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New Out & Equal CEO says LGBT parents face various workplace challenges

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Erin Uritus says many factors affect being out as a gay parent in the work place. (Photo courtesy Out & Equal))

As a mom, Erin Uritus, the new, D.C.-based CEO of Out & Equal Workplace Advocates, knows first-hand how important it is for companies to support their queer parent employees in starting families and finding work-life balance.

Uritus comes to Out & Equal, the leading worldwide nonprofit dedicated to LGBT workplace equality, after senior positions at management consulting firm Booz Allen Hamilton and the education nonprofit International School Services. She also spent several years in the Middle East, where she supported a major government in restructuring and modernizing during the Arab Spring.

Uritus first became involved with Out & Equal as the leader of the LGBT employee resource groupĀ  at Booz Allen, which sent her to the organizationā€™s annual summit in 2002. She later joined the Out & Equal board, co-founded its chapter in Washington and co-chaired its summit here in 2007.

In the Middle East, however, Uritus, who identifies as bisexual, met and married her now ex-husband, and they had two girls. She and the girls moved back to D.C. just a few months before Donald Trump was elected president, a move that brought both concern and joy. As the mother of Arab-American children notes her biography at the Out & Equal site, she stood with them in front of a police barricade at Trump Tower to protest the presidentā€™s first attempted Muslim ban, but also found delight in bringing them to the D.C. Pride celebration.

Although she shares custody, her ex-husband is living and working overseas, ā€œso for all intents and purposes Iā€™m a single mom,ā€ she said in a phone interview shortly after she started as CEO in January. She appreciates connecting with other parents.

Her vision for Out & Equal encompasses the idea of community. The organizationā€™s focus, she says, ā€œis all workplace issues and making sure that individuals in the community and our families are protected. Moving forward, we are really going to plug in to peopleā€™s stories and experiences.ā€

That includes the experiences of parents.

ā€œMore and more LGBTQ people are having families, and I think people donā€™t often understand what an impact that has, not in theory but on your everyday life,ā€ she says.

Uritas has felt the everyday tension of work-family balance herself. In a previous job, she worked from a home office.

ā€œI sometimes I felt I had to hide my identity about being a single mom. Depending on who I was talking to, I might not mention that, ā€˜Oh, I have to run out to pick the kids up from school.ā€™ā€

Itā€™s a ā€œconstant struggle,ā€ she says, for both single and partnered parents. Alleviating that struggle, she says, gets back to the idea of telling our stories.

ā€œIf we find the courage to share our stories, we are going to connect with people who may look different or have different family situations, but where we can find commonality,ā€ she says. This can lead to building community and sharing resources, which can provide not only emotional support, but also ā€œtips and tricksā€ on managing specific challenges.

But Out & Equalā€™s work goes beyond networking and storytelling. Just as many corporations led the way in offering benefits to same-sex couples before marriage equality became law, Uritus feels that companies can pick up some of the slack as the current federal administration threatens LGBT progress.

ā€œTo leverage corporate ties and best practices and supporting companies to do the right thing, thatā€™s really at the heart of what we do. I want change to be sustained over the long haul, so we want to work all the angles.ā€

Among other things, she hopes to showcase the corporate leaders who are helping LGBT parents to ā€œbe happy and fulfilled employees as well as parents.ā€ She explained that doing so ā€œincentivizes and recognizesā€ companiesā€™ actions so that others can follow their example.ā€

And Out & Equal is addressing challenges right at the heart of the federal government as well. After the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services announced in January that it would be forming a new Conscience and Religious Freedom Division, widely seen as a pathway for LGBT discrimination, Uritus released an open letter to federal agency employees telling them, ā€œWe have your back. We understand the important role (employee resource group) leaders play in federal agencies. You are often the front-line force against efforts to erase our identities, marginalize our contributions and undermine our progress toward equality.ā€

Uritus invited them to take part in her ā€œlistening tourā€ of in-person and virtual meetings and an online survey, offering feedback on how Out & Equal can better assist them.

Other initiatives for the organization include expanding support for global diversity leaders, especially young ones, once again connecting people across communities.

ā€œCertain political realities and cultural contexts are really different depending on the region and country,ā€ she says, ā€œbut sometimes in managing change there are commonalities and best practices that you can draw upon that cross-cut any country.ā€

Itā€™s a big agenda, but Uritus seems undaunted.

ā€œI think parenthood and being a cocktail waitress in college is the best preparation for everything. I highly recommend it on both fronts.ā€

 

Dana Rudolph is the founder and publisher of Mombian, a GLAAD Media Award-winning blog and resource directory for LGBT parents.

