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Pamala, queen of Rehoboth

Singer Stanley wows crowds all summer at Blue Moon

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REHOBOTH BEACH, Del. ā€” Pamala Stanley, the disco diva with both a penchant and the pipes for a Broadway show tune,Ā spends summersĀ in Rehoboth and winters across the seven seas.Ā Fortunately for RehobothĀ Beach goers,Ā she performsĀ Sunday through ThursdayĀ evenings at the venerable Blue Moon,Ā the popular bar and restaurant on Baltimore Avenue.

She plays to packed housesĀ in summer and fall, and in the off-season, she’s often gay cruising (as in the ship).Ā Her love affair with the gay community may be marked by her dance hits in the ’80s, but it really started when she was 8.Ā We recently caught up post-performanceĀ with Stanley and her two Blue Moon benefactors andĀ close friends, Tim Ragan and Randy Haney.

Fly Me to the Moon

And let me play among the stars.Ā She owes her life in Rehoboth toĀ TimĀ and RandyĀ of the Moon.

“She’s not only changed the face of live entertainment in Rehoboth Beach, she’s enabled us to lure other stars like CoCo Peru and Miss Richfield because she’s our ambassador as she sails the seven seas off season,”Ā Ragan says. He and Haney, together 32 years, fell in love with Stanley in Puerto Vallarta eight years ago.Ā They invited her to play the Moon for a limitedĀ appearance, and she was an instant hit.Ā A few months later she called to say her cruise ship had been dry-docked and theyĀ brought her back to town.

HerĀ hit disco single, ā€œComing Out of Hidingā€ in 1984 foreshadowed what was to come:Ā ā€œStanding in the shadows for too long.ā€

Tonight, at the Blue Moon, with a wall-to-wall crowd swaying and twirling to her every note ā€” from Gershwin to Gaga ā€” Stanley, 59, is having her day in the sun, at the Moon, as the star. Thereā€™s not a shadow in sight.Ā Sheā€™s one sultry dame, and does it with that rare combination ofĀ grace and camp.

ā€œAs we all age a bit, even my straight audiences on the cruise ships love a saucy tale or two,ā€ she says.

Her nightly event is bookmarked on a lot ofĀ iPods and calendars.Ā From Poodle Beach, where the young and fit Gaga-leaning fan base frolics and cavorts, all the way out to North Shore, where the Gershwin crowd naps and reads, one can picture the visitors to Rehobothā€™s gay beaches heading home en masse at 5 p.m. to shower and primp.Ā Then, they arrive sipping and twirling around one another on the Moonā€™s patio.Ā AroundĀ 6 p.m., she takes the stage and everyone, it seems, has a favorite spot to soak in the divine Ms. Stanley.Ā Her rapport with the audience is dually heart warming and heart thumping and she routinely invites fans on stage to dance. Her show changes nightly. You might hear Madonnaā€™s ā€œVogueā€ and Gagaā€™s ā€œBorn this Wayā€ one night, and the next itā€™s the Beatles and Cole Porter.

She has incredible bona fides: StanleyĀ auditionedĀ for the legendaryĀ Hal Prince for the title role in ā€œEvitaā€ and nearly eclipsed Patti LuPone. Later, she came in fourth among three spots for Bette Midlerā€™s Harlettes.

Though best known for her four top 20 dance hits, she has released several recent albums, including 2007ā€™s ā€œSeasons of My Heart,ā€ an adult contemporary work with country influences and 2009ā€™s ā€œI Am There,ā€ featuring original Christian songs. Thereā€™s a new dance album in the works, tentatively slated for a December release, according to her website.

Today, throngs await her in Rehoboth.Ā She adores her life here andĀ the combination of fame and anonymity. If there was a Fame-Anon 12-step program, Stanley would be president.

ā€œI can shop without makeup,” she says as she slips on her flip-flops and a baseball capĀ and joins her buddies at the nearby Purple Parrot for lunch.

The disarmingly nice girl from Norfolk was the head cheerleader, the homecoming queen andĀ came from “aĀ very talentedĀ and musicalĀ family” according to her childhood neighbor and friend, Michael.Ā “The whole damn family was gorgeous, talented and nice.”

She has collaborated extensively with her brother, James Lee Stanley, a writer, and worked with several of her family members.

In 1977,Ā she was aĀ Broadway Baby wannabe working in a gay piano bar at West 46th Street inĀ theĀ Manhattan theater district.Ā By day, she’s “walking off my tired feet, pounding 42nd Street” and missing top billing by a nose when talent scouts from EMI Records in Germany came into the piano bar one night.Ā They had their eye on her white grandĀ piano that they wanted for a photo shoot. TheyĀ ended up loving her voice instead.Ā And thus the talent scoutsĀ left the piano behind but took the talentĀ with them, andĀ Pamala Stanley’sĀ meteoricĀ rise began.

