danceboutique
2009 8th St., N.W.
Runner-up: D.C. Kings
Best Gay-Friendly Straight Bar
Dacha Beer Garden

Dacha Beer Garden (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1600 7th St., N.W.
202-524-8790
Runner-up: Black Cat
Best Happy Hour &
Hottest Bar Staff

Bartenders at Number Nine, from left, <strong>Scott Peton</strong>, <strong>Jake Reif</strong> and <strong>Kieran McGuidan</strong>, serve patrons at happy hour. (Washington Blade photo by Damien Salas)
Number Nine
1435 P St., N.W.
Runner-up: Bear Happy Hour
Best Live Music
9:30 Club

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
815 V St., N.W.
Runner-up: Howard Theatre
Best Neighborhood Bar
Phase 1

Phase 1 (Washington Blade file photo by Nicole Reinertson)
525 8th St., S.E.
Runner-up: JR.’s
Best Outside-the-District Bar
Freddie’s Beach Bar

Freddie’s Beach Bar and Grill (Blade file photo by Michael Key)
555 S. 23rd St.
Arlington, Va.
Runner-up: Blue Iguana
Best Outdoor Drinking
Town Patio

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Town Danceboutique
2009 8th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Dacha Beer Garden
Best Guys Night Out
Secrets
1824 Half St., S.W.
Runner-up: Town
Best Girls Night Out
BARE by LURe

LURe (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Every third Saturday of the month at Cobalt
1639 R St., N.W.
Runner-up: Phase 1
Best Place to Find Someone Besides Grindr
Crew Club

Crew Club (Photo by Pete Exis)
1321 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Town
Best Rehoboth Bar
Blue Moon

Blue Moon (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
35 Baltimore Ave.
Rehoboth Beach, Del.
Runner-up: Aqua
Best Rooftop
Nellie’s Sports Bar

(Washington Blade photo by Hugh Clarke)
900 U St., N.W.
Runner-up: Penthouse Pool & Lounge
Best DJ
Matt Bailer

DJ Matt Bailer (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Rosie Hicks
For DJ Matt Bailer, the secret to his ongoing success boils down to the music.
“I don’t know how to throw a party per se. But I know how to play music that I love and think other people will love too.”
His two monthly dance parties, Peach Pit and Mixtape (with co-host DJ Shea Van Horn), have been staples of gay nightlife for six and seven years respectively. While Mixtape melds new and older music and rotates venues (Black Cat, 9:30, Howard Theatre and Town), Peach Pit is strictly ‘90s music and stays put at DC9.
Bailer also spins at Nellie’s on Fridays, and occasionally La Boum, a boozy brunch at L’Enfant Café in Adams Morgan. Unlike DJs who use laptops, Bainer relies on CDs, so technically, yes, he spins. “I describe myself as middle school,” Bailer says. “I’m somewhere between laptop and vinyl. My favorite music includes ‘90s, house, old hip hop, pop and remixes.”
Growing up in Camp Springs, Md., Bailer was hooked on radio. At 10, he was already listening to (and recording) Casey Kasem’s American Top 40. “I loved finding new music and introducing it to my family and friends. I still do.”
After studying theater at Duke University in North Carolina in the ‘90s, Bailer spent two-and-a-half years in Los Angeles DJing some, but mostly doing drugs. He returned to D.C. and got sober in 2003. Soon after he began picking up DJ gigs at Omega, a Guess Store and recovery sober dances. Eventually he connected with Cobalt and work became steadier. In 2009, he gave up his day job at an office and hasn’t looked back since.
“Today I feel like I’m doing what I’m on the planet to do. That may change one day, but not today.” (PF)
Best Burlesque Dancer
Private Tails

Private Tails (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: GiGi Holliday
Miss Private Tails is an international entertainer and professional ecdysiast who says her mission is to inspire and electrify. Born just outside of Hollywood, Calif., she has been performing burlesque since 2005 and has been based in D.C. for the past eight years. She is Miss Gay United States Capital City Femme Fatale (2013) and the eternal Miss Nubian DMV (2009) and was the First Miss Phase 1 (2010). She is also the regional promoter for Burlypicks, the only international talent competition focused on burlesque and variety.
Her scintillating act draws on a wide variety of influences including classical burlesque, hip-hop, boi-lesque and Broadway. She currently has more than 100 polished routines in her performance repertoire, but she also enjoys the creative process of developing new numbers and looks forward to the opportunity to whip up a fresh new performance for an enthusiastic audience. She’s been dancing and entertaining since childhood and received a bachelor’s degree in theater from Lycoming College in Williamsport, Pa., with a focus on both acting and directing.
Miss Private Tails proudly notes that she knows how to charm the large bills out of the pockets of her audience, but also notes that since burlesque is the “art of the tease,” she doesn’t necessarily have to show a lot of skin to have an entertaining performance. In fact, she cleans it up every year as the emcee of D.C. Youth Pride every April.
You can see her at Unfastened: DC at Phase 1 on Nov. 6. (BTC)
Miss Private Tails
Best Singer or Band
Frankie & Betty

Frankie and Betty (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Tom Goss
This is the second win for the “insanely fun queertastic group” Frankie & Betty. The bank kicked it off four years ago when Rachel Bauchman (singer, bass, guitar) and Jessie Strick (lead guitar) met at an open mic at Phase 2. With their love of pop culture references and obnoxious jokes, the duo immediately hit it off and started performing together. Six months ago they added drummer Judy Bad to the mix.
Frankie & Betty have become active members of the D.C. music community as well as hosts for local burlesque shows. Their style is fast, fun and light. Strick says, “It’s morphed into a really fun live show now. We love to banter and interact with the audience. We love joking around with each other and to play some fun songs in between.”
They say their musical influences are Florence and the Machine, Le Tigre, Tegan and Sara, Feist and Santigold, but (with tongues firmly planted in cheek), they also admit that MGD, JB, PBR and OPP are major influences. Strick says a recent highlight was playing the 9:30 Club for Phasefest. “That was by far the most exciting gig for the band to date,” she says. “We have all dreamed of playing that stage since we were little girls, so it was honestly a dream come true and a memory we will never forget.”
The band has been taking a break lately to celebrate Rachel’s wedding, but they will update their Facebook page when they start booking new gigs. And they offer this impish guarantee: “We make sure that every audience member leaves a performance with a smile on their face from having been a part of both a musical and comedic experience.” (BTC)
Frankie & Betty
Best Drag King
Avery Austin