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Queer TV anchors in Md. use their platform ā€˜to fight for whatā€™s rightā€™

Salisburyā€™s Hannah Cechini, Rob Petree are out and proud in Delmarva

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Hannah Cechini and Rob Petree anchor the 5:30 p.m. newscast at WMDT 47, the ABC affiliate in Salisbury, Md. (Photo courtesy WMDT)

Identity can be a tricky thing for journalists to navigate. The goal of the job is to inform the public with no bias, but this is difficult, if not impossible, to do in practice. Everything from your upbringing to the books you read can impact how you view and cover the world. But sometimes these factors can help shine a light on an underrepresented community or issue.  

Two broadcast journalists in Salisbury, Md., are using the subtle, yet impactful choice of sharing their queer identities to strengthen their reporting and connection to the community. 

Hannah Cechini, who is non-binary, and Rob Petree, who is gay, co-host the 5:30-6:30 p.m. newscast for WMDT 47. They are the only known anchor team that are not only both queer, but also open out about their identities on air and, as Petree put it, ā€œalways use [their] platform and power that [we] have to fight for what’s right.ā€

Cechiniā€™s passion for journalism played an important role in the discovery of their gender identity. They knew they were meant to be in the newsroom before they figured out they were non-binary.

ā€œI was doing this job before I started to identify as non-binary,ā€ Cechini told the Blade. ā€œI’d always watch the evening news with my dad growing up and thought it was the coolest thing. And throughout high school, I worked on the school paper.ā€

After graduating from Suffolk University in Boston, Cechiniā€™s passion for journalism only grew as they began to work in the world of news media, eventually ending up in Salisbury. As they honed their writing, editing, and anchoring skills at WMDT, Cechini also started to take an introspective look into their gender identity.

A little more than two years ago Cechini came out as non-binary to their coworkers in the newsroom and was met with support all around. ā€œIt was definitely smoother than I anticipated,ā€ they said.

ā€œIt is very freeing to be able to do this job as a non-binary person because I haven’t really seen much of that representation myself.ā€ 

Petree, on the other hand, knew he was gay right around the same time he became interested in news media, at age 14. He started working for his high school news show and used it as a way to be open about his sexuality rather than hide it. 

ā€œI broke into broadcasting doing the morning announcements,ā€ he said. ā€œI did the weather and started doing a segment called issues and insights,ā€ Petree said, explaining his introduction to the news. Eventually, students would ask him questions about his sexuality after seeing him on the school TV. ā€œIt had gotten to the point in school, that if you’re going to come up and ask me if I’m gay, well shit, I’m going to tell you!ā€

To him, this was the exact reason he had come out. Petree wanted to motivate others to live honestly. 

ā€œThere are a lot of people who will spend most of their lives not being out so if they can see someone like me, who’s out and proud doing his thing, so to speak, then maybe that’s the inspiration for them,ā€ Petree said. ā€œTo search their own soul, find out who they are, and live their full life.ā€

Petree explained that he got his start in a space that was not always welcoming to his queerness. This tested the delicate balance between being a journalist and holding your identity close.

ā€œI’ve always been out and it was a challenge because I got my start in conservative talk radio,ā€ Petree said. ā€œI’m going to be honest, some of the things I heard from people I’ve worked with, from the callers to the radio stations were absolutely abhorrent. But I never let it discourage me. It made me work that much harder.ā€ 

Cechini highlighted the same sentiment when explaining why itā€™s important to have out LGBTQ figures in news media. They want to show everyone that it is possible to be openly queer and successful.

ā€œI just think that representation matters because if ā€˜Joe,ā€™ who’s never seen a transgender person before, sees a transgender person or a non-binary person, doing a job that they’ve only ever seen straight cis people doing before, it kind of creates that understanding or bridges that gap,ā€ Cechini said. ā€œIt’s like, ā€˜OK, maybe they’re not that different from me.ā€™ And that facilitates being able to connect among different communities.ā€

Both Cechini and Petree agree that having a queer coworker has made their bond stronger. 

 ā€œIt’s great to have someone else next to me who I can relate to and work alongside,ā€ Petree said. ā€œAnd they’re a joy to work with, they really are. There is a tremendous amount of things that we relate to together ā€” like we both share and have the same affinity for Lady Gaga,ā€ he said laughing. ā€œAlthough they’re more of a Lady Gaga fan than I am.ā€

ā€œHannah is a tremendous journalist who really goes out of their way to make sure that the stories that they do are on point 100% of the time,ā€ he added. ā€œThey’ve been great to work with and to learn from and to grow alongside. I’m very happy to have them as my co-anchor.ā€

Cechini explained that the relationship between two co-anchors can make or break a newscast, and having Petree as their partner on air is a major part of the showā€™s success.