Life after disco

EMI RecordsĀ flew herĀ to Berlin first class on Lufthansa. The Germans wanted to morph her into “a white Donna Summer.” She hit it first with “This Is Hot” ā€”Ā and much later in life she shows her Broadway show tune roots as she smoothly transitions from her own disco creation “This is Hot” to brilliantly and soulfully croon Cole Porter’s “It’s Too Darn Hot.”

She continued her climb in Deutschland, becoming a star with hits such as “ComingĀ Out of Hiding” andĀ “IfĀ Looks Could Kill.”Ā She talks candidly about working in a recording studio that staredĀ into communist East Berlin.Ā The perky girl from the west side of Manhattan, working inĀ West BerlinĀ saw a very sad sightĀ to theĀ East.Ā It was as “gray and depressing” as one could imagine and as she tells the story,Ā she gets teary eyed.

When disco officially and abruptly died, she flew to Ecuador to perform for a rich gay manā€™s birthday party.Ā She became a hit there when herĀ discoĀ fame and her fluent Spanish merged.Ā In Ecuador theyĀ decided she was the “American Charo.”Ā And then Ecuador’s governmentĀ fell to a coup d’ etat and everything closed down.Ā She tells these tales with wistful adventure and zany recall, reminiscent of Lucille Ball.

Unlike the legendary Mama Rose of Gypsy fame, the late Mary Grace Immaculate BorioĀ encouragedĀ her daughter Pamala from heaven and not hell. She owes everything in life toĀ “my sweet mama” ā€”Ā and more than anything, Stanley has the supreme satisfaction of having a conversation whereĀ her motherĀ proudly encouraged her daughter for “living your dreams.”Ā That’s priceless currency for someone who’s traipsed through Germany andĀ Ecuador to get here.

Stanley is twice divorced and has one son who lives in New Jersey.

ā€œMy kid Frankie loves my gay audience,ā€ she says.Ā ā€œHe often says, ā€˜Eight or nine of my dads are gay!ā€™”

I realize that it’s her mamaĀ who gave herĀ a heartĀ as big as Texas.Ā I askĀ Stanley who her first gay boyfriend was, and she immediately replies, “We were 8 and we played BarbieĀ dolls together.”Ā Aha!Ā It was the neighbor,Ā Michael.

Asked about this,Ā MichaelĀ replies, “Well first off, when sheĀ was 8, I was 6 and while we did play Barbies together,Ā my fondest memory of Pamala was the day she rode as queen in the homecoming parade,Ā sitting atopĀ that Cadillac convertible.Ā I’d never seen anyone as beautiful.”

Stanley plays the Moon through Sept. 29.

 

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Transgender nonbinary sprinter Nikki Hiltz makes Team USA

ā€˜Woke up an Olympianā€™

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They ran like the wind, broke the tape at the finish line, and clutched their chest with the broadest smile on their face. Then Nikki Hiltz collapsed to the track, having set a new record in the 1,500-meter race at the U.S. Olympic track and field trials and earned a spot on Team USA.Ā 

As the realization sank in that they would be representing the U.S. in Paris as an out transgender nonbinary athlete, what the Paris-bound Olympian did next was to scribble a message of LGBTQ representation on the last day of Pride Month, writing with a red marker upon the glass of the camera that records each athleteā€™s signature on a whiteboard: 

ā€œI ā¤ļø the gays,ā€ they wrote, and above it, they signed their first name. 

Hiltz, 29, finished the race on Sunday at the University of Oregonā€™s Hayward Field in first-place with a final time of 3:55:33, breaking third-place finisher Elle St. Pierreā€™s 2021 record of 3:58:03. 

Hiltz credited St. Pierre, the top-finishing American and third-place finisher in the womenā€™s 1,500 at the Tokyo Olympics, with motivated them and the other competitors to race faster. With a first lap time of 61 seconds, St. Pierre led the race for the majority of its duration. St. Pierre and Emily Mackay, who placed second, also both earned spots in the Paris Olympics.

ā€œIf someone would have told me this morning that 3:56 doesnā€™t make the team, I donā€™t want to know that. Iā€™m just in the race to run it and race it and thatā€™s what I did,ā€ Hiltz said after the race. The Santa Cruz native who came out in 2021 as trans nonbinary told NBC Sports that the accomplishment is ā€œbigger than just me.ā€

ā€œI wanted to run this for my community,ā€ Hiltz said, ā€œAll of the LGBT folks, yeah, you guys brought me home that last hundred. I could just feel the love and support.ā€ 

On Monday, Hiltz reflected on the race and how they became an Olympian in a post on Instagram.