Avery Austin (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Sebastian Katz
Avery Austin, the drag king persona of New Orleans native Anna Wimpelberg, was born in 2004 when Wimpelberg hit the drag king scene in Boston.
Since then, Wimpelberg joined Kings ‘N Things, an Austin, Texas drag king troupe, before moving to the District. Wimpelberg joined the now-defunct D.C. kings troupe in 2011.
She enjoys using plot lines and musicals to form her performances. She also likes to take inspiration from the television show “Glee” to create her character’s show.
When she isn’t performing, Wimpelberg is a HIV research specialist for Whitman-Walker Health. A graduate of Mount Holyoke College, she has degrees in psychology and education. (MC)
Best Drag Queen
Destiny B. Childs

Destiny B. Childs (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Summer Camp
You may have seen Destiny B. Childs (Richard Legg) performing at a number of local venues, but her act is anything but small. With stints at the Academy of Washington Inc., Ziegfeld’s/Secrets and Freddie’s Beach Bar, she has become a staple in the local drag community.
A Pensacola, Fla., native, Legg was stationed at Walter Reed when in the U.S. Army in 1996. He decided to stay in the area and later decided to try performing in drag in 2003. His drag mother Ophelia Bottoms (Charles McWilliams) praised his performance and with her encouragement, he continued performing.
Since then, Childs has continued performing all over the District. She regularly emcees on the main stage at Capital Pride and was Empress II in the Imperial Court of Washington two years ago. (MC)
Best Alt Party
Mixtape

Mixtape (Photo by David Claypool | kaloramaphoto.com)
Runner-up: Peach Pit
DJs Shea Van Horn and Matt Bailer host Mixtape, an alternative dance party, on the second Saturday of each month. Locations vary. The fourth annual Mixtape Halloween party is on Friday, Oct. 30 at the Howard Theatre. It’s at the 9:30 Club on Saturday, Nov. 14 and at the Black Cat on Saturday, Dec. 12.
DINING
Best Burger
Five Guys Burgers and Fries

(Photo by Ewan Munro; courtesy Flickr)
Various D.C. locations
Runner-up: Shake Shack
Best Coffee Shop
Tryst

Tryst (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
2459 18th St., N.W.
Runner-up: The Coffee Bar
Best Date Restaurant
Busboys & Poets

Busboys & Poets (Photo by Bossi; courtesy Flickr)
2021 14th St., N.W.
1025 5th St., N.W.
625 Monroe St., N.E.
Runner-up: Floriana
Best Dessert
Grassroots Gourmet

Grassroots Gourmet (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
104 Rhode Island Ave., N.W.
Runner-up: Three Fifty Bakery
Best French Restaurant
Le Diplomate

Le Diplomate (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
1601 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Bistrot Du Coin
Best Doughnut
Krispy Kreme
1350 Connecticut Ave., N.W.
Runner-up: Astro Donut
Best Ethiopian Restaurant
Dukem Ethiopian Restaurant

Dukem (Photo by trotnort; courtesy Flickr)
1114-1118 U St., N.W.
Runner-up: Ethiopie
Best Farmer’s Market
Eastern Market

Eastern Market (Photo by AgnosticPreachersKid; courtesy Wikimedia Commons)
225 7th St., S.E.
Runner-up: Dupont Circle
Best Italian Restaurant
Floriana Restaurant

Floriana (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1602 17th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Red Hen
Best Pizza
&pizza
1215 Connecticut Ave., N.W.
1250 U St., N.W.
1400 K St., N.W.
Runner-up: Pizza Paradiso
Best Pricey Restaurant That’s Totally Worth It
Palm Restaurant

The Palm (Photo by Zagat Buzz; courtesy Flickr)
1225 19th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Thai Crossing
Best Rehoboth Restaurant
Dos Locos

Drinks at Dos Locos (Photo courtesy Dos Locos)
208 Rehoboth Ave.
Rehoboth Beach, Del.
Runner-up: Blue Moon
Best Seafood Restaurant
Hank’s Oyster Bar

Hank’s Oyster Bar (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
1624 Q St., N.W.
1026 King St., Alexandria, Va.
633 Pennsylvania Ave., S.E.
Runner-up: Pearl Dive Oyster Palace
Best Steak Restaurant
Annie’s Paramount Steak and Seafood House

Annie’s Paramount Steak House (Washington Blade file photo by Michael Key)
1609 17th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Ruth’s Chris Steak House
Best Sushi
Sticky Rice
1224 H St., N.E.
Runner-up: Sushi Taro
Best Wine Bar
Barcelona

Barcelona (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1622 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Vinoteca
Best Restaurant You’d Wait in Line For
Rose’s Luxury
Runner-up: Barcelona

Rose’s Luxury (Photo by T. Tseng; courtesy Flickr)
Just two years ago, Rose’s Luxury was barely a twinkle in the eyes of D.C. diners, who were hard-pressed to understand why anyone would stand in line for up to four hours to get a table at this Capitol Hill gem.
With a 20-year lease, Rose’s Luxury aims to stand the test of time and chef-owner Aaron Silverman thinks that standing in line — that is, not taking reservations — is the best way to make the restaurant truly open for all, since no one can book up the tables months in advance. This begs a question: Is it worth it? The simple answer: yes.
There’s a reason why Rose’s Luxury has been racking up accolades from Bon Appetit — which named it America’s Best New Restaurant in 2014 — along with just about every news outlet in D.C.: the food is innovative, intelligent and undeniably special. On Rose’s current menu, you might find yourself with a salad of crispy pig’s ear with a fresh salsa of mango and cabbage or hand-cut chitarra, a porous pasta that holds sauce particularly well — in this case, a soffritto of caramelized cauliflower and white wine. So, go ahead and get in line. It’ll be worth the wait — and you can get a treat from nearby District Doughnut to munch until your table’s ready. (KH)
Rose’s Luxury
717 8th St., S.E.
202-580-8889
Best Virginia Winery
Linden Vineyards
Runner-up: Breaux Vineyards
Just an hour outside the Beltway lies an oasis of peace and tranquility, along with some pretty impressive wine. This is Linden Vineyards, where, thankfully, you won’t find buses full of tipsy tour-goers or hobby winemakers.
What you will find is Jim Law, a true working winemaker and former Peace Corps volunteer with deep roots in vineyard agriculture who is constantly tinkering with his vines in an effort to produce character-driven sauvignon blanc, riesling and chardonnay, just to name a few of the award-winning wines in its cellars. A visit to Linden is not to be undertaken lightly, and certainly not with a boisterous group of friends, as the vineyard will not accommodate groups larger than six and limits its deck and grounds on Saturdays and Sundays only to members of their Case Club (anyone who purchases a case of wine becomes a member automatically).
Whether or not you are part of the club, it’s worth it to arrive in time for the 11:30 a.m. weekend tours of the cellar and vineyard, offering serious insight into the craft of winemaking, which just might make you the star of the conversation at the next dinner party — when you arrive with, of course, a bottle or two from Linden’s cellars. (KH)
3708 Harrels Corner Rd., Linden, Va.
540-364-1997
Best Asian Restaurant
Beau Thai

