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QUEERY: Jon-Michael Eclar

The 18th Street Singers member answers 20 gay questions

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Jon-Michael Eclar (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key)

The 18th Street Singers present their concert “From Shadow to Light” next week that promises a “transcendent” musical experience designed to showcase the “meditative and sublime beauty of early music.”

The Singers, an a cappella choir of about 50 that specializes in early (i.e. pre-Baroque) music, will perform Dec. 9-10 at 7:30 p.m. each night at St. Agnes of the Ascension Church (1217 Massachusetts Ave., N.W.) featuring sacred works by Purcell, Tallis, Palestrina, Monteverdi, Pretorias and more. Tickets are $15 in advance or $20 at the door. Visit 18thstreetsingers.com for details.

“Choral singing, to me, is like a team sport,” says 31-year-old Jon-Michael “JM” Eclar, says of the 12-year-old choir in which he sings tenor. “Everyone in the choir is working hard toward a common goal and we cannot be successful unless we all pitch in. When it finally comes together and the chords lock, it’s truly a magical experience.”

Eclar, a Chantilly, Va., native, works by day for a human resources trade association. He also leads the tenor section in the choir of Church of the Reformation on Capitol Hill.

He’s in a relationship with Brad Haas and lives in Dupont Circle. Eclar enjoys working out, running, playing in the Stonewall Kickball League and, of course, singing in his free time.

How long have you been out and who was the hardest person to tell? 

I’ve been out since my junior year in college and the hardest person to tell was the first person I ever came out to, who was my best friend and roommate. After him, coming out to my friends and family became easier and easier with every person I told.

Who’s your LGBT hero? 

RuPaul. She has been out for decades and has been nothing but herself. She inspires everyone to love yourself no matter what anybody else thinks. Be true to who you are. As she says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love somebody else?” And yes, I can get an AMEN up in here.

What’s Washington’s best nightspot, past or present? 

Go see a free show at the Kennedy Center Millennium Stage at 6 p.m. After that, take the elevator to the terrace and watch the sunset across the Potomac. I’m a hopeless romantic, what can I say?

Describe your dream wedding.  

I’d love for it to be an outdoor wedding with my closest friends and our families. I imagine it somewhere idyllic near a mountain range, like Appalachia.

What non-LGBT issue are you most passionate about? 

Arts education, arts integration and arts advocacy. The arts should be a required curriculum in the classroom, like science, math and other disciplines. Studies show that the arts and humanities cultivate creativity, a love for learning, motivation, cognitive development and teamwork among countless other reasons. Unfortunately, arts programs across our country are being severely reduced or cut entirely. Do your part by contacting your respective member of congress, talk to school leaders and volunteer your time.

What historical outcome would you change? 

I’m going to go out on a limb, but can we get a restart to all of 2016?

What’s been the most memorable pop culture moment of your lifetime? 

Singing at Joe Biden’s holiday party and then meeting him afterwards. We chatted about our alma mater (Go ‘Cuse!), snow and the Adirondacks. The second most memorable moment was when my friend surprised me with house tickets to see “Hamilton” in New York City, which was life-changing.

On what do you insist? 

Kindness and a good sense of humor. Life is too short to be a jerk and take it so seriously.

What was your last Facebook post or Tweet? 

My choir (18th Street Singers) concert on December 9-10 at Church of the Ascension and St. Agnes!

If your life were a book, what would the title be? 

“I Got 99 Problems, but My Pitch Ain’t One”

If science discovered a way to change sexual orientation, what would you do? 

Not a goddamn thing. It has taken me some time to fully appreciate and love who I am. Being gay is a huge part of my identity and I wouldn’t change that for the world.

What do you believe in beyond the physical world?

Just like on (Netflix show) “Stranger Things,” I believe in the Upside Down. RIP Barb.

What’s your advice for LGBT movement leaders? 

To take a quote from Hillary’s recent speech, “Never stop believing that fighting for what’s right is worth it.” With this recent election, we need to make sure that we don’t regress to what our community has worked so hard to achieve.

What would you walk across hot coals for?

My friends and family. Walt. Brad.

What LGBT stereotype annoys you most? 