ā€œCo-anchoring is not just the relationship that you have on camera,ā€ Cechini said. ā€œIt’s really, really important to have a good relationship with your co-anchor off-camera as well because you have to have a level of trust between you.ā€

Cechini continued, saying that this relationship is crucial to working together, especially when things donā€™t go as planned. 

ā€œNot everything always goes to script,ā€ they said. ā€œSometimes you have to be able to work together without even really talking to each other and just kind of know what to do. When you have a relationship like that with someone who identifies similarly to you or has had similar life experience, I think that just only strengthens that [relationship].ā€

Although they have had similar experiences being from the LGBTQ community, Petree said it was a change for him to use ā€œthey/themā€ pronouns on air.

ā€œPrior to working with Hannah, I’ve never worked with a non-binary individual who went by the pronouns ā€˜they/them,ā€™ā€ Petree said. ā€œIt was new for me to not use traditional pronouns on air, but I can say that I have never misgendered them on air and never will. You get conditioned to using traditional pronouns and it’s easy to make that mistake, but I never have.ā€

At the end of the day, they both explained, it is about doing the job right. For the duo, a part of that is understanding the diversity of people and issues in the community. 

ā€œWhen you come from a more marginalized community, I think that kind of helps to inform you a little better as a journalist because you have a better understanding of what it’s like to be ā€˜the other guy,ā€™ā€ Cechini said.

ā€œOur talent and our drive for journalism speaks for itself,ā€ Petree said. ā€œAnd that resonates with people. Have we shown ourselves to be an inspiration to the LGBTQ+ community here in Delmarva? Yes, we have. And that’s something that I’m proud of.ā€

The primetime nightly newscast with Hannah Cechini and Rob Petree airs weeknights from 5:30-6:30 p.m. on ABC affiliate WMDT 47.

From left, Rob Petree and Hannah Cechini. (Photo courtesy of WMDT)
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ā€˜Queering Rehoboth Beachā€™ features love, loss, murder, and more

An interview with gay writer and historian James T. Sears

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'Queering Rehoboth Beach' book cover. (Image courtesy of Temple University Press)

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When it comes to LGBTQ summer destinations in the Eastern time zone, almost everyone knows about Provincetown, Mass., Fire Island, N.Y., and Key West, Fla. There are also slightly lesser known, but no less wonderful places, such as Ogunquit, Maine, Saugatuck, Mich., and New Hope, Pa. Sandwiched in between is Rehoboth Beach, Del., a location that is popular with queer folks from D.C., Maryland, Virginia, Pennsylvania, and New Jersey. The dramatic and inspiring story of how Rehoboth Beach came to be what it is today can be found in gay historian James T. Searsā€™s revealing new book ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beach: Beyond the Boardwalkā€ (Temple University Press, 2024). As educational as it is dishy, ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ provides readers with everything they need to know (and possibly didnā€™t realize they needed to know) about this fabulous locality. Sears was kind enough to make time to answer a few questions about the book.

WASHINGTON BLADE: James, itā€™s been a few years since Iā€™ve interviewed you. The last time was in 1997 about your book ā€œFrom Lonely Hunters to Lonely Hearts: An Oral History of Lesbian and Gay Southern Life.ā€ At the time, you were living in Columbia, S.C. Where are you currently based, and how long have you been there?

JAMES T. SEARS: It has been great reconnecting with you. After that book, we moved to Charleston, S.C. There I wrote several more books. One was about the Mattachine group, focusing on one largely misunderstood leader, Hal Call. Another book shared reminisces of a 90-year-old gentleman, the late John Zeigler, interweaving his diaries, letters, and poetry to chronicle growing up gay in the South at the turn of the last century. From there I moved to Central America where I chronicled everyday queer life and learned Spanish. We returned several years ago and then washed up on Rehoboth Beach.

BLADE: In the introduction to your new book ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beach: Beyond the Boardwalkā€ (Temple University Press, 2024), you write about how a ā€œrestaurant incidentā€ in Rehoboth, which you describe in detail in the prologue, became a kind of inspiration for the book project. Please say something about how as a historian, the personal can also be political and motivational.

SEARS: I want to capture readerā€™s interest by personalizing this book more than I have others. The restaurant anecdote is the bookā€™s backstory. It explains, in part, my motivation for writing it, and more crucially, introduces one meaning of ā€œqueering Rehoboth.ā€ That is, in order to judge this ā€œincidentā€ā€”and the book itselfā€”we need to engage in multiple readings of history, or at least be comfortable with this approach. I underscore that what is accepted as ā€œhistoryā€ā€”about an individual, a community, or a societyā€”is simply a reflection of that eraā€™s accepted view. Queering history challenges that consensus.