Owners, from left, Ralph Brabham, Aschara Vigsittaboot and Drew Porterfield meet at the Shaw location of Beau Thai. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Thaitanic
The original location of Beau Thai opened in Shaw in 2010 under the direction of husbands Ralph Brabham and Drew Porterfield and chef Aschara Viggsittaboot with a goal to bring authentic Thai cuisine that didn’t rely on curry from a can.
Now expanded to new sites in Shaw and Mount Pleasant (with a noodle shop at the original spot on New Jersey Ave. NW), Beau Thai continues to impress diners with fresh ingredients and thoughtful preparation. Because the curry paste is actually made from scratch at Beau Thai, it’s worth ordering up at least one curry for the table — an interesting combination is the marinated duck with grapes, pineapple and tomato — and be sure to try the Pad Thai, a classic that can sometimes be made overly sweet, ostensibly to suit the American palate, but has a tangy undertone of tamarind here. The brunch menu at the Mount Pleasant location offers some fun fusion twists on the classics, from the Egg Drop “Grits” made with Thai rice soup to the Hangover Special, a tempting concoction of fried eggs with sweet Thai sausage and taro home fries. Top it all off with a Homemade Ginger Beer, which blends a ginger-lime purée with Singha, and that hangover will be just a memory. (KH)
Beau Thai
3162 Mount Pleasant St., N.W. (Mount Pleasant)
1550 7th St., N.W., Unit A (Shaw)
202-450-5317 or 202-450-5346
Best Boozy Brunch
La Boum

La Boum (Photo courtesy of L’Enfent Cafe)
Runner-up: Level One
As they like to say at La Boum, this is not your grandmother’s brunch. No, indeed. What you’ll find at La Boum, once it transforms from its slightly more staid persona as L’Enfant Cafe & Bar (think Clark Kent coming out of that phone booth dressed as Superman), is a raucous, Champagne-filled daytime house party, where the food’s OK but the alcohol is plentiful.
And, frankly, that’s not necessarily a bad way to spend a Saturday afternoon. Named one of the top 100 brunches in the country, La Boum offers two seatings on Saturdays, at 10 a.m. and 2 p.m., and reservations can sometimes be booked up several weeks in advance; once you pre-pay online at $29.50 per person (which includes three courses and cover charge, but not beverages), you can just sit back and get the party started once your reservation begins. Champagne bottles arrive wrapped in flaming sparklers, eggs Norvégienne will soak up the alcohol, the DJ keeps Katy Perry and Madonna spinning, and dancing on the tables — well, why not? (KH)
La Boum
2000 18th St., N.W.
202-319-1800
Best Local Brewery
DC Brau

D.C. Brau (Photo by Steph Harding Photo)
Runner-up: Capitol City
It’s hard to remember a time when there weren’t breweries and distilleries dotting the city, but, just a scant few years ago, D.C. was actually a hand-crafted alcohol desert. That all changed in 2009 when beer buddies Jeff Hancock and Brandon Skall decided to open the city’s first brewery in more than 50 years, locating their operations in a largely industrial neighborhood in Northeast D.C. just before the Maryland line.
First they turned out some really tasty brews that have now become mainstays in bars and grocery stores across the area, then the social media-savvy duo managed to do something pretty astonishing: They actually turned their off-the-beaten-path brewery into an unlikely weekend destination, luring food trucks, deejays and artists to create a hipster’s paradise of tastings and tours. Stop by on Friday evenings for half-priced pint night and don’t forget to wear closed-toe shoes for the free brewery tours on Saturday afternoons. (KH)
DC Brau
3178-B Bladensburg Rd., NE
202-621-8890
Best Caterer
Old Blue BBQ

Old Blue BBQ (Photo by Ella M. Photography)
Runner-up: Patrick Vanas Events
If you’re on the lookout for hosting an event with some good old Southern hospitality, Old Blue BBQ is ready to pile on the comfort food. An array of meats, including baby back ribs, brisket, salmon and tri-tip are smoked over locally sourced oak and maple — but the grilling doesn’t stop there. Bacon-wrapped jalapeño poppers, smoked tomato jam crostini, smoked artichoke dip (oh yes), and even grilled fruit drizzled with white chocolate are other ways that Old Blue kicks it up a notch, taking the menu from down-home barbecue to rustic chic, whether you’re looking to host a company picnic or a family wedding. (KH)
Old Blue BBQ
4580 Eisenhower Ave.
Alexandria, Va.
703-552-4544
Best Cheap Eats
Amsterdam Falafelshop

Amsterdam Falafel (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Chipotle
Not only does Amsterdam Falafelshop keep hours that are designed to cater to bleary hungover mornings as well as late nights stumbling home from the bar, this quick-service local chain left no doubt as to who they think their clientele are when they created a pot-pairing menu and $4.20 sandwiches all in celebration of April 20.
What’s not to love about a sandwich called the OG Kush, a combination of beets, turnips and tahini designed to complement the “woodsy undertones” of the OG Kush strain, a pairing said to promote a heightened sensory awareness? Whether your vice is weed or baba ganoush, Amsterdam Falafelshop has got you covered with fast falafel balls served either in pita or bowls, 22 toppings, and uber-crispy fries with a lip-smacking curried ketchup, all for less than the cost of that last cocktail you probably shouldn’t have ordered. (KH)
Amsterdam Falafelshop
2425 18th St. NW (Adams Morgan)
202-234-1969
1830 14th St. NW (Logan Circle/U Street)
202-232-6200
429 L’Enfant Plaza SW (L’Enfant Plaza)
Suite 420 Promenade
202-554-1111
Best Indian
Rasika

Rasika (Photo by David Liu; courtesy Flickr)
Runner-up: Ghar E Kabob
There’s a good reason why Rasika chef Vikram Sunderam won a James Beard Award last year — the flavors and textures coming from his kitchens at both the Penn Quarter and West End locations are layered yet distinct, playful yet refined, and clearly designed to make us rethink our preconceived notions about Indian food.
You’ll find no bland lentil mush here or doughy samosas; instead, look for bright splashes of saffron and fresh curry leaves, crisp shards of coconut and punches of vinegar, all hallmarks of what is probably the best Indian cuisine to be found anywhere in the United States — and we’ve got it right here in D.C. Even better, Rasika is a reasonably priced fine dining restaurant that is not stingy on its hours, being open for lunch, dinner and pretty much every holiday. It offers Sunday brunch at the West End restaurant with such delights as Coconut Jaggery Pancakes and Eggs Kejiriwal; and a chef’s tasting menu that proves Indian food can be perfectly paired with fine wines instead of just Taj Mahal. (KH)
Rasika
633 D St. NW (Penn Quarter)
202-637-1222
1190 New Hampshire Ave. NW (West End)
202-466-2500
Best Food Truck
Red Hook Lobster Pound
Runner-up: Rito Loco
There’s something about the friendly red gingham-clad exterior of the Red Hook Lobster Pound truck as it perches along the curb that just makes you want to don a bib and sink your teeth into a crustacean.
If you’re a New Englander longing for some lobstah — or just a wannabe — then this truck is the place to get your fix, whether it’s the Connecticut-style lobster roll, a simple concoction of buttered roll filled with chunks of lobster meat spritzed with fresh lemon juice, the classic Maine lobster roll dressed in housemade mayo, or the utterly decadent lobster mac ’n cheese — and don’t forget to add Cape Cod potato chips and Maine Root Soda. It’s kind of like having a day at the shore, even if it’s only 30 minutes on a bench at Farragut Square. (KH)
Red Hook Lobster Pound
Find out where the truck is on Twitter: @LobstertruckDC
202-341-6263
Best Sandwich
Taylor Gourmet