ā€œWoke up an Olympian. šŸ„¹ Yesterday afternoon in Eugene Oregon a childhood dream of mine came true. Iā€™m not sure when this will fully sink in ā€¦ All I know is today Iā€™m waking up just so grateful for my people, overwhelmed by all the love and support, and filled with joy that I get to race people I deeply love and respect around a track for a living. šŸ™ā€

Hiltz also shared a photo with their girlfriend, runner Emma Gee, and captioned it: ā€œRemember in Inside Out 2 when Joy says ā€œmaybe this is what happens when you grow up ā€¦ you feel less joyā€? Yeah I actually have no idea what sheā€™s talking about. šŸŽˆšŸŒˆšŸ¤ šŸ¦…šŸ„šŸ‡«šŸ‡·ā€

They shared photos in their new Team USA garb, too. 

While they will be the first out trans nonbinary member of the U.S. track and field team, Hiltz will not be the first nonbinary Olympian. That honor goes to Quinn, who played soccer for Canada in Tokyo and holds the record as the only nonbinary athlete to have won a gold medal. So far. 

Many of the posts by Hiltz, Team USA and others have been trolled by bigots and ignoramuses who have mistaken them for a trans woman who was presumed to be male at birth and transitioned genders. Right-wing outlets and anti-trans activist Riley Gaines have commented on their victory and questioned their gender identity and decision to compete against cisgender women. 

But in the spirit of the late Marsha P. Johnson, who famously said the ā€œPā€ stood for ā€œpay no mindā€ to the haters, Hiltz shared a photo of a handwritten motivational note to themself, which ends: ā€œI saw a quote online the other week that said, ā€˜respect everybody, fear nobody,ā€™ and thatā€™s exactly how Iā€™m going to approach this final. I can do this.ā€Ā 

And they did.Ā 

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Five easy tips to help you avoid common risks

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Be sure to install baby gates if you have stairs in your home with young children. (Photo by Kasia Bialasiewicz/Bigstock)

Your home is more than just a place to eat and sleep; it’s your safe haven. As much as you might cherish your home, you should probably also recognize the potential hazards within its familiar walls. Accidents can happen in an instant, yet with a little foresight and some simple adjustments, you can transform your house into a safer haven. 

Accidents can happen anywhere, and with a few simple tweaks, you can lower risks in your space. Below youā€™ll find five tips for each room in your home to help prevent injuries, falls, and other mishaps. In short, home safety. 

This article was inspired by a shower in a rental we managed that began leaking through the kitchen ceiling below. If only the landlord had installed grab bars, right!? Below, we’ll guide you through the steps to fortify your bathroom, making it a place of relaxation without the fear of slips and falls. Then, we’ll venture into the room where the magic happens, where proper planning can ensure great nights and peaceful mornings. We’ll show you how to prevent accidents while you experiment becoming the next Gordon Ramsey. And weā€™ll include a few surprising solutions for those other rooms that hold their own unique hazards, offering solutions to safeguard against unexpected mishaps.

Bathroom Safety

Install Grab Bars: Adding grab bars near the shower and toilet can provide essential support for family members of all ages. Not only can they help with getting in and out, but they can help provide stability when washing. Make sure they are securely anchored to the wall.

Non-Slip Mats: Place non-slip mats inside the shower and bathtub to prevent slips. They’re a small investment that can save you from falls and head injuries.

Adjust Water Temperature:  Ensure your hot water is set to a safe temperature to avoid scalding. The hot water heater should be set to around 120Ā°F (49Ā°C)l, the middle setting on many water heater settings. 

Medicine Cabinet Locks: If you have young children, use childproof locks on your medicine cabinet to keep harmful substances out of reach.

Proper Lighting: Ensure there’s adequate lighting in the bathroom to avoid trips and falls during nighttime visits. Nightlights can be a simple and effective solution. 

Bedroom Safety

Clear Pathways: Keep pathways in the bedroom clutter free to prevent tripping. Ensure there’s enough space to move around comfortably, particularly getting around the bed.  Be aware where all furniture is when walking around to avoid stubbed toes, particularly at night.

Secure Rugs: If you have throw rugs, use rug grippers or double-sided tape to keep them from slipping. Loose rugs are a common trip hazard. 

Bed Rails: For anyone at risk of falling out of bed, consider installing bed rails to provide extra support and prevent falls.

Nightstands with Drawers: Opt for nightstands with drawers to keep essential items.  This reduces the need to get out of bed at night, minimizing the risk of falls, as you race to grab what you need and not lose a momentā€™s rest.

Fire Safety: Install battery-operated smoke detectors in the bedrooms if there are none. Make sure to install them 36 inches away from an air vent or the edge of a ceiling fan.  Also six inches away from the joint between the wall and ceiling.  And test smoke detectors regularly.

Kitchen Safety

Non-Slip Flooring: Choose slip-resistant rugs in the kitchen, especially in areas where spills are common. Mats near the sink and stove can also help and you can often buy them fairly cheaply at Costco.