That gaysian men are all submissive bottoms. Yeah, I’ll say it. It’s not true — we’re not all submissive. OK, OK, that was a joke. But in all seriousness, I think the fact that we have stereotypes to begin with is problematic. The beautiful thing about our community is that we are a diverse myriad of personalities! Don’t pigeonhole us into specific stereotypes that don’t apply to all.

What’s your favorite LGBT movie? 

“Paris is Burning.” Still t’werkin on that death drop, though. I’ll get it someday. Sigh.

What’s the most overrated social custom?

Going to a concert and everyone has their phone out recording a video or taking pictures. Enjoy and just live in the moment.

What trophy or prize do you most covet? 

When I was 23, I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. I had surgery to remove my thyroid, which left a scar across the base of my neck. To me, that scar represents overcoming adversity and my new lease on life.

What do you wish you’d known at 18?

Maybe you should have gone to that state school instead of maybe that expensive private college institution.

Why Washington? 

Because Washington offers the best of a big city without feeling so overwhelmed. Great neighborhood bars and restaurants. Plenty of green space to roam around outside. And bike lanes. Yes, bike lanes.

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Summer in D.C. brings sports, Restaurant Week, festivals, and more

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Washington Spirit CEO Kim Stone hosts Pride Night OUT on Sunday, Aug. 23. (Photo courtesy of Washington Spirit)

Summer in D.C. just hits different. Congress is out, school is out, the sun is out, thighs are out. With the skies clearing from Canadian smoke, here are a few ways to stay entertained.

Dining

Summer restaurant week: The Restaurant Association of Metropolitan Washington (RAMW) is once again hosting Summer Restaurant Week, Aug. 18-24. This weeklong dining experience showcases the dynamic dining scene of the DMV, including 2026 RAMMY Award-winning favorites (the annual D.C. food awards show that took place June 29). Participating restaurants will offer three-course brunch and lunch selections for $25 or $35 per person, and three-course dinners for $40, $55 and $65 per person.

New Restaurants: A handful of new spots have opened, so the summer is a great time to check them out:

  • Oribu: A new Mediterranean-Japanese restaurant in the Grand Hyatt hotel, which just underwent a remodeling effort. The sleek restaurant brings upscale charm, with dishes like Wagyu beef tartare with potato pavé and caviar.
  • The Oak Room: A snazzy old-school American grill has just opened in Georgetown, alongside its sister upstairs supper club (Bernadette’s) restaurant, in the old El Centro space.
  • Uchi: This showy Japanese sushi-forward chain has landed in Dupont with a chef’s tasting menu of favorites like fatty tuna.
  • Kathmandu: Recalling the capital of Nepal, this warm, buzzy subterranean restaurant right in the heart of U Street brings spice, flair, and rare ingredients to its dishes (see: buffalo burgers) and drinks.

Sports

  • Washington Spirit Pride Night OUT: On Sunday, Aug. 23, head to Audi Field for a massive, high-energy game following the exciting month of World Cup. The designated Pride Night OUT game promises boisterous crowds plus pre- and post-game community engagements. 
  • Washington Tennis Open – Now called the Mubadala DC Open, this annual tournament is only combined mens’ and womens’ 500-level tennis tournament in the world. The open is one of D.C.’s longest-standing sports traditions, and will take place at the Rock Creek Park Tennis Center July 25-Aug. 2. Naomi Osaka, Venus Williams, Ben Shelton, Frances Tiafoe, and others are expected to play.

Festivals

  • Afro Plus Fest: This huge, three-day Afro-Caribbean Hip-Hop Festival brings together headliners Davido, Alkaline, and Wizkid, plus Tems and Ayra Starr. The event moves from RFK to the Northwest Stadium Complex for three days, Sept. 4-6.
  • Capital Fringe Festival: Running from July 11-21, this massive celebration features dozens of live theater, comedy, dance, and boundary-pushing nighttime performances across multiple DC neighborhoods. 
  • The National Book Festival returns, with headliners like Cynthia Erivo, and Martin Scorsese. The one-day festival, Saturday, Aug. 22, brings together bookworms and word nerds under the theme “America 250: It’s Your Story.” There are talks, workshops, musical sessions and more.
  • All Things Go: A three-day festival Sept. 25-27 at Merriweather Post Pavilion featuring Mitski, Hayley Williams, Brandi Carlile, MUNA, Zara Larsson, Ethel Cain, and many, many more artists. There are single-day and three-day tickets. Featuring and highlighting female artists, the festival has turned into a must-see for many LGBTQ audience members.
  • Fuchsia Fest: The inaugural Fuchsia Fest is a new multi-day celebration created to celebrate LGBTQ community and expression, bringing together a mix of community gatherings, entertainment, and nightlife. The event takes place Sept. 18-20 and is hosted by Capital Pride.