Taylor Gourmet (Photo by docmonstereyes; courtesy Flickr)
Runner-up: Sundervich
When two guys from Philly decided to open up a hoagie shop on the barely burgeoning H Street corridor back in 2008, the idea was to make really good, fresh sandwiches with homemade flair. Since then, Taylor Gourmet has expanded to 10 locations in the region, proving that apparently we were all hungry for a hoagie.
With an eye on quality, all the beef, pork, and turkey is roasted in-house, the bread is baked locally, and the Italian-style cured meats are sourced from Virginia, giving a decidedly local spin on Philadelphia-style cheesesteaks and Italian hoagies stuffed with everything from sausage, onion and peppers to hand-rolled meatballs topped with fresh marinara. While you’re there, don’t forget to order up a side of the crispy polenta fries — you won’t regret it. (KH)
Taylor Gourmet
Ten locations across D.C., Maryland and Virginia
COMMUNITY
Best Local Blog
Popville
Runner-up: BYT
Best Local Podcast
L.A.C.E. Media Podcast

Chris Jay of L.A.C.E. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Download at iTunes
Runner-up: Jellyvision
Most Useful App
Uber
Runner-up: Waze
Best Radio Station
Hot 99.5
Runner-up: WAMU 88.5
Best Real Estate Group
David Bediz
Bediz Group
1918 18th St., N.W. Courtyard No. 2
Runner-up: The Evan and Mark Team
Best Art Gallery
The Phillips Collection
1600 21st St., N.W.
Runner-up: Corcoran Gallery of Art
Best Car Dealership
Don Beyer Volvo of Winchester
4015 Valley Pike
Winchester, Va.
Runner-up: MWS of Alexandria
Best Apartment/Condo Building
The Shay
1924 8th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Atlantic Plumbing
Best Workout Spot
VIDA Fitness

Vida Fitness (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1517 15th St., N.W.
1612 U St., N.W.
999 9th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Elevate Fitness
Best Gayborhood
Logan Circle

Logan Circle (Photo public domain)
Runner-up: 17th Street
Best Hardware Store
Logan Hardware

Logan Hardware (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1734 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Annie’s Ace Hardware
Best Home Furnishings &
Best Second-Hand Stuff
Miss Pixie’s Furnishings and Whatnot

Miss Pixie’s (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1626 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Hudson & Crane
Best Hotel
The W

W Hotel (Photo courtesy of the W Hotel Washington, D.C.)
515 15th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Hotel Palomar
Best LGBT Social Group
Stonewall Sports

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Gay Men’s Chorus of Washington
Best LGBT Support Group &
Best Non-Profit
SMYAL

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Supporting and Mentoring Youth Advocates and Leaders
410 7th St., S.E.
Runner-up: HIPS
Best LGBT Sports Team
Washington Scandals Rugby Football Club

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Flippin’ Not Trippin’
Best Pet Business
Doggy Style Bakery, Boutique & Pet Spa
1825 18th St., N.W.
Runner-up: City Dogs Rescue
Best Place to Take Kids
Smithsonian’s National Zoo

(Photo by Quadell; courtesy Wikimedia Commons)
3001 Connecticut Ave., N.W.
Runner-up: Smithsonian’s National Air and Space Museum
Best Salon/Spa
Logan 14

(Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
1314 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: Bang Salon
Best Reason to Go to Baltimore
National Aquarium

The National Aquarium in Baltimore (Photo by Andrew Horne)
501 E. Pratt St., Baltimore
Runner-up: The Hippo
Best Theater
Kennedy Center for the Performing Arts

The Kennedy Center (Photo by Steve via Wikimedia Commons)
2700 F St., N.W.
Runner-up: Studio Theatre
Best Theater Production
“Dear Evan Hansen”

Laura Dreyfuss as Zoe and Ben Platt as Evan in ‘Dear Evan Hansen.’ (Photo by Margot Schulman; courtesy Arena)
Arena Stage
1101 6th St., N.W.
Runner-up: “Book of Mormon” (Kennedy Center)
Best Vet
CityPaws Animal Hospital
1823 14th St., N.W.
Runner-up: D.C. Metrovet
Best Rehoboth Business
Bad Hair Day
20 Lake Ave.
Rehoboth Beach, Del.
Runner-up: Blue Moon
Best Local Twitter Feed
@DCHomos
Runner-up: @popville
If you want to know what’s going on in LGBT D.C., you need to follow @DCHomos on Twitter. Described as “News, noise, food, men, sports, art, charity, fashion, TV, happy thoughts, all things gay and D.C. Sentinel, silent and sure,” it’s a delightful mélange of everything serious and sublime about the nation’s capital in 140 characters or less.
The mastermind behind @DCHomos is Josie Romero. When he moved to D.C. from Miami Beach six years ago, he didn’t know anyone in town. But with his experience in the tech industry, he knew that Twitter was just starting to catch on and that D.C. was one of the first cities to embrace tweeting.
So he decided to use the new technology to help build a circle of friends. That was before Twitter had a search function, so he looked for screen names that included “D.C.” He slowly compiled a list of kindred souls and started posting lists of local happy hours. About 18 months ago, Romero turned the feed in a different direction. He added a focus on news and social issues, especially marriage equality.
Basically, he describes the feed as “things I share on Twitter instead of Facebook.” He does note that the feed attracts a lot of negative feedback, which he tends to ignore.
“I’ve adopted a ‘Don’t Feed the Trolls’ policy. I try to keep things positive.”
As of press time, @DCHomos has made more than 110,000 tweets, is following 27,300 users and has over 75,300 followers. Romero has also started live tweeting events (he had a lot of fun at the recent Reel Affirmations “Paris Is Burning” mini-ball), so be sure to keep him in the loop. (BTC)
Best LGBT-Owned Business
The Organizing Agency