Childproof Cabinets: If you have little ones, use childproof latches on cabinets and drawers to prevent them from accessing potentially hazardous items.

Anti-tip brackets: Install an anti-tip bracket behind the range. These are often used when children are in the home. Although they are less likely to open the oven door and use it as a step stool to get to the stove-top, adults can also benefit from installing these. 

Adequate Lighting: Proper lighting is crucial in the kitchen to avoid accidents. Under-cabinet lighting can illuminate work areas effectively.

Secure Heavy Items: Ensure heavy pots and pans are stored at waist level to prevent straining or dropping them from high shelves.

Sharp Object Storage: Keep knives and other sharp objects in a secure drawer or block. And handle all sharp items with extreme care, even when washing and drying. These steps reduce the risk of accidental cuts.  

Other Safety Tips

Furniture Anchors: Secure heavy furniture, like bookshelves and dressers, to the wall to prevent tip-overs, especially if you have young children.

Adequate Outlets: Check for damaged outlets and replace them promptly. Avoid overloading circuits with too many devices. Install placeholder plugs in outlets to prevent young curious fingers (or tongues?) from going inside an electrical outlet.

Stair Gates: If your home has stairs, install safety gates at the top and bottom to prevent falls, especially if you have toddlers or pets to keep them off of the stairs when you cannot monitor them.

Emergency Escape Plan: Develop and practice an emergency escape plan with your family, including a designated meeting place outside.

Carbon Monoxide Detector:  If your home burns any fossil fuels for heating or appliances, install carbon monoxide detectors in common areas of your home to detect this odorless gas. The D.C. building codes require this if you use a fireplace or if you have an attached garage. In essence, if there is any potential source of carbon monoxide in the home, be sure to install these detectors.

Remember, a safer home not only prevents accidents but also provides peace of mind for you and your family. Implement these simple tips to create a secure environment in every room of your house.

With these practical tips and a few adjustments, you can significantly reduce the risk of injuries and falls in your home. Enjoy peace of mind in your now much safer haven.

Scott Bloom is owner and senior property manager of Columbia Property Management.

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Lizzo makes $50K donation to Marsha P. Johnson Institute

Singer is vocal LGBTQ ally

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When Lizzo sings “If I’m shinin,’ everybody gonna shine,ā€ in her hit song, “Juice,” she means it. Proof of that came this week on Instagram when the LGBTQ ally announced the first winner of her annual Juneteenth Giveback Campaign is the Marsha P. Johnson Institute, a national nonprofit based in Richmond, Calif., dedicated to the protection and defense of Black transgender people. 

And she did so in song: ā€œOn the first day of Juneteenth, Lizzo gave to me,ā€ she sang in her video, posted Tuesday, as she revealed her $50,000 gift to MPJI.

ā€œThatā€™s right, we know who Marsha P. Johnson is. We know what Marsha P. Johnson has done for the LGBTQ, emphasis on that ā€˜T,ā€™ Q community,ā€ said Lizzo to her 13.5 million followers. ā€œThank you so much to the people at the Marsha P. Johnson Institute. You deserve this, and I hope this helps you so much as you help protect our Black trans family.ā€ 

ā€œWhat the Marsha P. Johnson Institute does is protects and defends the rights of Black transgender people. They do this by organizing community, advocating for the people, and creating an intentional healing community, developing transformative leadership and promoting collective power,ā€ she said. 

ā€œWe are overjoyed for the shoutout from Lizzo today, the generosity of her sharing her platform and the recognition of MPJI and its work,ā€ said Elle Moxley, MPJIā€™s executive director. ā€œThe resources from this campaign will ensure the protection and defense of Black transgender people continue at a time where it is so vitally needed. We are so grateful for the support of Lizzo and her fans.ā€

As one of Time Magazineā€™s Persons of the Year for 2019 and a 2023 Grammy winner, Lizzo is more than a pop star but an inspiration to millions of fans for her body-positive attitude, her self-confidence on stage and in her videos, her empowering music and her activism. Sheā€™s also the founder of her own clothing line, Yitty. In 2021, she made headlines when she publicly corrected a paparazzo for using ā€œshe/herā€ pronouns and misgendering Demi Levato.

As part of her campaign, now in its 4th year, Lizzo recognizes Black-led grassroots organizations and businesses and encourages her fans to join her in supporting each of the five organizations she highlights this week. Fans who take action by donating are  entered into a drawing for an all-expenses paid trip to see her perform at Fuji Rock in Japan later this year. 

This weekā€™s other nonprofits receiving gifts are: Black Girls Smile, Sphinx Music, the University of Houston and Save Our Sisters United.

Find out more about Lizzoā€™s 4th annual Juneteenth Giveback Campaign by clicking here.

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