BLADE: Who do you see as the target audience for ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beach?ā€

SEARS: Well, certainly if you have been to Rehoboth or reside there, this book provides a history of the townā€”and its queeringā€”giving details that I doubt even locals know! Also, for those interested in the evolution of other East Coast queer resorts (Ptown, Fire Island, Key West) this book adds to that set of histories. My book will also be of interest to students of social change and community organizing. Most importantly, though, it is just a good summer read.

BLADE: ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ features numerous interviews. What was involved in the selection process of interview subjects?

SEARS: I interviewed dozens of people. They are listed in the book as the ā€œCast of Narrators.ā€ Before these interviews, I engaged in a systematic review of local and state newspapers, going back to Rehobothā€™s founding as a Methodist Church Camp in 1873. I also read anecdotal stories penned by lesbians and gay men. These appeared in local or regional queer publications, such as Letters from CAMP Rehoboth and the Washington Blade. Within a year, I had compiled a list of key individuals to interview. However, I also interviewed lesbians, gay men, transgender individuals, and heterosexuals who lived or worked in Rehoboth sometime during the bookā€™s main timeframe (1970s-2000s). I sought diversity in background and perspective. To facilitate their memories, I provided a set of questions before we met. I often had photos, letters, or other memorabilia to prime their memories during our conversation. 

BLADE: Under the heading of the more things change, the more they stay the same, the act of making homosexuality an issue in politics continues to this day. What do you think it will take for that to change?

SEARS: You pose a key question. Those who effectuated change in Rehoboth ā€” queers and progressive straights ā€” sought common ground. Their goal was to integrate into the town. As such, rather than primarily focus on sexual and gender differences, they stressed values held in common. Rather than proselytize or agitate, they opened up businesses, restored houses, joined houses of worship, and engaged in the townā€™s civic life. 

To foster and sustain change, however, those in power and those who supported them also had to have a willingness to listen, to bracket their presuppositions, and to engage in genuine dialogue. Violent incidents, especially one on the boardwalk, and the multi-year imbroglio of The Strand nightclub, gradually caused people to seek common ground.

That did not, however, come without its costs. For some ā€” long separated from straight society ā€” and for others ā€” unchallenged in their heteronormativity ā€” it was too great of a cost to bear. Further, minorities within the queer ā€œcommunity,ā€ such as people of color, those with limited income, and transgender individuals, never entered or were never invited into this enlarging public square.

The troubles chronicled in my book occurred during the era of the ā€œMoral Majorityā€ and ā€œGay Cancer.ā€ Nevertheless, it didnā€™t approach the degree of polarization, acrimony, fake news, and demagoguery of today. So, whether this approach would even be viable as a strategy for social change is debatable.

BLADE: In recent years, there has been a proliferation of books about LGBTQ bars, a subject that is prominent in ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beach.ā€ Was this something of which you were aware while writing the book, and how do you see your bookā€™s place on the shelf alongside these other books?

SEARS: Queering heterosexual space has been a survival strategy for generations of queer folks. These spaces ā€” under-used softball fields, desolate beaches, darkened parks, and out-of-the-way bars ā€” are detailed in many LGBTQ+ books, from the classic, ā€œBoots of Leather, Slippers of Gold,ā€ to the recently published ā€œA Place of Our Ownā€ and ā€œThe Bars Are Ours.ā€ Of course, these spaces did not encompass the kaleidoscope of queer life, but they provide us a historical gateway into various segments of a queer community and culture.

This was certainly true for my book. Unsurprisingly, until The Strand controversy, which began in 1988, all of Rehobothā€™s queer bars were beyond the town limits. There were, however, homosexual watering holes in the liminal sexual space. For instance, you had the Pink Pony on the boardwalk during the 1950s and the Back Porch CafĆ© during the 1970s. So, in this sense, I think ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ fits well in this ever-enlarging canon of queer history.

BLADE: As one of the most pro-LGBTQ presidents in U.S. history, how much, if it all, did the Biden Delaware connection have to do with your desire to write ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beach?ā€

SEARS: It is just a coincidence. Interestingly, as I was researching this book, I came across a 1973 news story about Sen. Joe Biden speaking at a civic association meeting. One of the 30 or so residents attending was James Robert Vane. The paper reported the senator being ā€œstartledā€ when Vane questioned him about the ban on homosexuals serving in the U.S. civil service and military. Uttering the familiar trope about being ā€œsecurity risks,ā€ he then added, ā€œI admit I havenā€™t given it much thought.ā€ In Bidenesque manner, he paused and then exclaimed, ā€œIā€™ll be darned!ā€

Biden was a frequent diner at the Back Porch CafĆ©, often using the restaurantā€™s kitchen phone for political calls. Like the progressives I spoke about earlier, he had lived in a heteronormative bubbleā€”a Catholic one at that! Yet, like many in Rehoboth, he eventually changed his view, strongly advocating for queer rights as Vice President during the Obama administration.