(Photo courtesy of the Organizing Agency)
Runner-up: Town
When out businessman Scott Roewer talks about organizing and closets, he’s not necessarily talking about politics. He’s probably talking about organizing your closets to harmonize your life. As Roewer likes to point out, “anyone can organize your space, but it takes a professional to organize you.”
After working as a music educator and an event planner, Roewer decided to apply his fervent entrepreneurial spirit and creative expertise to helping clients organize their lives. He founded the Organizing Agency in 2004 to help clients create productivity systems for their homes and offices. The Agency also provides stress-free moving planning and offers workshops on shaping spaces and managing time.
A native of Bellevue, Neb., Roewer earned his Certified Professional Organizer® designation in 2007 and is an active member of the National Association of Professional Organizers (NAPO). He is also the co-author of “Get Organized Today,” a book about strategic organizing, and has been a contributor to Time magazine, Better Homes and Gardens, MSNBC, Today, HGTV and Martha Stewart Living.
Inspired by the excess encountered in their work, the Organizing Agency team makes giving back to the community a priority. Roewer and his staff are active supporters of the Unstoppable Foundation, Habitat for Humanity, Dress for Success and Soles4Souls. He is also a member of the Capital Area Gay and Lesbian Chamber of Commerce.
Roewer has been widely recognized for his professional and philanthropic work. In 2008 NAPO-Washington, D.C. awarded him with its inaugural Professional Organizer of the Year Award and in 2012 NAPO recognized him with its highest honor, the Founders’ Award. In 2011, the U.S. Air Force Thunderbirds named him Joint Base Andrews’ “Hometown Hero,” an honor that included a flight with the Thunderbirds in their F-16 Fighter Jet. (BTC)
The Organizing Agency
811 4th St., N.W., Suite1013
202-249-8330
Most LGBT-Friendly Workplace
The Raben Group

The Raben Group (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Whitman-Walker Health
The Raben Group is deeply committed to inclusion and diversity in working with clients and in managing its workplace. Founded in 2001 by former Assistant Attorney General Robert Raben, the Raben Group has grown to more than 50 employees with offices in Washington, Los Angeles and New York City.
Its mission is to identify opportunities and solve problems for clients in the corporate, nonprofit, foundation and government sectors. The Raben Group is a multi-lingual, multi-cultural, diverse group of colleagues united not just by a profession, but by a common commitment to equality and justice. It brings together a diverse collection of professionals with deep roots in law and progressive public policy and works to solve complex public policy problems across a spectrum of issues.
The agency’s practice areas include strategic communications, diversity and community, and public policy advocacy, with a special emphasis on LGBT strategies. The Raben Group specializes in building bipartisan coalitions of allies (sometimes unlikely ones) to help achieve a client’s goals.
The firm is also dedicated to community service. According to its website, “We are united not only by our interest in public policy, but by our shared values. Many of us volunteer for philanthropic organizations. Others serve on the boards of national and local non-profits. As a firm, we help organize charity events and endeavor to donate a certain amount of our time to pro bono projects.” For example, Raben is also the founder of the March on Washington Film Festival.
And, they add, “We always keep our sense of humor.” That’s what keeps a workplace fresh. (BTC)
The Raben Group
1341 G St., N.W., 5th Floor
202-466-8585
Best House of Worship
Empowerment Liberation Cathedral