Art and Music

  • United We Dance: A high-energy rave with house, techno, bass, and festival music, on Aug. 1 at the 9:30 Club. 
  • The Fray. On Aug. 14, this American rock band famous for How To Save A Life is at Merriweather Post Pavilion.
  • Kesha: Kesha’s high-energy The Freedom Tour comes to the D.C. area on Aug. 14 at Jiffy Lube Live.
  • ALOK: On Sept. 3 at Lincoln Theater, ALOK (they/them) performs. The poet, comedian, and actor is putting on a new comedy show.
  • 2charm, the emerging Australian electronic club-pop duo popular with the queer community, which blends hyperpop and dance music, comes to the Atlantis.
  • Sapphic Dance Party: a vibrant, inclusive nightlife and social event designed specifically for queer women, lesbians, bisexuals, trans individuals, and nonbinary folks, at Atlantis on Aug. 21.
  • Jazz in the Garden: The most quintessential of D.C. activities returns Friday evenings through Aug. 14. This season’s theme, “American Sounds,” is a nod to the nation’s 250th anniversary. Tunes themes range from Appalachian and Americana to Creole jazz, Hill Country blues, contemporary jazz, and more. Tickets are available through a lottery system a week before each event.
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Tickets on sale for chef Patrick O’Connell’s book launch event

Sept. 18 kickoff to feature José Andrés, Tom Sietsema

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Acclaimed chef Patrick O’Connell is preparing to publish his new memoir, “Main, Middle & Gay” in September and he’s launching the book with an event on Sept. 18 at 6 p.m. at Lisner Auditorium featuring Chef José Andrés and former Washington Post food critic Tom Sietsema.

Tickets for the event go on sale Tuesday, July 21 at Ticketmaster; prices start at $55.

 O’Connell, who’s gay, is the pioneering Michelin-starred chef and longtime proprietor of the Inn at Little Washington. He spoke with the Blade about the September event and the launch of his first memoir.

 “I’ve known [Andrés and Sietsema] for more than 25 years and I have great respect for them,” O’Connell said. “I felt that it would allow us to add a different dimension rather than just have an interviewer. The chemistry will be fun and lively and unpredictable and exciting. I think we’re all different personalities and we’ll compliment each other.”

O’Connell has published cookbooks but this is his first memoir. The event will feature a short film that will highlight his work and the Inn.

“What I hope to do with the event is bring the book to life visually,” he said. “So we’re producing a short film that will be part of it. Most of the audience will not have read the book so it’ll give them a visual flavor of the book. It parallels the evolution of American cuisine over 50 years. It’s a rare perspective to be in the trenches for that long.”

The book’s title refers to the location of the garage on the corner of Main, Middle, and Gay streets in Washington, Va., where he launched his restaurant that became an international culinary destination. 

The Blade will publish the rest of its wide-ranging interview with O’Connell in September in conjunction with the book’s release.

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The queer Asian comics building collective joy in D.C.

Spotlighting chaotic ways family, romance, identity take shape in their lives

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Alex Kim performs at the Pride Comedy Special in Washington, D.C., on June 18, 2026. (Photo by Christina Lee/VOICES)

Kevin Chen’s family tombstone has room for four: him, his parents and his boyfriend. The arrangement might prove to be a little awkward. 

“My boyfriend is 100% white, and my parents are 100% disappointed,” Chen confessed.