BLADE: How do you think Rehoboth residents will respond to your depiction of their town?

SEARS: Well, if recent events are predictive of future ones, then I think it will be generally positive. My first book signing at the locally owned bookstore resulted in it selling out. The manager did tell me that a gentleman stepped to the counter asking, ā€œWhy is this queer book here?ā€ā€” pointing to the front table of ā€œBeach Reads.ā€ That singular objection notwithstanding, his plan is to keep multiple boxes in stock throughout the summer.

BLADE: Over the years, many non-fiction and fiction books have been written about places such as Provincetown, Fire Island, and Key West. Is it your hope that more books will be written about Rehoboth Beach?

SEARS: My hope is that writers and researchers continue to queer our stories. Focusing on persons, events, and communities, particularly micro-histories, provides a richer narrative of queer lives. It also allows us to queer the first generation of macro-histories which too often glossed over everyday activists. So, as the saying goes, let a thousand flowers bloom.

BLADE: Do you think that ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ would make for a good documentary film subject?

SEARS: Absolutely, although probably not on the Hallmark Channel [laughs]! It would make an incredible film ā€” a documentary or a drama ā€” even a mini-series. Because it focuses on people: their lives and dreams, their long-running feuds and abbreviated love affairs, their darker secrets, and lighter moments within a larger context of the countryā€™s social transformation. ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ details the townā€™s first gay murder, the transformation of a once homophobic mayor, burned-out bars, and vigilante assaults on queers, the octogenarian lesbian couple, living for decades in Rehoboth never speaking the ā€œL word,ā€ who die within months of one another. It, too, is a story of how the sinewy arms of Jim Crow affected white Rehoboth ā€” gay and straight. In short, ā€œQueering Rehoboth Beachā€ is about a small beach town, transformed generation over generation like shifting sands yet retaining undercurrents of what are the best and worst in American life and culture.

BLADE: Have you started thinking about or working on your next book?

SEARS: The manuscript for this book was submitted to the publisher more than a year ago. During that time, Iā€™ve been working on my first book of fiction. It is a queer novel set in early nineteenth century Wales against the backdrop of the Napoleonic wars and industrialization. I want to transport the reader into an era before the construction of homosexuality and at the inception of the womenā€™s movement. How does one make meaning of sexual feelings toward the same gender or about being in the wrong gender? In the process of this murder mystery, I integrate Celtic culture and mythology and interrogate how todayā€™s choices and those we made in the past (and in past lives) affect our future and those of others.

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D.C. Latinx Pride seeks to help heal the community

Much history lost to generations of colonialism

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The Latinx History Project will host its 18th annual Latinx Pride with a series of 11 events this year.

Latinx History Project, or LHP, was founded in 2000 to collect, preserve and share Latinx LGBTQ+ History. Six years later, they began hosting DC Latinx Pride.  

Board member Dee Tum-Monge said organizers saw a need for the event that centered Latinx community members. 

“LHP knows our queer history as Latinx folks has most often been lost to generations of colonialism and imperialism,ā€ they said. ā€œWhich is why we focus on documenting and highlighting the impact our community has in D.C. and beyond.ā€

According to UCLA School of Law, there are more than two million Latinx LGBTQ adults that live in the U.S.

ā€œEvents specifically for the Latinx community are important not only to make our experience visible but also to create spaces where we can grow closer with other groups and each other,ā€ said Tum-Monge.

This year they kicked off DC Latinx Pride with a crowning ceremony for their royal court on May 31. 

Their three-part series, ā€œLa SanaciĆ³nā€, is underway with part two planned for June 16. 

ā€œSanaciĆ³n in Spanish means ā€˜healingā€™ which is a big part of what we want to bring to Pride,ā€ said Tum-Monge. ā€œOur communities go through a lot of trauma and hate, but we know thereā€™s more to us. Our goal is to foster connection with ourselves, nature, community, and spirituality.ā€

In conjunction with the series there is a slate of other events; tickets can be purchased at latinxhistoryproject.org/pride.

In addition, Latinx Pride will march in the Capital Pride Parade on Saturday and participate in the festival on Sunday. To stay involved with Latinx History Project after Pride and hear more about future events visit latinxhistoryproject.org.

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