Bishop Allyson Abrams (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)
Runner-up: Foundry United Methodist Church
The Empowerment Liberation Cathedral has grown rapidly since it was founded by the dynamic Bishop Allyson Abrams last year. (Bishop Abrams was selected as the Best Clergy and is profiled separately.)
While it is growing, the Empowerment Liberation Cathedral has found a home at the Episcopal Church of the Ascension in Silver Spring. The Rector at Ascension is the openly lesbian Rev. Joan E. Beilstein, who befriended Abrams when she resigned from her position as pastor of a Detroit church after she came out in 2013.
The Empowerment Liberation Cathedral is an inclusive, welcoming congregation open to people of all backgrounds, straight or gay. As the mission statement makes clear, “Everyone is invited to experience our worship — no matter your gender, race, age, sexual orientation, identification, handicap or former faith background.” The church aims to provide a sense of worthiness and acceptance to all people and to transform lives through programs, services, advocacy and community action. It is affiliated with the Association of Welcoming & Affirming Baptist and the Fellowship of Metropolitan Community Churches.
In addition to Sunday services, the church offers a wide variety of activities. There are ministries focused on youth, seniors, singles, couples, people affected by HIV/AIDS, praise dance, music and social justice. There is also an active virtual ministry, which offers a conference call Bible study on Wednesday evenings, along with streaming services and a popular YouTube channel. Abrams has also launched a GoFundMe campaign to help spur the growth of the fledgling church. (BTC)
Empowerment Liberation Cathedral
633 Sligo Avenue, Silver Spring
240-720-7605
a&e features
Ryan Murphy’s ‘Monster’ vilifies the lesbian
Netflix show promotes stereotype that queer women are dangerous
Ryan Murphy’s “Monster: The Lizzie Borden Story” just premiered on Netflix and became the most watched show on the platform. Murphy and his series are deeply controversial. The past three seasons have focused on convicted killers Jeffrey Dahmer, Lyle and Erik Menendez, and Ed Gein, and have garnered considerable criticism for sensationalizing real-life trauma, exploiting victims for entertainment, and glorifying the perpetrators.
But his newest season centers on Lizzie Borden, the white, affluent Massachusetts woman still referenced today in nursery rhymes who was never convicted of killing her parents Andrew and Abby Borden. As with Murphy’s other seasons, the show plays fast-and-loose with real-life history, instead turning a real-life crime into a psychosexual spectacle.
In real life, Lizzie was found not guilty by an all-male jury in the highly publicized 1892 trial, largely due to a lack of evidence including blood on her clothing and a murder weapon. Her initial statement contradicted her later testimony but her defense team argued that the morphine a doctor repeatedly gave her likely caused her confusion. But despite the fact that Lizzie was acquitted in court, she was ostracized by her community during her life and has been branded a murderer ever since.
Murphy’s highly fictionalized retelling of Lizzie’s story leans into this accusation not only that Lizzie murdered her father and stepmother with an axe but that she was successful in covering it up with the help of the maid Bridget Sullivan. Murphy not only concocts a sapphic relationship between Lizzie and Bridget, pinning the idea of killing Lizzie’s parents on the widely traveled woman who dyes her hair and is repeatedly called a lesbophobic slur by Lizzie’s stepmother, but also portrays Lizzie as an inspiration to Aileen Carol Wuornos, a woman who killed seven men who solicited sex and was also in a relationship with a woman.
Further, Murphy’s retelling creates a false ending to Lizzie’s story. While in real life, Lizzie and her sister Emma buy a house called “Maplecroft” and live there for the rest of their lives, Murphy instead imagines Bridget returning sporadically for romantic rendezvous with Lizzie and eventually moving back in with her and marching together for women’s right to vote. In real life, Bridget left town immediately after providing testimony and lived in Montana until she died.
Lesbophobia is at the heart of this retelling of Borden’s story. Despite the fact that Murphy depicts Lizzie and Bridget having sex and possibly getting married or at least promising themselves to one another wearing flower crowns, there is no evidence that Lizzie and Bridget had any romantic or sexual relationship. If they did have a relationship, it would likely have been hidden and any evidence destroyed, but records show that Lizzie herself refused to call Bridget by her real name, instead referring to her as “Maggie,” the name of their previous maid. It was only Lizzie’s stepmother Abby who called Bridget her real name. In Murphy’s retelling, it’s Lizzie’s stepmother Abby who refuses to learn or use Bridget’s actual name and treats her with disdain along with her stepdaughter.
Some people online argue that we are witnessing Lizzie’s story retold through Wuornos’s perspective, so adding in elements of child abuse and sapphic relationships would make sense, but there is no record that Wuornos ever visited Lizzie Borden’s home, or that she was inspired by Borden throughout her life. Instead, Murphy and his co-creator Ian Brennan use (or I would say exploit) Wuornos as a thematic device to make broad stereotypes about female rage across generations. In doing so, they conflate two real-life examples of violence to sapphic individuals.
Depicting a lesbian relationship in this way is not progress, nor is it fruitful representation today. As sapphic shows are increasingly cut and cancelled, Murphy’s inclusion just reinforces the lesbophobic and sexist stereotype that lesbians and queer women are “dangerous” to straight women and abet or incite violence against men and a family unit. At a time when anti-LGBTQ+ legislation and real-world violence and murder of LGBTQ+ people, especially queer and trans people of color, is exploding, stories that frame murder of a family unit as germinating from a sapphic relationship feed into far right narratives.
They further the myth popularized by far right leaders (including those in the highest echelons of government) that LGBTQ+ people are dangerous, a threat to heterosexual norms and family life, despite the data showing that children of same-sex parents have above average health and well-being according to research by the University of Melbourne.
Today, many LGBTQ+ people feel they have to be (or are forced to be) idealized versions of themselves in order to stave off anti-LGBTQ+ stigma, policing and violence. These “acceptable” behaviors and appearances are rooted not only in cisgender, heterosexual norms but also white supremacy, colonialism, xenophobia, and ableism. It is respectability politics that tell us how we can and should behave (including those perpetuating in the wider LGBTQ+ community) and push LGBTQ+ people to assimilate into a society governed by queerphobic normativity.
I hope it’s clear that I’m not trying to argue that we cannot and should not have shows that depict queer women who kill, or at the very least queer women who are unethical or morally complex. We need these depictions because they ask difficult questions and they reference how some LGBTQ+ people can be and are unethical. In fact, several public LGBTQ+ figures are associated with employee abuse and exploitation, ableism, and fat phobia.
But when Lizzie’s sapphic identity is invented to drive the story along, arguably to generate interest (especially straight men’s interest) in this spectacle of historical slop, it’s not a story that invites discourse and dimensionality, it’s one that collapses Lizzie, Wuornos, and queer women’s identities and relationships to plot devices. It objectifies and fetishizes queer women, arguably committing violence against not only Lizzie but also Wuornos.
And when there is so little representation of sapphic relationships on mainstream television or streaming platforms, it makes this the vast majority of representation that queer girls and women will see of themselves first, and that the straight public will see. Historians will know that Murphy’s depiction of Lizzie’s life is wrong, but many viewers will not and may not go digging for the truth.
Why not focus on the stories of bisexual, lesbian, and queer women who really existed, shared their identities (sometimes covertly, sometimes not), and had long-term partners? In fact, “Boston marriages” were common in this time period and referred to women living together when sexual and romantic relationships between women were illegal, partially because penal systems didn’t know how women could have sex with one another and didn’t want to put the idea in “impressionable” women’s minds. Why not focus on these stories instead of creating a fictionalized account? We have always existed; we do not need to invent relationships.
Murphy’s depiction of Lizzie Borden is deeply problematic. Lesbophobia is not the only issue at the heart of Murphy’s drama, but it merits a broader discussion about how mainstream media routinely hurt queer women and is part of perpetuating queerphobic violence, and what we all lose in the process.
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Writing a play about Lincoln leads down a rabbit hole to a closet
As LGBT History Month arrives, new hints that our greatest president was gay
Abraham Lincoln treasured poetry and it turns out his particular favorites were pretty queer, but I never would have detected that if I hadn’t decided to write a stage comedy about his sex life. In my research for the play, I stumbled across what I believe is new evidence that Lincoln and Joshua Speed were lovers. The remarkable thing is that the evidence has been sitting in plain sight for more than 150 years.
The rabbit hole swallowed me in 2019, when C.A. Tripp’s revolutionary biography “The Intimate World of Abraham Lincoln” somehow fell into my hands. I was embarrassingly late to the Lincoln-was-gay party—Tripp’s book had come out 14 years earlier—and the wonderful-to-me news that Lincoln played for my team started me plotting out a play, because I was pretty sure if I didn’t know this, lots of people didn’t and inquiring minds want to know, and the young queers of America should be told that they have yet another genius over whom to kvell.