Jokes about family traditions and the untraditional ways they’re practiced earned a burst of laughs at the bar where Chen was opening for the Pride Comedy Special. The D.C. stand-up event, produced by Comedy Bonfyre last month, spotlighted queer Asian comics who shared the chaotic ways family, romance and identity take shape in their lives. 

From candid oral sex takes to top surgery hypotheticals like “Where do the boobs go?”, the night highlighted the loud camaraderie of the queer Asian experience — one that sounds like a cacophony of snorts, cackles and belly laughs. While the comics say they are not quite a community, there’s more than enough shared material to bring them together. 

“It was such a magical experience. I loved performing in a queer API lineup. It feels so validating,” Chen said after the show. “I’m wondering, ‘Is this how white men feel all the time?’”

Each performance evoked queer Asian joy through a medium that could use more of its presence.

According to Chen, who is based in D.C., it’s hard to say whether there is a true queer Asian comedy presence in his city. There are only a scattered “handful” of Asian comics, and people of color are underrepresented in queer comic circles, he said. 

When Tarunika Anand, a nonbinary lesbian comic, first entered the mainstream D.C. comedy scene, they mostly encountered straight white men, describing the experience as “a culture shock.”

“I feel like sometimes a lot of queer spaces are really white, and then a lot of Asian spaces are really straight,” Anand said. “I don’t feel like I fit into either.”

But feeling marginalized didn’t stop these comics from honing their craft and creating spaces for others like them. Alex Kim, who headlined the special and is based in Brooklyn, runs the queer Asian comedy group Boba Gays, which began on WhatsApp and has since made its way to Lincoln Center. 

Every Wednesday, Anand co-produces a free comedy show called Funny Side Up. The queer-led group focuses on inclusivity and showcasing new talent.

“It’s really beautiful to speak about your experience and your existence in a way that’s uplifting,” Anand said. 

Family is a major throughline of their comedic repertoires. 

Chen, for instance, shared that he identifies with jokes about having Asian immigrant parents and the expectations they pass down. 

“You see me, you know this part about me, you know this experience intimately, and I can see the truth that you’re trying to wrap a joke around,” he said. “That hits even harder because that’s my truth too. I think that’s what makes good comedy.”

Anand had the audience at the special howling when they explained that their parents’ be-more-like-them comparisons didn’t end when they came out. Instead, the expectations took on a new form. 

“Now, my parents want me to be the best gay,” Anand said. “They’re like, ‘Do you know Ellen DeGeneres?’” 

Kim said he’s been trying to unlearn things from his Christian Korean mom. Yet he described a moment when he was getting ready for the club and realized he looked just like his mother getting ready for church. 

“I’ve been finding it hard to escape her,” Kim said. 

Mutual recognition also radiates through the different ways queer love can take shape. From singlehood to death-do-us-part commitments, the comics cover just about every corner.

Anand is holding out hope for settling down with “a nice, pretty, Indian girl.” They recently went through a breakup and said they felt they dodged a bullet. 

“As a person of color, I just don’t think I should be with a Swiftie,” they said. 

Chen, touching on what it’s like to be in a queer interracial relationship, said that meeting his white boyfriend’s baby nephew for the first time felt like he was forced to participate in a diversity, equity and inclusion training. 

“The dad was like, ‘Please welcome Kevin. Be curious about his culture, his history, his foods,’” Chen joked. 

Laughter is not the only reward for the comics.

To Anand, comedy is a space where they can say whatever they want. “It gives me a voice,” they said. 

Nik Narain, a North Carolina-based trans and nonbinary South Asian comic who performed at the special, said meeting older trans comedians and taking the stage helped him feel reassured in his identity during his transition. 

“Stand-up was a really cool way to process that onstage,” he said. “[It] became a way for me to repackage my thoughts.”

Queer Asians are still figuring out their place in the greater D.C. comedy scene. The group is small in numbers and many are still working toward a full-time comedy career. But Narain feels he’s already made it.

Narain is reluctant to pin it all on one moment. He feels that success is already peeking through in milestones — opening for celebrities, traveling to performances and self-producing shows.

“As long as I can keep doing this, I’m super happy,” he said.

This story was produced as part of the AAJA VOICES fellowship program, a student journalism project of the Asian American Journalists Association (AAJA).

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