Historians and myth makers alike—often it’s hard to tell the difference—have always painted Abe straight, and now that it’s in question they’ve gotten peevish and insistent because, c’mon, bro, everybody knows that in the 19th century all the guys were writing each other gushingly romantic letters and sharing a bed every night for four years. Meanwhile, the Queer Studies crowd assures us that they, the inventors of homosexuality, had not yet invented it, so it couldn’t be that.
But what kind of play to write? I wanted to put at least two of his lovers into it, and no playwright with any sense of drama would omit Abe’s mad, physically abusive, spendthrift wife Mary. To get all of them in the same place at the same time meant bedroom farce. Keeping one’s lovers from knowing about each other is the keystone of bedroom farce and why the sets have so many doors. Speed, the great love of Lincoln’s life, who often visited the White House during the Civil War, would arrive while Lincoln’s wartime lover Army Captain David Derickson was there, too, and Abe would conceal them from each other and from Mary, who is suspicious and dangerous and prone to striking her husband. I also folded in Lincoln’s writing of the Emancipation Proclamation, which in the play is helped along by an invented Black housekeeper, who has suspiciously 20th-century opinions and a shiny new invention: the animatronic steampunk Lincoln robot. “The Loves of Lincoln” finally had its world premiere on June 19 of this year in Memphis, Tenn., where it was nominated for the best new original play of the 2025–26 season, and lost. Now we’re getting to the part about Lord Byron. Wait for it. It’s coming. We’re still setting the scene.
A cute, redheaded, gay Broadway producer told me the play would be stronger with a different kind of ending and for once a producer’s note was spot on—the play needed a final confrontation between Lincoln and Speed over love and slavery. The Speeds had dozens of slaves—lots more than Mary Todd Lincoln’s family, who had a few themselves. To write the scene I needed to know more than I did about the Speed-Lincoln relationship during the war. Speed was helping Lincoln keep the border state of Kentucky in line, but on the other hand his great wealth depended on slavery.
Time for some research. Enter “Your Friend Forever, A. Lincoln: The Enduring Friendship of Abraham Lincoln and Joshua Speed” (2016, Columbia University Press) by Charles B. Strozier, a “psychobiographer” who does the usual somersaults to explain away Lincoln’s behavior as straight because writing gushingly romantic letters to other guys and sleeping in the same bed for four years was absolutely not gay in the 19th century, which is proved by the fact that all the guys were doing it. Which kind of made me want to build a time machine and stop off in 19th-century Illinois on my way to ancient Greece. And then, suddenly, sitting there quietly on page 45, like a dangling thread on a cardigan begging to be pulled, was the interesting datum that Joshua lent his gangly, athletic bedmate books, among them Joshua’s “favorite”: Lord Byron.
The same Lord Byron who cut a swath a kilometer wide across the comely young men of Greece? The notorious libertine and sodomite—that Lord Byron? Well, yes, and it’s not hard to draw a line straight from there to Lincoln’s closet (coincidentally, one of the doors in The Loves of Lincoln leads into a closet—“Why is my husband always in the closet?”), but for some reason, up to now, no one I know of has drawn that line.
Understand, just reading Byron does not make Josh and Abe homosexuals. Byron was a big seller and lots of straight men read him, though perhaps not while gazing dreamily into each other’s eyes (Joshua’s wide and blue, Abe’s a melancholy gray), and OK we don’t know that’s exactly how it went down, but we do know other interesting things thanks to William Herndon.
Bill was a clerk in Speed’s general store, the store Speed and Lincoln slept above, and later the junior partner in Lincoln’s Springfield law practice. Herndon worshipped Lincoln. After the assassination he interviewed pretty much every significant person in Lincoln’s life, in what Strozier called one of the first oral history projects in America. Naturally, he interviewed Speed, who reported Lincoln’s passion for the poetry of Byron. The sexual significance of the connection between Speed, Byron, and Lincoln has up to now been ignored by all biographers—even the queer ones, like Tripp, who tried and did make the case for Lincoln’s homosexuality. Speed told Herndon he had introduced Lincoln to Byron: “I don’t think he had ever read much of Byron previous to my acquaintance with him.” Lord Byron’s poetry was a stew of intense male friendship, forbidden sexuality, secrecy, alienation, and erotic misbehavior, and in the wake of his scandalous divorce his name had for years been a transatlantic byword for transgressive sexuality. Byron also became, alongside Burns, Milton and Shakespeare, one of Lincoln’s four favorite writers.
Here’s where things get juicy. Speed said that, in particular, “Lincoln loved The Bride of Abydos.” Byron wrote the poem in the wake of his travels through the Ottoman Empire, which was partly what we today would call sex tourism. The poem’s beautiful young hero Selim is extremely feminized, conceals his true identity from his girlfriend (whom everyone thinks is his sister but they’re cousins), and only later reveals that he has a secret double life—in the case of the poem, as the leader of a band of pirates. Now there’s a secret life with an All-Male Cast. We’ll let you supply the pirate joke that goes right here.
It gets better. Herndon’s admittedly fragmentary notes from the Speed interview also specifically bring up Byron’s “To Inez,” the extraordinary lyric in “Childe Harold” in which a man tells a woman that her beauty gives him no pleasure, that her eyes scarcely charm him, and that she must not attempt to discover his “secret woe” or “unmask” his heart. The subtext that leaps off the page, given that Byron was, as the actor Michael Redgrave described himself to his son, “to say the least of it, bisexual,” is that the speaker is in the closet. In the last stanza, he begs her not to pry:
What is that worst? Nay, do not ask—
In pity from the search forbear:
Smile on—nor venture to unmask Man’s heart,
and view the Hell that’s there.
So, queer-coded Byronic poetry formed an important part of Lincoln’s imaginative world, and Speed remembered that fact nearly 30 years later, and told it to Herndon almost as if leaving literary breadcrumbs for posterity. As far as I have been able to determine, no previous Lincoln biographer or scholar of Lincoln’s sexuality has examined the queer implications of the Byron poems Speed specifically remembered Lincoln reading. Why has this been missed?
All of this would be meaningless if Speed and Lincoln didn’t understand that Byron was a lover of men, but I assert that they would have. Lincoln was a discerning reader with a famously penetrating, tenacious mind that wouldn’t let go of a thing until he understood it thoroughly—and a huge fund of worldly knowledge. He was by this time in the Illinois Legislature, had campaigned all over the state, and lawyers often encounter the seamy side of life, whether they seek it out or not. Furthermore, although Byron’s indisputable affairs with men weren’t explicitly documented in 19th century biographies and periodicals as they are today (the conventions and laws of the time all but guaranteed euphemism), rumors of Byron’s “unnatural” conduct crossed the Atlantic even during his lifetime. Articles repeatedly referred to an unnamed, horrifying, or “unnatural” offense, a “peculiar enormity,” and conduct violating the “ban of nature.” In 19th century usage, “unnatural crime” was a familiar euphemism for sodomy, while phrases like “peculiar enormity” and “ban of nature” invited readers to imagine sexual offenses too scandalous to name. Why use the words at all if readers weren’t going to get the point? American readers had easy access to Byron biographies and memoirs, including Thomas Medwin’s “Conversations of Lord Byron” and Thomas Moore’s enormously influential “Letters and Journals of Lord Byron,” while American periodicals discussed the Byron memoir burned by his friends and the salacious suspicions around its contents. Lincoln and Speed would certainly have understood that one of the unmentionable sexual accusations surrounding Byron was man-on-man action.
Lincoln’s love of Byron’s queer-coded writings, fostered by Speed, “proves” little on its own, but a lot when added to the rest of the evidence. And it’s part of an even bigger story: reversing the erasure of queerness from history and documenting that many of humankind’s greatest achievements are thanks to queer individuals. Both Lincoln and Speed had beards, literal and metaphorical—they didn’t want their secret spilled while they were alive. But then again, I like to think that when Joshua Speed told William Herndon of Lincoln’s love for those poems, he imagined a day when their love could be decoded and celebrated. Come to think of it, that day is today.
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Acclaimed Chef Patrick O’Connell’s memoir reveals the arc of a life well lived
Overcoming obstacles to serve everyone from Jerry Falwell to Queen Elizabeth
Renowned three-Michelin-star Chef Patrick O’Connell says food and wine hold a unique ability to bring people together. Indeed, he has served everyone from right-wing zealot Jerry Falwell to Britain’s Queen Elizabeth during his decades at the beloved Inn at Little Washington in rural Virginia.
O’Connell’s compelling new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” is out Sept. 15 from Celadon Books and offers a deeply personal account of how he transformed his love of food and affinity for the finer things into an iconic inn and restaurant that draws diners from around the world nearly 50 years after it opened in 1978.

O’Connell is launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema. He met Andrés just after Andrés began to work in D.C. and was “on fire with ideas.”
“We sat next to each other at Charlie Trotter’s restaurant and the meal went on for hours and we had a natural rapport,” O’Connell told the Blade in a recent interview. “The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”
O’Connell said he’s excited to hold the event at Lisner.
“I studied theater at Catholic University and transferred to GWU so it’s a coming home party and Lisner has been there since I was a kid and it was always like D.C.’s Carnegie Hall. It feels like going home to my old stomping grounds.”
O’Connell hopes to bring the book to life visually at the event and he has produced a short film that will be screened.
The book traces the self-taught O’Connell’s remarkable journey from rural paperboy and short-order cook to proprietor of one of the world’s most celebrated restaurants and Relais & Châteaux hotels. Along the way we learn about the many challenges he faced — from distrustful and homophobic local residents in Washington, Va., to an expensive, public “divorce” from his longtime romantic and business partner, Reinhardt Lynch.
“It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years,” he said. “It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”
O’Connell writes candidly about his relationship with Lynch. The two opened the restaurant together — O’Connell running the kitchen and Lynch handling the business. But O’Connell’s accolades and growing notoriety led to jealousy that triggered a protracted falling out and dissolution of both their personal relationship and business partnership. Lynch, as recalled by O’Connell, attempted to secretly sell his 50 percent of the business but ultimately agreed to sell his stake back to O’Connell for a reported $17.5 million. “The Washington Post ran with it as a salacious celebrity divorce story and included all the financial details,” he writes.
After taking full control of the Inn just as the recession of 2008 hit, O’Connell writes of the scrutiny of guests who assumed Lynch’s absence would lead to a slip in quality. “The place couldn’t be just as good as ever. It would have to be better.”
What happened next proved a royal opportunity as Queen Elizabeth visited Virginia to commemorate the 400th anniversary of the founding of the state and O’Connell was asked to cater a reception. This chapter is filled with juicy details and behind-the-scenes anecdotes about the pressures of cooking for the Queen. The subsequent media attention proved lucrative for the Inn and photos of the Queen’s visit still hang in the Inn.
There are references to O’Connell’s sexual orientation throughout the book and he doesn’t shy from addressing his long relationship with Lynch or the resistance the couple encountered when they settled in sleepy Washington, Va.
“I didn’t realize that I was walking into a prejudiced hornet’s nest that I wasn’t fully prepared for and there was a great deal of hostility in part because they didn’t understand anything about what we were attempting to do here so everything about us and our desire to run a fine restaurant was foreign to them,” O’Connell told the Blade. “The irony of a place opening in the center of town of 150 people and at that time the word ‘gay’ wasn’t used here. It was as if they didn’t have space in their consciousness for such a thing. We were regarded as counter culture people.
“The restaurant became a success almost overnight and the locals couldn’t understand what the buzz was about,” O’Connell continued. “They thought food is food and why would anyone drive 60 miles out here for food. They became resentful of the ‘outsiders’ who came. Two outsiders were opening a restaurant and drawing other outsiders out here to a place where there weren’t many jobs. There was resentment on many levels by some — not all. They thought it would go away.”
But O’Connell said he never made his sexuality the focus of his work. Rather, he wanted to use food to bring people of all backgrounds together.
“I never made a point or attempted to make that a central focus on my work,” he said. “I felt that I had found my spot in the universe where I belonged, I loved living here, it was a sanctuary.”
O’Connell’s insistence that everyone is welcome has sometimes created tension and negative press, as when President Trump presented him with a National Humanities Medal that brought criticism from some progressives.
“We see a fascinating clientele here; we don’t judge and we’re not political,” he said. “When people come they are entitled to our hospitality.”
One of those people was televangelist and notorious homophobe Jerry Falwell, who made a reservation at the Inn years ago. O’Connell’s instruction to the staff was to treat Falwell like any other guest.
“We have an image of someone who maybe we would think would be hostile or judgmental and they often surprise us,” O’Connell said. “We held our breath and here’s Falwell working the tables and saying this is the best meal I’ve ever had, aren’t these two guys great and we thought he’s doing PR for us and he’s supposed to be the devil.”
O’Connell said he sees that dynamic play out night after night at the Inn. One of the most conservative national Republican figures, he said, is a regular and Vice President JD Vance dined at the Inn recently. Focusing on the food and hospitality for all constitutes O’Connell’s brand of activism.
“Food does bring people together,” he said. “And you’re doing your part in erasing preconceived judgements.”
He said he and his team did more to advance understanding and acceptance by focusing on hospitality than if “we were out marching.”
As evidence, he said, there are more and more gay couples moving to the area and the town’s mayor, Joe Whited, is gay.
“We’re the biggest employer in the county and largest taxpayer,” he added. “The Inn pays the town almost $1 million per year and property values are getting to be like Palm Beach. And that wasn’t a goal it was a byproduct of doing something as well as it could be done.”
But the book isn’t hagiography. O’Connell revisits traumatic events, like childhood bullies who attacked him for wearing a Little Red Riding Hood costume for Halloween and a sexual assault he endured as a young teenager aboard a bus.
“I don’t know why I couldn’t call out for help or try to make the man stop,” O’Connell writes of the incident. “I didn’t want to call attention to the situation and felt completely implicated. Once it began there was no stopping it.”
Interestingly, O’Connell told the Blade that one of the things he learned in writing the book is how little he’s changed since childhood.
“People tend to lock away a lot of childhood memories for good reason and in a book you’re reliving them and bringing them to life,” he said. “And my revelation is that I don’t think I’ve changed much since I was six and I think most people’s identity is pretty developed in their very early years and their personality is clear. What amused me most is I’m doing the same things now that I did in miniature as a five and six year old.”
As for popular TV shows about the restaurant business, O’Connell says he doesn’t watch them.
“It’s fake,” he said. “There are much more colorful characters and it’s much more exciting in real life. Nobody seems capable of capturing that. So maybe this [book] will have the effect of doing that and showing what it takes.”
O’Connell said the books and stories he most enjoys reading are those that start in childhood and carry through until late in life. He has certainly delivered that in “Main, Middle & Gay,” a moving, fearless memoir filled with the unexpected and natural drama that revisits a uniquely American life.
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